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Happy for you OP, not the best outcome since she wasn’t supportive, but it seems you’ll be better over all without her. I recommend perusing r/oldhagfashion where you can find confident men who enjoy wearing feminine clothes just because. Who doesn’t like feeling beautiful? Rock on with your badass heel-wearing self and on-line your best life.
I've told her straight up I won't move to the big city, if she wants to do the 4 hour daily commute I'm more than willing to take up more of the housekeeping at home since she'll be busy for those 2 years but yeah I can't slow down my savings rate right now.
Well you're on a throwaway account so I wont be able to find you after much longer. You can DM me or find me anytime.
One of the things I have taken away from my … difficult journey … is that coming here and talking about parts of it makes it feel validated a little. The fact I can give you some comfort and reassurance makes me feel like everything I went through can be helpful to share with others.
The whole “this is just about video games” or “your jealous of video games” are deflections and gaslighting. I said some of those same things. Its very immature and it attempts to make it seem like you're unreasonable (jealous of a hobby!) because you need more partnership from your partner. Not that they're the unreasonable one because they cant do the bare minimum of doing the dishes because they have dailies on WoW to do.
I don't know how to get him to stop doing that, but I understand (now) that its not about the hobby. Its about the neglect to do everything else that isnt the hobby… like show affection, appreciation, and help out around the house once in a while. ? I wish I had some magic words you could say to get through that deliberate barrier, but don't believe it. Its a deflection.
Idk, the “we'll be fine, everyone makes mistakes” line sounds dismissive at best, or “I'll forgive you for what you did eventually” at worst. That doesn't sound like someone trying to figure out why she had a strong involuntary reaction to him touching her. Idk if they've had talks before about this boundary, but it doesn't sound like he's reassured her at all that he gets what he did to trigger her and will avoid it in the future. He seems to just focus on the fact that her reaction hurt him, and accepts her groveling about it, then dismisses the issue.
I wouldn’t be comfortable with that. Would you like it if he was paired three boys and three girls going to party in another country. I would rather be single.
You have only given reasons to stop seeing him. Break up in public.
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Happy for you OP, not the best outcome since she wasn’t supportive, but it seems you’ll be better over all without her. I recommend perusing r/oldhagfashion where you can find confident men who enjoy wearing feminine clothes just because. Who doesn’t like feeling beautiful? Rock on with your badass heel-wearing self and on-line your best life.
I've told her straight up I won't move to the big city, if she wants to do the 4 hour daily commute I'm more than willing to take up more of the housekeeping at home since she'll be busy for those 2 years but yeah I can't slow down my savings rate right now.
Yes, tell him. Be the only real friend this dude has because that group sounds like a bunch of backstabbing cowards anyway.
Well you're on a throwaway account so I wont be able to find you after much longer. You can DM me or find me anytime.
One of the things I have taken away from my … difficult journey … is that coming here and talking about parts of it makes it feel validated a little. The fact I can give you some comfort and reassurance makes me feel like everything I went through can be helpful to share with others.
The whole “this is just about video games” or “your jealous of video games” are deflections and gaslighting. I said some of those same things. Its very immature and it attempts to make it seem like you're unreasonable (jealous of a hobby!) because you need more partnership from your partner. Not that they're the unreasonable one because they cant do the bare minimum of doing the dishes because they have dailies on WoW to do.
I don't know how to get him to stop doing that, but I understand (now) that its not about the hobby. Its about the neglect to do everything else that isnt the hobby… like show affection, appreciation, and help out around the house once in a while. ? I wish I had some magic words you could say to get through that deliberate barrier, but don't believe it. Its a deflection.
Most women quickly form the habit of locking their rooms if they live with other people.
Most men never realise that this is a thing we have to do.
Since you communicate so well, you most certainly are not having a conflict about who will take whose name after nine years together, right?
Or did you think that I am dumb and insecure enough to fall for the tactics that have allowed you to get over on the poor soul who chose to date you?
Idk, the “we'll be fine, everyone makes mistakes” line sounds dismissive at best, or “I'll forgive you for what you did eventually” at worst. That doesn't sound like someone trying to figure out why she had a strong involuntary reaction to him touching her. Idk if they've had talks before about this boundary, but it doesn't sound like he's reassured her at all that he gets what he did to trigger her and will avoid it in the future. He seems to just focus on the fact that her reaction hurt him, and accepts her groveling about it, then dismisses the issue.
I wouldn’t be comfortable with that. Would you like it if he was paired three boys and three girls going to party in another country. I would rather be single.
hoping this is a fetish post?
I’ve reported you so have a nice day