You should be touching in small ways everyday. Just no expectations. Great if it leads to something but equally great if it doesn't. I understand why she might be hesitant if her understanding is that touching always equals sex with you. I would pull back 100% because there's always strings attached and sometimes I just want that moment of closeness.
Me, me, me? I'm not talking about what you actually do around the house. Doesn't matter. What you are really doing is keeping score. And scoring is for competition. This was a bit of a 'look at what a great guy I am' post. Doesn't show any humility. And it certainly sounds like you don't even want the child but you were ever so gracious in giving her one because she really wanted one. It's not a puppy. I'm sure that's not how you mean it. And I'm not saying you're a bad person. You mean well from the sounds of things and try in ways you feel are right. But she sounds a bit stuck. Could even have post partum.
My suggestion is to schedule a conversation. Not a fight. No one gets to escalate. And it has to be all about the other person's point of view. As in you talk about what you think her feelings are and why and she does the same. Set these rules ahead of time so each has time to consider this. If it helps, get a sitter and go out somewhere to do this as you're both less likely to get heated in public.
The circumstances that brought us together are anything but picture perfect, but we've been happy for a long time with what we have. And I'm not going to just roll over when someone is actively trying to end our relationship, the problem lies in that I don't know if I should be angry with my sister. She'd always been like this, and I had thought she grew out of it.
You need to go with option 2. What if your friend sets him up with another woman thinking he is amazing.
You should be touching in small ways everyday. Just no expectations. Great if it leads to something but equally great if it doesn't. I understand why she might be hesitant if her understanding is that touching always equals sex with you. I would pull back 100% because there's always strings attached and sometimes I just want that moment of closeness.
Me, me, me? I'm not talking about what you actually do around the house. Doesn't matter. What you are really doing is keeping score. And scoring is for competition. This was a bit of a 'look at what a great guy I am' post. Doesn't show any humility. And it certainly sounds like you don't even want the child but you were ever so gracious in giving her one because she really wanted one. It's not a puppy. I'm sure that's not how you mean it. And I'm not saying you're a bad person. You mean well from the sounds of things and try in ways you feel are right. But she sounds a bit stuck. Could even have post partum.
My suggestion is to schedule a conversation. Not a fight. No one gets to escalate. And it has to be all about the other person's point of view. As in you talk about what you think her feelings are and why and she does the same. Set these rules ahead of time so each has time to consider this. If it helps, get a sitter and go out somewhere to do this as you're both less likely to get heated in public.
The circumstances that brought us together are anything but picture perfect, but we've been happy for a long time with what we have. And I'm not going to just roll over when someone is actively trying to end our relationship, the problem lies in that I don't know if I should be angry with my sister. She'd always been like this, and I had thought she grew out of it.
She should seek professional guidance.*
It doesn't sound like anything he says or does will make her see anyone else's point of view.
This is the craziest title I’ve ever seen on a Reddit post and that’s saying something lmao