Ok so I think she's jumping to conclusions but also if my partner tells me they are leaving and going to be home soon and then don't show up for an hour I would be annoyed. If I give a wrong estimate for when I'll be home, I fix it when I realize it's wrong. Not because of cheating but just because I think it's polite and considerate.
Also why did you tell her you had to drop off some people rather than someone? To her it looks like you're changing your story. First you were late. Then it was because you had to drop a few people off. Then it was you had to drop one specific woman off. But she lives close by so that doesn't account for the hour so now it's that you left later.
She needs to work on trusting and not jumping to conclusions, but I think a little bit more communication from you would help too.
Well, maybe now is the time to try out some of the stuff you wanted to do but didn't because your husband expressed a negative opinion. “Well, I just like these types of clothes/this hairstyle, and I realized that we shouldn't have hang-ups about how each other look. You expect me to accept the mustache the same way that you're accepting of my new hairstyle/wardrobe/etc.” (And I'm not suggesting this in a grudge-match, mutually assured destruction kind of way, more as a making your point while still having fun doing something different kind of way.)
due to the divorce's expenses, he currently can't afford to rent an apartment so for the foreseeable future he is staying with me. Once the divorce procedure is concluded, depending on how things are, he will search for an apartment to rent.
Move forward……………Without her
How about you stop waiting for permission and just leave?
Breaking up is not a two person choice. If you were done, then you are done and you can walk whenever you want.
Ok so I think she's jumping to conclusions but also if my partner tells me they are leaving and going to be home soon and then don't show up for an hour I would be annoyed. If I give a wrong estimate for when I'll be home, I fix it when I realize it's wrong. Not because of cheating but just because I think it's polite and considerate.
Also why did you tell her you had to drop off some people rather than someone? To her it looks like you're changing your story. First you were late. Then it was because you had to drop a few people off. Then it was you had to drop one specific woman off. But she lives close by so that doesn't account for the hour so now it's that you left later.
She needs to work on trusting and not jumping to conclusions, but I think a little bit more communication from you would help too.
Good points. She does scare me when she doesn’t get her way. She has two modes sympathy and anger
Well, maybe now is the time to try out some of the stuff you wanted to do but didn't because your husband expressed a negative opinion. “Well, I just like these types of clothes/this hairstyle, and I realized that we shouldn't have hang-ups about how each other look. You expect me to accept the mustache the same way that you're accepting of my new hairstyle/wardrobe/etc.” (And I'm not suggesting this in a grudge-match, mutually assured destruction kind of way, more as a making your point while still having fun doing something different kind of way.)
Tell me you’re insecure and controlling without telling me you’re insecure and controlling..
due to the divorce's expenses, he currently can't afford to rent an apartment so for the foreseeable future he is staying with me. Once the divorce procedure is concluded, depending on how things are, he will search for an apartment to rent.