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Sloppy Blowjob + Handjob At Goal , ⭐Special Tips 22-33-44 ⭐ [Multi Goal]
Date: October 17, 2022
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Sloppy Blowjob + Handjob At Goal , ⭐Special Tips 22-33-44 ⭐ [Multi Goal]
She cheated on him in the past and she wants a threesome with another man check bis post history
Sit down and talk to him.
You just started dating. When someone gives you a giant red flag like this you just stop break it off and tell him you realized quickly you guys have different values.
Oh, of course not. The analogy is a bit on the harsh side, I'll admit, but I think that it was more appropriate than the book one.
At the end of the day, I am a stranger on the internet. For whatever little that's worth, I'll just say that while it's great to support your partner's choice, I honestly think you could be a stronger advocate for him since people in their situation tend to judge those things with a somewhat wonky calibration from years of accepting that they get treated as the inferior.
Whatever you both decide, I hope it works out for the both of you.
Your boyfriend’s mom might not have known that you bought it with your own money.
Yeah I get this now and realised I fucked up. Don't know how this will work going forward. Thank you for your advice though.
He doesnt become upset, but he is definitely someone who cannot function without structure. He works two jobs so his schedule is constantly filled and when we were still in highschool the teachers he did best with were the super strict no BS type. Without a strict schedule he has a hot time going out of his way to complete tasks outside of his intrests
Woah…….red flag. You either leave or stay. If you stay, don’t come on here complaining about him later. Ignore that major red flag if you want to.
Ugh that stinks. It's always rough when this happens. And sometimes it just happens. If you want more than friendship. Walk away now. You can't win him. I spent years of my life trying to get a guy and I finally did get him and it fizzled out soon after. Cause In. The end. He still wanted friendship. Instead of a relationship. If he sees you as a friend. That's what you are to him he still wants to play the field and see what else is out there. If that's not what you want. Save yourself some time, energy and grief.
They'll fall asleep eventually.
Don't offer her nothing ever from now.
Thank you 🙂 I agree
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It’s still a fair question to ask. How he treats you and how he treats service people are separate issues, and he should be be generous in both situations.
He said that they’re more than friends and that he could potentially see a relationship with this person. I find this a little offensive as we both said we wanted to take a break from relationships in general, he was the one who said that he wanted to take a year off and I agreed because I didn’t see myself being in a relationship anytime soon.
Why would you expect an invitation to your SO’s party non specific themed/gendered party that was mentions to a group chat? Aren’t you automatically invited? If not, then this relationship won’t last. But it also won’t last because you 2 seem incompatible.
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What would you say to a friend in the situation? Break up with him, you deserve way better
Devil's advocate here
One thing to consider is her personal history. By the sounds of it she has a nude time communicating very personal issues.
However, sometimes people have traumatic responses to affection when they have experienced abuse at an earlier time in their life.
I certainly can't say if this was a factor in your experience, but it is more common than you think sadly. If this is the case she will need to learn to communicate her needs to her future partners.
A more experienced partner might know who to do this properly, but less experienced people can and should learn this too, so perhaps there's not a need to find experience partners so much as there is a need to communicate well, with trust
Second this. Wife’s stonewalling isn’t right and her ultimatum is unfair but there has to be more to it. This sounds very much like the classic situation that broke the camels back.
OP the only thing what will resolve this and other issues from repeating is talking. I personally wouldn’t leave (why does she get to dictate you leave?) and stand your ground on talking about this and your relationship in general. A marriage counsellor could def help here.
One of the love languages is literally 'gift giving'. You're taking away her ability to express this.
Some people get genuine enjoyment out of being a responsible functioning adult with their own money. Id be well away from you if I was her. If you can't swallow your own pride then you have deeper issues.
“Tl;dr: girlfriend made a small dick joke while she knows I’m insecure about it.”
Yeah, we have a long distance between us neither of us are fully financially stable. We haven’t set a date to meet, it’s more so just hopeful plans. I haven’t spoken about meeting for a long time. I’m honestly considering letting them down gently so I’m glad someone else thinks so too. Gonna see what others have to say too of course.
