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I’m sorry you guys are going to be at the same school now that he’s expressed this. It would be so much easier to move on if he was there as well. Is he the reason you decided to go there? Is it too late to change your mind? He’s told you his intention and unfortunately he will cheat if you guys don’t break up first. But rest assure you guys are young and will change tremendously in college. You may find he isn’t your best match anyway once you come into your adulthood.
I’m gonna give you another perspective. This happened to my best friend, a girl. She was out at a club and met a guy and they connected. They spent time together in the club and kissed and really connected. (This is obviously different because you knew the girl way before and these people met that night but still) Then 30 min later as she thinks they are gonna be walking home together she sees him kissing another girl. She is hurt and nothing more happens that night.
But they have each others numbers so he texts and tells her “sorry, I’m not used to connecting with people at the club, I was stupid etc” because he liked her. Turns out he had always been single his whole life and going out a lot, and he was used to behaving that way. That being said, he did know he liked this girl and felt that he made a mistake.
She gave him another chance and they have now been together for five years and are gonna start a family together.
If you kiss someone at a club at a dance floor, especially when alcohol is involved, it doesn’t generally mean much, and it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you. Also if that guy came and just sort of went for it with her maybe she was a bit taken aback and took her a while to react. I’m not saying it wasn’t a shitty thing to do to you, it most certainly was, but if you still want to try with her, you could give it some space and see how she acts and what she says and then decide if you want to take the next step.
Again, it was shitty and she hurt you and if you want to drop it you should. Take the high road and stay away from her. But if you think she still likes you and you likes her and you shared something meaningful, chances are she really regrets what she did as it was a stupid non-meaningful kiss at a club.
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I’m sorry you guys are going to be at the same school now that he’s expressed this. It would be so much easier to move on if he was there as well. Is he the reason you decided to go there? Is it too late to change your mind? He’s told you his intention and unfortunately he will cheat if you guys don’t break up first. But rest assure you guys are young and will change tremendously in college. You may find he isn’t your best match anyway once you come into your adulthood.
The denial is deep wow.
There's nothing wrong in having said a lie on this, especially because of the unfair weight this topic has
But it really seems like you'd like to know that he knows the truth. So I'd say go for it. You shouldn't expect anything bad coming from this
That said, the right question he should have asked is if it hurt, not questioning your experience xD
See this is where you fall short.
You can understand why he feels uncomfortable, but you don’t see why you not having a person trainer is an option.
Why should it be an option, because you are in a relationship.
Just like the option of you doing it regardless of your BFs feelings is on the table.
Neither of the 2 options above are good for your relationship, so you need to find a compromise.
You say that you don’t want to break up, well if you don’t find a compromise, then you will break up.
I’m gonna give you another perspective. This happened to my best friend, a girl. She was out at a club and met a guy and they connected. They spent time together in the club and kissed and really connected. (This is obviously different because you knew the girl way before and these people met that night but still) Then 30 min later as she thinks they are gonna be walking home together she sees him kissing another girl. She is hurt and nothing more happens that night.
But they have each others numbers so he texts and tells her “sorry, I’m not used to connecting with people at the club, I was stupid etc” because he liked her. Turns out he had always been single his whole life and going out a lot, and he was used to behaving that way. That being said, he did know he liked this girl and felt that he made a mistake.
She gave him another chance and they have now been together for five years and are gonna start a family together.
If you kiss someone at a club at a dance floor, especially when alcohol is involved, it doesn’t generally mean much, and it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you. Also if that guy came and just sort of went for it with her maybe she was a bit taken aback and took her a while to react. I’m not saying it wasn’t a shitty thing to do to you, it most certainly was, but if you still want to try with her, you could give it some space and see how she acts and what she says and then decide if you want to take the next step.
Again, it was shitty and she hurt you and if you want to drop it you should. Take the high road and stay away from her. But if you think she still likes you and you likes her and you shared something meaningful, chances are she really regrets what she did as it was a stupid non-meaningful kiss at a club.
Best of luck!
Like I posted somewhere else. These people hardly know their own scripture. They just use the parts that serve them.