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Date: November 3, 2022
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Yeah, it may cause some misunderstanding if she insist to tell him. Make it some confusion.
Does your dad come over every day? If I were single I'd probably pass on a relationship with a guy if his mom was constantly at his place. Who can relax with your partner's parents there constantly? Your dad should have friends and hobbies outside of you. I know some cultures might consider it normal to see or talk to your parents every day, but my husband and I are once a week kind of people.
That being said…unless your boyfriend is paying your rent he has no right to make demands on who can and can't stay the night. Sure, he can let you know the amount of time your dad is over makes him uncomfortable and that he wants more alone time with you, but if you're comfortable with the amount of time he's there and unwilling to compromise then that's that. Instead of making demands he should have just broke up, assuming this was a deal breaker for him.
“Honey if you don't let me peg you and use fake cum I'll stop doing your favorite position, maybe even sex all together.”
That's called blackmail.
The feelings aren't going away. You just need (1) to keep reminding yourself that there's no rational basis for your concerns, and (2) to keep making deliberate choices not to act on your feelings. It's more easily said than done, but there's no real alternative.
Break up now or when he in jail or dead…Thats were they all end up ..They can make good money unless doing the drugs .But all that money means nothing when hear judge say 20 years put hammer down.. Or sell in someone else's area take anther dealers customer. Or A junkie decides to rob him.. There is no future with him. Good Luck
When we care about someone, we don’t do things that could put their health at risk.
There’s LOTS two people can’t work through. Tons of people that love each other simply cannot or should not be together. His words sound like the coping/manipulation tactics of a codependent.
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Let’s not sugarcoat this…
-you were 16 when you started dating and your boyfriend was 21
-he’s tampered with your contraceptives
-he raped you while you were passed out
Just to recap, he’s groomed you, tried to forcibly impregnate you through reproductive coercion, and he rapes you.
Run, as fast and as far as you can. For your safety, leave while he’s out of the house, delete all your social media, change your phone number, and block any mutual friends or people who would know where to find you.
“long and complicated” pretty much ever works out longterm. It'll just be a mess until someone is finally done with it for good.
Bottom line is she didn’t do anything that should have disappointed him (she didn’t commit a crime, she didn’t get into drugs, she doesn’t have 7 kids from 8 different baby daddies) so she doesn’t owe him anything. It’s entirely on him to apologize and make the effort.
It's understandable that you would feel conflicted and uncertain about how to handle this situation. It can be difficult to balance the opinions of your friends with your own feelings and experiences, especially when you feel that you have a strong connection with someone and trust them completely.
It's important to remember that ultimately, you are the one who knows your own feelings and experiences best. It's natural for people to have different perspectives and opinions, and it's okay to consider the thoughts and concerns of your friends, but you shouldn't feel obligated to follow their advice if it doesn't align with your own feelings and judgment.
That being said, it's also important to be open to the possibility that there may be things you don't know about the person you are interested in, and it's always a good idea to be mindful of red flags or warning signs in any relationship. If your friends have specific concerns or experiences they are sharing with you, it might be worth considering whether there are any underlying issues that you should be aware of or address.
In the end, it's up to you to decide what to do based on your own feelings and experiences. Trust your own judgment, and try to communicate openly and honestly with your friends about your feelings and concerns. It may also be helpful to seek the guidance of a trusted confidant, such as a family member or a therapist, who can offer a neutral perspective and support you as you navigate this situation.
im already 100% agreeing with the overwelming consensus that its a bad idea. thats why ive waited 8 months. but im not the kind of person that does well with not knowing the answer. id probably rather just deal with the awkwardness for a month as it will pass.
are you the child of a situation like this? she’s at best his HALF sister. and OP doesn’t really owe her anything. his father does.
There might have been some way you phrased something that set him off, and he is too angry to explain to you what it is so you can avoid saying things this way in the future. You might ask when he is calmer.
r/TrueOffMyChest
I didn't tell him to get therapy with her. I told him to ask her if she would go to therapy herself.
I am in no way making OP's life worse. Harassing the guy to leave when he refuses to do so isn't going to do him any good, although I imagine it will make you feel great for the few seconds you spare to think about him.
Sometimes you really need to look at what the OP is asking for advice on, here. If they say they want alternates to x route, you need to think about them.
If you disagree with my advice, feel free to offer some of your own to OP. For now, I'm not going to bother to respond to you any longer since you're clearly here in bad faith and don't have a brain cell to spare.
Peace out.
I get now that those were awful things. That stuff is over four years old now. I'm ashamed I used to say things like that, and I've removed non-inclusive comments like those from what I say. I'm clearly still paying the price for saying them before. I should have said as much in the original post.
