I’m sure she had a basic education. From the customs and amount of children, I would gather they are from India. Usually children there will career education around 16. Am I wrong?
first and foremost, you're a jerk for doing it over the phone.
also it sounds like you to live separately in your own places,
so rather than saying what you said (probably horribly worded) you could have just told her that you want a weekend to hang out with the guys or to just be by alone by yourself or go on a date with just the two of you, & make those plans (as long as they dont interfere with other plans you already have) if those plans are without her, just tell her that you're not available for that weekend because you have made other plans to do (whatever it is) , but that you look forward to seeing her a few days later.
you went from “i want a weekend to myself occasionally” to “i don't want to date you at all”.
those are extremely different which is it.?
you handled the situation horribly, but so did she.
when she said that you didn't want to talk, was she right and you were being an immature person and doing the silent treatment.
or were you talking, and she simply wasn't listening, because if she simply wasn't listening tell her that, “i tried talking to you, you shut me/interrupted me down every time”.
then you blocked her. rather than have an actual conversation about it.
while she sounds like she has emotional issues, you sound like an immature jerk.
my suggestion, at the least, talk to her and have a conversation. talk & let her respond, then listen while she talks & respond, you know a conversation.
simply explain that some weekends you want to be able to do other things.
if you wanted alone time with her & without the kids, that's on you to make plans for you two adults and find a trusting adult to babysit the kids. then let her know you want to make plans for this event with just you two and so-so is willing to watch the kids, are you interested.
if you want to hang out with the guys, double check she didn't have other plans made & tell her you're going to hang out with the guys that weekend.
sounds like your communication is the biggest problem, that won't change until you change it.
It sounds like you should be working with your doctor and a therapist. Someone who discourages you from getting medical/mental health help is not a good person.
They said, it would be annoying to me to have someone fishing for compliments all the time. If you need a lot of external validation, that’s something to talk to a therapist about.
Unless I'm reading it wrong they're claiming amazon is a factory? This post reads oddly.
You toss her on her ass and wash your hands of her. Anything else is an affront to your self-worth.
Got you homie ???
OP was definitely setting her up to look like a bad person by doing all that.
I’m sure she had a basic education. From the customs and amount of children, I would gather they are from India. Usually children there will career education around 16. Am I wrong?
No shit , I guess friends going behind your back and having a porno shot with your wife = why you so mad bro? ?
first and foremost, you're a jerk for doing it over the phone.
also it sounds like you to live separately in your own places,
so rather than saying what you said (probably horribly worded) you could have just told her that you want a weekend to hang out with the guys or to just be by alone by yourself or go on a date with just the two of you, & make those plans (as long as they dont interfere with other plans you already have) if those plans are without her, just tell her that you're not available for that weekend because you have made other plans to do (whatever it is) , but that you look forward to seeing her a few days later.
you went from “i want a weekend to myself occasionally” to “i don't want to date you at all”.
those are extremely different which is it.?
you handled the situation horribly, but so did she.
when she said that you didn't want to talk, was she right and you were being an immature person and doing the silent treatment.
or were you talking, and she simply wasn't listening, because if she simply wasn't listening tell her that, “i tried talking to you, you shut me/interrupted me down every time”.
then you blocked her. rather than have an actual conversation about it.
while she sounds like she has emotional issues, you sound like an immature jerk.
my suggestion, at the least, talk to her and have a conversation. talk & let her respond, then listen while she talks & respond, you know a conversation.
simply explain that some weekends you want to be able to do other things.
if you wanted alone time with her & without the kids, that's on you to make plans for you two adults and find a trusting adult to babysit the kids. then let her know you want to make plans for this event with just you two and so-so is willing to watch the kids, are you interested.
if you want to hang out with the guys, double check she didn't have other plans made & tell her you're going to hang out with the guys that weekend.
sounds like your communication is the biggest problem, that won't change until you change it.
It sounds like you should be working with your doctor and a therapist. Someone who discourages you from getting medical/mental health help is not a good person.
They said, it would be annoying to me to have someone fishing for compliments all the time. If you need a lot of external validation, that’s something to talk to a therapist about.