Thanks, man I really appreciate that. You have no idea how helpful it is to hear this from someone outside of my family. I'm not the first and I won't be the last and all that…
Need to make a vow to yourself that you will love, honour & cherish yourself. Cuz this dude won’t. Good luck with everything and have fun on your vacation
Your fiance needs therapy to figure out how to get out of the weird codependent relationship he's in with his brother and his brother needs therapy to figure out his hypochondria. Your fiance has shown time and again that he will pick his brother over your 99 times out of 100 (I notice sex is the only time he'll pick you…) Is this really the type of relationship you want to be in? Until/unless both of them seek help OR your fiance seeks help and totally fixes his boundary issues, you will always be second string. Don't you want someone who puts you first? Shouldn't your fiance be at your side, comforting you like your friends are?
Also, tell your family. Hell, show them this post about how many time's he's blown you off to help his brother. Show them where he tried to kidnap your cats for his brother. I bet if a bunch of internet strangers can't change your mind, maybe they can.
The relationship is basically over. Whatever you chose will cause resentment.
Hopefully he's just freaking out and will see sense. Get into therapy asap
Remind yourself of what you do bring to the table. You don’t have the same grades or the same job at a prestigious company that your partner does to make her happy and content with your relationship.
My husband is also an engineer and incredibly smart, whereas I dropped out of college and have a mid tier job (not a career). But I’m smart in ways that he isn’t. Our base of knowledge balances each other out, so we can work well as a team. I make him laugh. I’m kind and empathetic. I treat his family like they are my own. I just do my best to show him how much I love and appreciate him. That’s what makes a relationship good.
I'm aware a few have mentioned your lying and have kinda blamed you for this action but frankly many abused people whould have and do actually lie about things like this to protect themselves. You said you started lying due to your arguments getting physical so it's understandable.
You need to deal with your guilt and putting her “hurt” feelings ahead of your own peace of mind.
Effin troll. This is far too delusional to be real. No way your gross ass snagged anyone.
No contact
Did we read different edits? What solutions has the girlfriend discussed?
What does he say when you point this out to him?
“You told me that I should be completely open and honest with you. That is what I am doing. Why are you accusing me of stirring the pot?”
I'm sorry you're having a hot time. But I don't think you should tell her. You should confide in a friend and let her online her life and heal, as you said. Telling her would impede her ability to heal, which is what you want for her. I hope you find peace soon..
It sucks when you don't want to make a choice. Because refusing to make a choice often results in it being made for you. Sorry to hear things didn't work out, but relationships like that can be very complicated. Hope everyone's able to online with the choices they made, even tho dad is shitty for cheating
Your husband is an abuser who is preying on your weakened state. Leave him and tell it’s because the way he treats you is how you would treat someone you truly hates. If he wants to get therapy and do the work to not be such an asshole, then you could consider reconciliation. Do not make it easy on him. If he isn’t willing to do the work, then he will always treat you like shit.
Congrats on the baby and on your weight loss, but most importantly, good luck on a healthy and complete recovery!
Cheating is not a “whoops!” mistake, it's a series of decisions where one partner chooses to put their personal gratification ahead of their partner and any relationship that they've built.
He doesn't owe her anything and his actions make it crystal clear that he is there for his daughter.
Gotcha. My midunderstanding. Apologies
By the sounds of this?
Your partner sucks.
He sounds like a poster child for the 'Just being honest' trope, and I don't blame your daughter for not subjecting herself to more rubbish.
Figure out where your priorities lie, but at least be honest with yourself about that. I have a feeling that I already know- you've been ready to unquestioningly accept your partner's explanation and assessment at the drop of a hat, even within your own telling of the story.
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
You aren't the problem mate, she is. Get away from her, she clearly doesn't care about you or love you enough. You'll only sink further trying to fix some non-existent flaw in you, so better realize it soon and get out of this arrangement you've got.