I feel I have grown a lot since that stuff originally transpired. I really did change saying things like that. I threw myself into getting better in my field, and I did receive a significant recognition for my contributions in the past six months for the work. Some things have changed for me.
Reflecting on it last night, I just never really talked about this subject with anyone after the initial backlash from friends when these things originally went south. Well, I talked to my two closest friends about it some, and they really just had my back like you expect friends to do. I wish they'd challenged me about it.
I do see a therapist now. This subject just recently came up, and they really pushed on me about my past actions and what I need to do now. It was so different from what I've gotten from the friends close to me that it caused me to come here to get more perspective. I tried to be very transparent in the post as a result. I wanted honesty.
I’m so very sorry that you are going through this and I’m glad you want to be there for your friend.
Everyone grieves in different ways, so it’s important to simply ask BUT you want to ask questions that don’t make it harder.
Don’t ask: what can I do? – likely, they don’t know what they need. Instead ask things that require a simple yes or no answer. Do you want me to come over and just sit with you? Would you like me to distract you? Etc.
Make sure friend is eating, as it can sometimes fall to the wayside. Bring them their favorite foods/snacks.
And what to not do – I don’t know what your relationship is or if you want it to progress but do not in anyway make a move on your friend, even if she makes one first. If she does and you are interested, still stop her and say that you want her to make sure that it’s not grief making her act in ways she wouldn’t usually and while you’re very open to the conversation, you’ll have to save it for a time when she’s in a better headspace.
I’ve seen a lot of good relationships fall apart during traumatic life events because of shit like that.
I think hes not shutting it down because he doesnt think anything will happen and friend is just being nice. However, i also think shes trying to be your friend. It’s possible shes being malicious, but i think it could be shes just unaware. No it’s not usual to call coworkers that, but maybe he said it was ok/never said it wasn’t, so it became a joke for them too. I think a lot of this could be cleared up by husband actually saying hes uncomfortable with it.
Get a cab and kick him in to touch as a friend. I’d be telling him to F O … but that’s me. Then block him on every coma method you have. No friend!
The fact that he has dated women his age doesn’t absolve him of being a creep. He is 23 and you are 17 he is out of line.
I agree with the first sentence, but not the second one. As you mention later on there's really no knowing without further information. For myself, when I look back, if I were 17 dating a 23 year old would be just fine assuming it's normal person.
I did mention it several times to my fiancé but he doesn’t feel the need to do anything because she’s chalking it up as “she’s joking”. ?
Ok, I get it. You were hoping for more than friends and she went with someone else, feelings got hurt. But my, oh my, wtf was this:
I was still angry and gave her the option to message me if she wanted to continue being friends, with the knowledge that I won’t be able to trust anything she says again.
So what’s the point?! You feel betrayed, righteously or not, and yet you continue to engage in this drama, causing more of it. Airing the dirty laundry on Facebook, the back and forth… my God, are you sure you guys aren’t teens?
To sum up, yes, you were the bad guy for throwing a fit worthy of a partner when you are merely a friend. You could have removed yourself from the situation at any moment. Instead you continued to escalate.
Once she laid hands on you it should be over she’s an adult she can deal with it get the divorce you want
Please don't have a kid that you didn't want just because your boyfriend does want it.
You are only 22 years old. You still have plenty of time to have kids. You might not even be together with him in a year. He's in therapy, you're young and pregnant, you two don't agree on kids, and you're considering having it just because he wants it. You two have some issues that aren't going to be worked out very quickly.
Unless you want to be married and divorced before you're 30 and then be a single mom trying to date again, I'd suggest not having kids yet. You two have some incompatibilities that need to be talked about and worked through. And he seems like a bit of a pushover, so it might be hot. Don't steamroll over him just because he's willing to let you have your way on everything. That won't make a healthy relationship
Yea I’d you guys agreed to be saving x amount of money for a house and he just blew through that without telling you that’s a big red flag. Also if he’s opening packs then he’s burning money not investing
Either start making your exit plan or start matching his energy. Demand to look thru his phone and computer, accuse him of cheating when he's not within your direct line of sight. Pelt him with unhinged questions. Tell him that the only people who accuse others of cheating with zero evidence are those who are actively cheating so clearly he's projecting. Demand Life360 be installed in his phone, demand an app that let's you see any and all activity on his phone/laptop so that you can even see deleted logs.
But also make an exit plan because he definitely sounds unhinged and unhinged people are a danger to your physical safety.
Do it via phone/text or in public. Misogynistic men can and do get violent when rejected.