At best there was a mismatch of values. A “few” drinks might have influenced his decision but they wouldn’t have made him forget his answer—he either forgot or ignored it, and neither of those cases are good.
I think three months is a good amount of time to assume that things are exclusive between you. But even if you weren’t technically cheated on, it’s still okay to feel cheated. He didn’t take things as seriously as you did, and were hoping to do. And I’m sorry that he wasted three months on you.
I’m unclear as to why you’re so upset about this? Unless I’m missing something. I might understand if she tested positive them lied and said she didn’t have it and exposed people to it. But instead, she said she did have if (which she very well may have) and took precautions. Unless you see having Covid as a competition or badge you earn, I can’t see why this makes you so upset.
You work, and put a roof over his head, so you literally do everything for him.
Had you not told his age, he would sound like a toddler, and at least toddlers can entertain themselves.
Cut the dead weight, because I’m willing to bet your life would be much more on track if you weren’t supporting another person who contributes nothing.
My advice, cut contact for the next three days, after those three days are up jerk one out. Then search how you feel during the “post nut clarity” if you still like her then go for another shot.
You are both young, add alcohol and dumb things can happen. I’m not going to tell you to give it another go, you do you. But don’t listen to the 900 people here to plainly cut contact either. They say that shit on 3/4ths of the posts here.
Your last statement is utterly ridiculous. ''If she COULD try and work on it” ?!?! Verbal and emotional abuse is not something to tiptoe around or tolerate in the LEAST.
OP, ignore this person's terrible advice. Dump your gf and find someone who knows how to treat other human beings properly and with respect. I assure you there are many women out there who don't have this bad habit.
Yes! I still don’t understand why he decided to use those choice of words. He could of said anything that would of been better then that. I’m mostly just upset over that. I wish he could of said it in a way that wouldn’t been so immature and hurtful
First of all, DO NOT sleep with your girlfriend knowing you are positive. And if you do, I hope she sues you for assault. Second, you cheated once under the influence so there is no reason to believe you wouldn’t do it again. So come clean before she finds out from someone else and let her decide what she wants to do. Also, don’t worry too much about breaking her heart now. The deed has been done. That should have been your concern before you slept with Stacie.
So basically, she believes you do have a problem with her body count and that you are lying. So she is actively creating situations where you are forced to defend her and “prove” that you don't have a problem with her past
What she is doing is toxic and dangerous and clearly therapy is not working because there is no reason for her to be actively telling everyone in your shared lives about her sexual past
She clearly has not moved past her past.
And what she is doing is disrespectful to you and to the relationship
I know it's shocking and inconceivable, but your partner has met and spoken to women before. It's even more shocking to learn he's not fucked all of them. I know it's going to come as a bigger surprise, but he can also remember them.
I know these are DEVASTATING times for you. I hope you can recover.
It really feels like you should be able to presume sexual exclusivity with someone you are actively dating and sleeping with unless it is clearly stated otherwise. Like I don’t think you need to become celibate every time you get into the “talking stage” with someone new but damn, do we really need to have a verbal contract before you’ll stop banging other people?
Let them deal with it without your interference.
At best there was a mismatch of values. A “few” drinks might have influenced his decision but they wouldn’t have made him forget his answer—he either forgot or ignored it, and neither of those cases are good.
I think three months is a good amount of time to assume that things are exclusive between you. But even if you weren’t technically cheated on, it’s still okay to feel cheated. He didn’t take things as seriously as you did, and were hoping to do. And I’m sorry that he wasted three months on you.
If “AT video” refers to who I think it does, that there is your main problem, OP.
I’m unclear as to why you’re so upset about this? Unless I’m missing something. I might understand if she tested positive them lied and said she didn’t have it and exposed people to it. But instead, she said she did have if (which she very well may have) and took precautions. Unless you see having Covid as a competition or badge you earn, I can’t see why this makes you so upset.
Then stop doing anything all together..
You work, and put a roof over his head, so you literally do everything for him.
Had you not told his age, he would sound like a toddler, and at least toddlers can entertain themselves.
Cut the dead weight, because I’m willing to bet your life would be much more on track if you weren’t supporting another person who contributes nothing.
My advice, cut contact for the next three days, after those three days are up jerk one out. Then search how you feel during the “post nut clarity” if you still like her then go for another shot.
You are both young, add alcohol and dumb things can happen. I’m not going to tell you to give it another go, you do you. But don’t listen to the 900 people here to plainly cut contact either. They say that shit on 3/4ths of the posts here.
Your last statement is utterly ridiculous. ''If she COULD try and work on it” ?!?! Verbal and emotional abuse is not something to tiptoe around or tolerate in the LEAST.
OP, ignore this person's terrible advice. Dump your gf and find someone who knows how to treat other human beings properly and with respect. I assure you there are many women out there who don't have this bad habit.
Yes! I still don’t understand why he decided to use those choice of words. He could of said anything that would of been better then that. I’m mostly just upset over that. I wish he could of said it in a way that wouldn’t been so immature and hurtful
There isn't a problem because she's not paying rent and that's how he likes the temp in his house.
First of all, DO NOT sleep with your girlfriend knowing you are positive. And if you do, I hope she sues you for assault. Second, you cheated once under the influence so there is no reason to believe you wouldn’t do it again. So come clean before she finds out from someone else and let her decide what she wants to do. Also, don’t worry too much about breaking her heart now. The deed has been done. That should have been your concern before you slept with Stacie.
NTA
So basically, she believes you do have a problem with her body count and that you are lying. So she is actively creating situations where you are forced to defend her and “prove” that you don't have a problem with her past
What she is doing is toxic and dangerous and clearly therapy is not working because there is no reason for her to be actively telling everyone in your shared lives about her sexual past
She clearly has not moved past her past.
And what she is doing is disrespectful to you and to the relationship
No my coworker wasn’t. Both her parents was in her life they just remarried
No my coworker wasn’t. Both her parents was in her life they just remarried
he says that if you read the next sentence or two.
I know it's shocking and inconceivable, but your partner has met and spoken to women before. It's even more shocking to learn he's not fucked all of them. I know it's going to come as a bigger surprise, but he can also remember them.
I know these are DEVASTATING times for you. I hope you can recover.
I think, if they are both using iMessage, that you can’t pull them up like you can other texts.
It really feels like you should be able to presume sexual exclusivity with someone you are actively dating and sleeping with unless it is clearly stated otherwise. Like I don’t think you need to become celibate every time you get into the “talking stage” with someone new but damn, do we really need to have a verbal contract before you’ll stop banging other people?