Updateme
Think of those early days of your relationship and remember while you were at home thinking about her, writing cards for her, sending cute goodnight texts, buying her flowers, etc she put his dick back in when it slipped out. If you accept this make sure you tell people how you guys really started. I’m sure your kids will be dying to know how their mom had to fuck on her ex for a while to truly love and cherish you in the long run.
It obviously matters to her because it appears as if he's fetishising her bisexuality. That wouldn't sit well with me if I were her.
Please please please stop internalizing what an asshole says. It sounds like you have extremely low self esteem and could benefit from therapy.
I have been with my husband close to 10 years. You don’t think that during those years we had some nasty arguments.
I’ve informed his parents. He’s staying with them—he told me he’d tell me by Saturday…I had to get him to go to another therapy appointment and he said he’ll tell me after.
If he doesn’t I’ll layout what’s going to happen next.
Thank you. I am trying and I offer to help as much as I can. At times I feel like I'm being too nice though and she is getting bored. By problems, what do you mean though? With her depression?
The things your wife did wrong: she lied about who she was meeting and where. She's making fun of you with him. And tbh I think more happened in that car that you didn't see.
Also your shrink is an ass. While true that prohibiting your spouse from doing stuff is not great and a bad base for a trusting relationship that goes out the window when she lies and keep secrets. Secrecy is really toxic for the trust in the relationship. Your wife really doesn't have the moral highground here. If your shrink doesn't see that your wife also is wrong then replace them.
A shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on. I think your wife is at the very least having an emotional affair and that it won't end well. A recomended book is: Not “Just friends” by Shirley Glass. It might help you understand emotional affairs and cheating in general better.
Last week when he could go 2 minutes minimum
this all sounds sus af, especially when combined together. He's downplaying your relationship bc he doesnt want ppl to ask questions? Wtf does that even mean?!
I think you shouldnt ignore your gut. You know somethings off. Time to steal yourself against what that may be and decide how/when you want to find out.
No, you need to let him handle it. You'll look unhinged if you do anything. Just keep an eye on him.
Someone had to do it :D!
Why oh why do children get married??
Why aren’t you working? Get a job and use the money to pay for a cleaning lady. Or better yet, a divorce lawyer.
First before completely giving up.
Did you go thru ALL possible paths of help. I'm talking about therapy, sitting with ur son yourself, sitting ur new family together, getting other adults involved to sit and talk, and sitting down with ur ex and ur son.
Is this new behavior for him, or has this been going downhill since the divorce? Or did it just happen when a new wife came into the picture.
What does the situation look like between ur ex and your new wife. Was there cheating? How old is the new wife? How long after the divorce did you start dating a new wife than getting married?
All these questions need answers & those answers will point you into the direction of the answer as to why your son got this bad in that moment.
Of course there wouldn't be. It's a test for men and God Forbid their dicks get touched by something that could be corrected and not passed on.
Dude a couple months isn’t a long time ago. She told him she was preggers on Xmas day
What does she do all day that makes it hot for her to go back to bed after your alarm goes off at 6am? What time does she go to bed?
It sounds really like the trash took itself out. It sounds like she was more interested in what you could give her financially than anything. Please please please get therapy!!! Don’t end things over a woman whose name you may not even remember 10 years from now. I promise you she’s not worth it at all. She’s borderline abusive to you. Get therapy and build up your self esteem. This was not a healthy relationship like you think if she’s breaking up with you because you can’t buy her things.
Not just death. Serious injury and sexual violence too, from the DSM-V. Directly or indirectly.
The feeling of grief is probably not going away any time soon. Though obviously whatever the result is, that could change. But you should prepare yourself for either scenario, and especially the worst case. Hobbies are a common answer. What do you enjoy doing? Do some of that. But I’d also suggest things like physical activity. Talk to friends, family, anyone but the source of your current hurt. Life moves on. You had a life before her, you’ll have one with or without her. The only person who can get back in touch with you, is you!
Successful long term relationship depend on both people being allowed to exist as their whole selves, even the less pretty parts about their feelings about other people. That’s how you work through them.
