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KerryBlush Public Chat Channel
Date: November 7, 2022
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You are already pissed off at him for pulling that bs and not telling you and spending all that money just beforeChristmas. But what else can you do, unless you are planning on leaving him. Just go and get yourself a lap dance on your own and stay pissed at him
15 years is a long time, never a comeback in all those years? If that's the case and you have been open about it with your gf the insecurities are on her.
I have 0 tolerance with jealousy, (been there, never again) and I'm very close to my ex, who I care a lot about. She had a similar situation to yours and also set similar boundaries when he confronted her about me. There were more than a few problems with that relationship and didn't work out, and among other reasons, she said she realized he would be upset with her hanging out with me and she made her choice.
Trying to control the other person never works, not in the long run, and I don't see the point in cutting out a great support of a decade and a half for a jealous couple of less than a 10th of that time. Not saying to dump her right away, if she can keep her insecurities at check and gives you the chance to ease her mind it's ok, maybe letting your gf meet your ex helps her to understand the situation. If she is a jealous person and it's recurrent on this with other people, I wouldn't personally make much of an effort at all, though.
That last part though… lol you watch it too so you don't have much room to judge. He probably lied because he doesn't want you to get upset that he watches it. Probably doesn't want to hurt you.
But again, you also watch it. Does he know that? I bet he doesn't. If he knew you watched porn I'm sure he wouldn't have lied.
If someone tells me that X has robbed the last three houses they've stayed at, I wouldn't be letting them stay at my house. I don't need first hand experience. If she's mentally unstable enough that she goes on benders unmedicated then OPs husband has probably got whatever information he needs.
First hand experience is absolutely not a requirement.
It’s only really been a week. So it is understandable for him to consider it too soon to start “officially” dating. He may have had experiences in the past in which he was blinded the first week or so, and doesn’t want to make the same mistake. Therefore, he’s taking his time to see “how things are going”. I wouldn’t overthink it, just take the time to also see how things are going. You can never really know a guy in one week.
There's nothing wrong with checking people out while with friends. Don't make a big issue out of it. Instead ask your boyfriend how he feels about it.
Definitely an idea to try! Thanks!
He knows you can’t imagine life with him, so he can do this sort of thing. Simple really and up to you the next move.
Maybe there's some cultural gap we don't understand.
Because if I wasn't mistaken, it also seems very normal/accepted to date married people. EVERY indian friend I have (and the number is pretty high) has dated a married person and is completely open about it.. So I think there just must be some different/understanding of marriage there I just don't know/get.
Oh.. and these are like 20-mid20year olds guys who have had relationships with women in their mid40s-60s. I know for a fact 99% of them have age-appropriate (and attractive) options.
Oh this is so painful to read! I've been struggling with weight all my life only to find out I did have a perfectly fine bmi and I looked just fine in my youth, back when I thought I was obese. But it was my Mom's project to make me very thin, while I'm naturally on the curvy side, and she made me believe I was very fat, and also that only thin people are worthy of love, be it mother's love or romantic love.
My husband has seen me rangin from 55kg to 110kg (when pregnant and for a while after), and everything in between, and not ONCE did he make it an issue, but always was supportive if I made it my concern and asked him for opinion or help. Him loving me in any weight has been so helpful and so liberating! That along with food being available with no threat of it being taken away by my Mom (she used to starve me) me helped me leave the habits of overeating and eating my feelings. Food is just food now.
Your husband is REINFORCING your childhood trauma by making this connection between your weight and your worth. You need to put the effort into breaking this connection. He should be your ally, not some demanding entitled person who is disappointed by something that hasn't even happened yet!
Don't make the weight your enemy, make being healthy your goal. And believe me, fast weightloss or fluctuating weight are not good for your health in the long run. If I were you, I'd start by losing the 70-90kg (or whatever your husband weights), and worked on loving yourself and accepting yourself at any size. Then, with right motivation (health), you can reach your goal weight if you still feel you need to. When your motivation is to be thin/pretty/accepted/loved, it's not likely to do you any good. Good luck.
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You ruined your own life, I hope the sex worker has access to services and is in a safe situation.
I'm nit a bad guy for discovering your crimes. You're the bad guy for committing them. Always and every time.
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I need to ask you this. Does he oppose the concept of marriage, or does he not want to marry you? Those are 2 very different things.
I spent 6 years w someone who said he didn't want to get married. Truth is, he didn't want to marry me. (Thank glob I dodged that bullet.) He got married to his next gf. Beat her up and got divorced.
