Well since you canât have kids anyway and he wants them now, there goes your compatibility. You shouldnât wish for him to sacrifice that and you shouldnât have a child for the purpose of making someone else happy (whether by surrogate or adoption). Iâd cut my losses and be more up front about it the next time around. There are plenty of people who donât want kids
I'm so sorry if I'm coming across that way. I have a lot of love for people all across the board. I have ADHD myself, among other things, and share quite a few of those overlapping symptoms, but that's just a miniscule part.
To be clear, I am absolutely not supporting hate or unfair judgement on people with or without some type of illness. I'm saying, illness, disability, and neurodivergence are not an excuse to be a jerk. There are factors that dictate how acceptable it is, and what people should and should not tolerate. There are allowances to be made, but both sides need to take responsibility for hurt feelings and how they're managed. This is what my friend's teaching her kids (within reason).
I also don't think it's fair to assume that everyone thinks autism = Raymond Babbitt. I'm sure that was the case years ago, but so much has changed, at least in my country, though we still have a long way to go as a society. Even where ADHD is concerned.
Please pick the above apart and let me know in what way I'm wrong. I genuinely want to know in which way I'm being unfair to an entire community because that is not my intention in anyway.
Youâre so young. Itâs okay to break up with her. You have your whole life ahead of you and thereâs no reason for you to be mad all the time. You both seem to have grown up in different directions, and it has affected your relationship. Explain it to her in that manner and let her know that itâs time for you both to move on with your lives. You both deserve to be happy in life.
Having a crush is normal but if it's growing then you should reconsider the relationship
Well since you canât have kids anyway and he wants them now, there goes your compatibility. You shouldnât wish for him to sacrifice that and you shouldnât have a child for the purpose of making someone else happy (whether by surrogate or adoption). Iâd cut my losses and be more up front about it the next time around. There are plenty of people who donât want kids
I'm so sorry if I'm coming across that way. I have a lot of love for people all across the board. I have ADHD myself, among other things, and share quite a few of those overlapping symptoms, but that's just a miniscule part.
To be clear, I am absolutely not supporting hate or unfair judgement on people with or without some type of illness. I'm saying, illness, disability, and neurodivergence are not an excuse to be a jerk. There are factors that dictate how acceptable it is, and what people should and should not tolerate. There are allowances to be made, but both sides need to take responsibility for hurt feelings and how they're managed. This is what my friend's teaching her kids (within reason).
I also don't think it's fair to assume that everyone thinks autism = Raymond Babbitt. I'm sure that was the case years ago, but so much has changed, at least in my country, though we still have a long way to go as a society. Even where ADHD is concerned.
Please pick the above apart and let me know in what way I'm wrong. I genuinely want to know in which way I'm being unfair to an entire community because that is not my intention in anyway.
Because this is redditâŚ.and someone always has to make it all the manâs faultâŚeven if itâs not.
Youâre so young. Itâs okay to break up with her. You have your whole life ahead of you and thereâs no reason for you to be mad all the time. You both seem to have grown up in different directions, and it has affected your relationship. Explain it to her in that manner and let her know that itâs time for you both to move on with your lives. You both deserve to be happy in life.