You better leave no and count your lucky blessings he showed this behavior before the wedding. He’s either drinking again or also taking something. You don’t want this to be your life and your sons lives. And make no mistake, it will be. It’s just money right now that you will lose. Do you want him to break something you can’t undo???
So she isn’t going on the business trip, right? If she is trying to keep the marriage, that trip would be canceled – she can make up whatever excuse she wants. At a minimum, she needs to quit that job any way as all contact needs to be cut with that co-worker….if she is serious to you.
You’re right Ima have to hold out on this one and see what she’s really about.
It really was not ok for her to demand, not ask, for you to pay such a bill. I know it was stressful for her but your limits and boundaries matter too. As someone who paid for everything (including the full rent) in a relationship for 13 years and then in the 14th year when I had health issues my partner cheated because she felt neglected that I wasn't taking her out, even though she offered to switch roles herself… don't become a wallet. Your money is not her secret credit card. You are not obligated to pay on demand for things you never offered.
Take a moment for yourself man. Don't buy into the guilt. Don't beat yourself up. Don't go thinking about how to make it up to her when you've done nothing wrong. Go grab a drink or movie with a buddy or do something else for your self care before you go trying to manage her emotions for her. You are not her babysitter nor therapist. If she wants to stay mad, let her stay mad, but don't tolerate mistreatment in the mean time (direct insults, name calling, physical lashing out). If she does any of those, leave and go home or otherwise distance yourself while telling her that being mean isn't something you'll tolerate. Obviously if it's physical you never return and instead call the police.
And maybe she won't stay mad. Maybe she will be willing to discuss her outburst. You don't have to hammer it in and insult her, but you should discuss at some point your boundaries and that expecting you to drop cash on command and be mad if you say no isn't ok. Asking for help is ok, but no means no.
This really sucks. Sorry you're going through it. I hate that feeling of knowing you're being lied to. I gotta say, if I was your neighbor in this situation, and if the convo with your husband was totally innocent and innocuous, I would have handed you my phone and let you read it because it would have totally neutralized the conflict. Maybe not everyone would have this response, but I think many would.
Anti-depressants cause ED as well. As well as stress.
Well, if anything's possible, maybe he can get good at taking a dildo down his throat, and then give you any pointers he picks up while practicing…
What? He doesn't want to do that? But he doesn't care that you don't want to do that either? Hmm.
Well, if anything's possible, maybe he can get good at taking a dildo down his throat, and then give you any pointers he picks up while practicing…
What? He doesn't want to do that? But he doesn't care that you don't want to do that either? Hmm.
I won't get married due to the expense and complication of breaking up (divorce). And, 80% of divorces are filed by the wife. I'm not putting my well-being, or giving that type of power, into a woman's hands. But, we can have a LTR. And, if it lasts a lifetime that would be awesome.
The other good thing about not being married is it keeps both people working to please the other because they both know they can exit the relationship quickly and easily. When you get married people tend to fell into a rut. One, or both, of them “let themselves go.” Women often just quit their job and there's nothing a man can do about it unless he wants to lose time with his kids by divorcing, and also lose half of everything he's earned and worked for. And, the other person knows this.
An unmarried man has enormous power just like an unmarried woman does. That is the power to walk away. Once a man gets married, and especially has children, he loses the power to walk away. And, in any arrangement, if you don't have the power to walk away then you have to just accept whatever reality she decides to give you. Meanwhile,she still has the power to walk away in marriage.
Conversely, if she knows you can walk away then she isn't going to let herself go, she isn't going to quit her job, etc.
It's one thing for her to ask you to do something like ask if it's okay to stay with a particular family member for a specific time frame, it's another matter entirely where she's trying to control how you ask.
She's not entitled to police your words, especially with your own family and rather than trying to compromise, you should set a hot boundary with her that unless one of the people you're speaking to has an issue with how you talk to them, you won't change how you interact with your family just because it's not how she'd do it.
IMO, changing how you interact with your family for her comfort can be a slippery sloop and an unhealthy precedent. If she doesn't back off, I recommend you try couples counseling. She needs to understand that her way isn't the only right way.