I was much like you. I tried to do everything, be everything, but it wasn't enough. Turns out, I was wasting my energy on a lump of shit. We flush shit. He found all his crap in hefty garbage bags at the bottom of the stairs, and the lease had been changed to my name only.
When you reach your breaking point, a calmness will wash over you, and you will have one very crystal clear thought, and it's, “I'm done w this” and you get rid of him. You'll probably miss him for a bit, but you'll feel a lot different. It's not being in a state of upset, self-doubt, or anxiety. You'll feel good.
Get rid of him hun. You are worthy of love and marriage if that's what you want. Don't settle for less. You are valued. You are important. You matter. Find someone who also thinks that of you.
That’s the modern rule though. Whites and Asians have one standard – black, Hispanic, and indigenous have another.
And possibly get her ex that she loves “oh so much” in trouble at work
Because love is blind
Also she only just got this information, which is completly out of character from the man she knows and loves. Give her a minute
I really hope she makes the right choice and runs far far away
Police won’t have anything to go on other than his accusation. No warrant = no evidence = no way to prosecute. Unless the police request she come in and interview and she does and confesses to them, there is sadly no case.
Women being raped on random dates is unfortunately more common than it should. But if a woman is doing this after 8 months of friendship with said date, yes the rule is same. They should have a clear discussion on why she doesn't trust him.
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u/Lower-Revolution-478 i got a notification saying that you replied saying you have a youtube video response to this question, and when i click the link it says the video is unavailable.
Now that we found out it’s all taken care of. We see what she says tomorrow. I’ll update for sure. I doubt she will regret or admit anything as she’s very proud and doesn’t see anything wrong ever with herself whenever we mentioned the little kid. We often bring it over to our house to give him food or help him with the homework. Just basic things the mother should be doing, especially how she isn’t working .
You realise the singular “they” exists, right? Your baby is a person, not an object.
You not only need to abort this baby asap but you need to divorce your disgusting husband as well.
She is afraid you are an abuser. I suspect that there is something creepy in her own history.
And you were 21, she was 27? Eesh ..
Why are y’all being weird? Are we supposed to kick our friends to the curb if they cheat on their SO’s? Not accepting cheating within our relationship does not equal being judgemental fucks and cutting our friends off when they fail in their relationships, even if it’s their fault.
I asked him why and he just says that he needs to see his friends and he doesn't want me to be there. And if the same thing doesn't happen to me, it's because I'm the problem. I don't know how to put into words that it is taking it to an extreme and that it is hurting me
Well…U should prepare for the life of a single person, and organize your finances to get yourself in a position to be alone…
Thats what she told me as well. He has also done things like take her phone and peer pressured her to hit his vape until she finally did. (This was once he found out her and I had both quit smoking in general) So even though he is married I feel like he is displaying not only inappropriate behavior but flirting as well. Like I said he is married to a man but has fucked female co workers before marrying so he is not just attracted to men. And marriage doesn’t always mean someone is loyal to that person. I trust my gf wouldn’t do anything with him physically but I also don’t like the sexual flirting. (This whole conversation was brought up because she was talking about ‘work flirtationships’
You can't do it without hurting him. But breakups and getting hurt are simply a normal part of being in adult romantic relationships. You can't stay with someone simply because you don't want to hurt them. He needs to go through this breakup, get hurt, heal, and learn to get over you, so that he can meet someone else one day who is more compatible.
Your heart is in the right place, but you need to break up with him and simply do your best to be kind, knowing it will probably break his heart anyway. He WILL get over you and feel better one day. Good luck to both of you.
Do a swapsies? Get together with your best friend and then your now ex can get together with your best friends now ex?
People do not stay in situations they aren't benefiting from in some way. I'm not saying he's a good person, but if someone wants multiple kids and is 33 and that hasn't started yet, I'm not really sure what their deal is with staying
That's also showing a lack of respect for you and your relationship. Being together is work, but you shouldn't have way more bad days than good. Treat yourself with the love and respect you deserve. Too many times we place our partner above everything to our own detriment. Put yourself first this time, and next time, and the time after that… At the first red flag bring it up, nip it in the bud. Communicate why you have a problem with it. If she's not willing to compromise and take your feelings into consideration then she's not the one, no matter how much you want her to be, it has to be a partnership. If one person runs the relationship they're the only one who is happy, it has to be a two-way street. I hope things work out for you.