Trust me when I tell you, for the sake of your son, you should be getting a divorce. Don't withhold custody or visits or anything crazy like that, but your son should grow up in a home where his mother is respected and valued. Staying with your husband now will 100% show him, she forgave me this time so she will forgive me next time. He just showed you who he really is and how much he actually values you. This guy is a complete piece of shit. Trying to “talk through this” will only create more tension, and you will still never fully trust him again. And you will be seen as the villain because of this.
She was a small child dealing with her father dying of an incredibly difficult disease, without support. This is insanely inappropriate. A mentally strong 6 year old is still a very young child who you deprived of their childhood. You made them handle the care of a dying man on their own. I understand you felt you had no other options, but this wasn’t an acceptable one. She is traumatized. It sounds like you don’t understand what you did to her.
If he would throw this on you suddenly when he said it would only be a trip, he doesn't deserve you. Of course he deserves to be where he's happy. But to tell you “I'm going on a trip” and then slowly add more and more time onto the trip before saying “I might not come back at all, I might stay” is just wrong. No communication.
The contract is: Friends with benefits whose an escort.
You can sign up for it or not.
I think it's the second one. And I think his depression is a big contributing factor.
OP is a woman.
Trust me when I tell you, for the sake of your son, you should be getting a divorce. Don't withhold custody or visits or anything crazy like that, but your son should grow up in a home where his mother is respected and valued. Staying with your husband now will 100% show him, she forgave me this time so she will forgive me next time. He just showed you who he really is and how much he actually values you. This guy is a complete piece of shit. Trying to “talk through this” will only create more tension, and you will still never fully trust him again. And you will be seen as the villain because of this.
She was a small child dealing with her father dying of an incredibly difficult disease, without support. This is insanely inappropriate. A mentally strong 6 year old is still a very young child who you deprived of their childhood. You made them handle the care of a dying man on their own. I understand you felt you had no other options, but this wasn’t an acceptable one. She is traumatized. It sounds like you don’t understand what you did to her.
My husband and I are 5 years apart. Been together 22 years. It’s only s problem if you make it one.
If he would throw this on you suddenly when he said it would only be a trip, he doesn't deserve you. Of course he deserves to be where he's happy. But to tell you “I'm going on a trip” and then slowly add more and more time onto the trip before saying “I might not come back at all, I might stay” is just wrong. No communication.