I would personally tell him that he can either commit to you for real or you're going to end the relationship and find someone who does. Only if you're actually willing to follow through with that, though. It's time for him to decide if it's more important to him to be stubborn or to be with you.
Why you guys can’t read the whole situation, if it was only those he would have been ok. But she hoards sugars, some silica shit and probably more things. It become weirder.
You can do a bachelorette party, no one is stopping you. The only thing you can’t do is drink alcohol. It sounds like alcohol is too big of a part of both your lives, and you’re jealous that he can still drink.
If alcohol is such a big part of your life that you can’t have a bachelorette party unless you can drink, that’s very concerning. However, if that’s the case, plan one for after you’ve had the baby.
If you’re having trouble staying sober if he’s drinking around you, that’s a separate issue. Staying sober needs to be the top priority, so get help if you need it.
My (23F) boyfriend of 7 years came clean about having cheated on me three times during the course of our relationship. The first time was one year in.
I know what you’re going through and the pain, anger, sadness and bewilderment you must be feeling.
It’s been almost a year since I found out and there’s still moments where I feel incredibly angry or sad or hopeless. But I do know that you and I both deserve a whole lot better than this bullshit.
Men who don't want children can do something about it (yes, birth control is an option for both men and women, and the main option for men may not feel awesome in the moment but doesn't cause any significant long term health side effects). Even if the options fail men don't have to go through the trauma of an unwanted 9 month pregnancy followed by unwanted birth. It's much much tougher shit for women and I'm not sure why you think it's so bad for men? Raising or paying child support for an unwanted child is bad for anyone regardless of gender, plus not great for the child to be unwanted.
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I would personally tell him that he can either commit to you for real or you're going to end the relationship and find someone who does. Only if you're actually willing to follow through with that, though. It's time for him to decide if it's more important to him to be stubborn or to be with you.
Why you guys can’t read the whole situation, if it was only those he would have been ok. But she hoards sugars, some silica shit and probably more things. It become weirder.
That’s the truly shitty part
Saviour complex.
This is an almost quintessential story of someone believing an obvious lie because he wants to.
A hoe is only good at doing one thing, being a hoe.
You can do a bachelorette party, no one is stopping you. The only thing you can’t do is drink alcohol. It sounds like alcohol is too big of a part of both your lives, and you’re jealous that he can still drink.
If alcohol is such a big part of your life that you can’t have a bachelorette party unless you can drink, that’s very concerning. However, if that’s the case, plan one for after you’ve had the baby.
If you’re having trouble staying sober if he’s drinking around you, that’s a separate issue. Staying sober needs to be the top priority, so get help if you need it.
The same thing happened to me last year!
My (23F) boyfriend of 7 years came clean about having cheated on me three times during the course of our relationship. The first time was one year in.
I know what you’re going through and the pain, anger, sadness and bewilderment you must be feeling.
It’s been almost a year since I found out and there’s still moments where I feel incredibly angry or sad or hopeless. But I do know that you and I both deserve a whole lot better than this bullshit.
It’s funny how these people make these posts, then when the community asks for context to help them provide insightful advice, OP disappears.
Men who don't want children can do something about it (yes, birth control is an option for both men and women, and the main option for men may not feel awesome in the moment but doesn't cause any significant long term health side effects). Even if the options fail men don't have to go through the trauma of an unwanted 9 month pregnancy followed by unwanted birth. It's much much tougher shit for women and I'm not sure why you think it's so bad for men? Raising or paying child support for an unwanted child is bad for anyone regardless of gender, plus not great for the child to be unwanted.
It’s been 4.5 years! Dump him and run!