You should have never said yes. Allowing something like that to happen takes a ton of planning and communication. After you calmed down you should have truly thought it through before being even more rash and accepting their proposal. Your feelings matter too and you cannot please everyone. You have to take yourself into consideration as well.
Do you think your kids can’t feel the vibe change? Living together and resenting each other will affect your kids worse than divorcing.
As I said allowing your partner to go outside the bounds of your marriage takes a ton of planning. You guys should have discussed amount of times, boundaries on location, the relationships with each other going forward, and aftercare (because again, your feelings matter.) And that’s just the start.
I say all this as a woman with kids who has allowed her husband to sleep with other women. My relationship is as healthy as ever. Planning is so key when it comes to something like this.
Honestly, I’d strongly recommend you go to therapy on your own to figure out what you want and decide your future. You need to plan me time away from your family. Your marriage is already dysfunctional. It’s only going to lead to dysfunctional kids if you continue down the path you’re on.
I can’t read the comments, rip ?
If his insecurities are “making” him act this way then you absolutely can blame him.
You should have never said yes. Allowing something like that to happen takes a ton of planning and communication. After you calmed down you should have truly thought it through before being even more rash and accepting their proposal. Your feelings matter too and you cannot please everyone. You have to take yourself into consideration as well.
Do you think your kids can’t feel the vibe change? Living together and resenting each other will affect your kids worse than divorcing.
As I said allowing your partner to go outside the bounds of your marriage takes a ton of planning. You guys should have discussed amount of times, boundaries on location, the relationships with each other going forward, and aftercare (because again, your feelings matter.) And that’s just the start.
I say all this as a woman with kids who has allowed her husband to sleep with other women. My relationship is as healthy as ever. Planning is so key when it comes to something like this.
Honestly, I’d strongly recommend you go to therapy on your own to figure out what you want and decide your future. You need to plan me time away from your family. Your marriage is already dysfunctional. It’s only going to lead to dysfunctional kids if you continue down the path you’re on.
Time to lose 180lbs fast by dumping him
SO what came of this ?