I'm sorry to be blunt, but you don't. You don't get to not hurt his feelings here, that's just not an option.
If you turn him down, it will hurt his feelings. It will change your relationship. It may lead to a breakup, but will absolutely lead to a conversation about what your timeline does look like. And you need to be ready to answer that, with a concrete timeline, if you intend to continue dating him, or even having a long engagement.
Unfortunately, there's no way to have this conversation and go back to how things were before the proposal happened, there's just not. You need to accept that, and do it anyway. Sometimes, to do what's right for yourself, you have to be the bad guy in someone else's story.
You know three girls who stopped having periods and then lied to their boyfriends and said they had one recently, and then hid their bellies from the boyfriends?
People with addictions don’t have limits. He may very well cheat due to a lack of impulse control which he is demonstrating perfectly by jacking off at work. He has no self control. ADDICTS HAVE NO SELF CONTROL.
It's just the ultimate fix for the dopamine addicted.
We're going to see major ramifications from a series of generations suffering from being unable to deal with even a moment of boredom.
And the hardest hit are young adults: RIGHT when they should be knuckling down and finding new ways of bettering their careers and life situations, they're blowing it by staring at their phone. They go to the park, stare at their phone. They go on a bus ride and stare at their phone. They go on fucking vacation, and they stare at their phone. Everything has to be fed constantly to these brains, even if it's one youtube short after another without porn. Porn just makes it 100x worse.
Then with the inevitable disenfranchisement they feel, they start to blame society and gripe on-line about how the system is rigged, and online they're always in the most perfect of echo-chambers. Everyone else saying not to feel bad about their situation because it must be some billionaire's fault. And so their plight continues.
Also it’s not just “guys have sex drives” – it varies from person to person! There are men that feel like you do and I feel exactly how your bf does as a woman!
I'm sorry to be blunt, but you don't. You don't get to not hurt his feelings here, that's just not an option.
If you turn him down, it will hurt his feelings. It will change your relationship. It may lead to a breakup, but will absolutely lead to a conversation about what your timeline does look like. And you need to be ready to answer that, with a concrete timeline, if you intend to continue dating him, or even having a long engagement.
Unfortunately, there's no way to have this conversation and go back to how things were before the proposal happened, there's just not. You need to accept that, and do it anyway. Sometimes, to do what's right for yourself, you have to be the bad guy in someone else's story.
i try to be nice and i am a genuine friend but shes just kinda rude tbh. we all have trama but idk man
You know three girls who stopped having periods and then lied to their boyfriends and said they had one recently, and then hid their bellies from the boyfriends?
People with addictions don’t have limits. He may very well cheat due to a lack of impulse control which he is demonstrating perfectly by jacking off at work. He has no self control. ADDICTS HAVE NO SELF CONTROL.
It's just the ultimate fix for the dopamine addicted.
We're going to see major ramifications from a series of generations suffering from being unable to deal with even a moment of boredom.
And the hardest hit are young adults: RIGHT when they should be knuckling down and finding new ways of bettering their careers and life situations, they're blowing it by staring at their phone. They go to the park, stare at their phone. They go on a bus ride and stare at their phone. They go on fucking vacation, and they stare at their phone. Everything has to be fed constantly to these brains, even if it's one youtube short after another without porn. Porn just makes it 100x worse.
Then with the inevitable disenfranchisement they feel, they start to blame society and gripe on-line about how the system is rigged, and online they're always in the most perfect of echo-chambers. Everyone else saying not to feel bad about their situation because it must be some billionaire's fault. And so their plight continues.
Marital rape is very much a thing. Please, get out safely.
why do you keep thinking you could just offer your dick to someone and they'd accept when you have no redeeming quality?
Also it’s not just “guys have sex drives” – it varies from person to person! There are men that feel like you do and I feel exactly how your bf does as a woman!