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Date: October 20, 2022
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Because the HUSBAND is only pissy because of his ego. If OP's gf doesn't mind it's because she is not threatened. Basically the husband here is just being a baby because he can't gift that much, but everyone else can see this is just a platonic and kind gift from someone who feels they owe their life to another
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I have trained dogs before. That is NOT NORMAL. The dog is not safe for a family home. What if you habe kids? (Apologies if you do and said so or are unable to and its a sensitive subject)
It would be best to rehome the dog. You will likely never feel safe around it again. My mother chose her aggressive dog over me, and now I havent seen her in 6 months.
Just my advice.
but he is so sweet and nice and she loves him! /s
Some people are just terrible drunks. The fact you worked out a way for her to know when it's going to far and that only increased the belligerence means that her drinking at all isn't ever going to end up fun. The pattern of behaviour is not good for anyone.
I think it's a case of either she just doesn't drink again, or you have to end it.
You can't leave her in that state to teach her a lesson, but you shouldn't be out in a position where you have to babysit a drunk adult every time you go out.
I knew someone like this. We do not ever go anywhere and drink. I only see them at parties briefly now. It killed the friendship mostly, but I'm actually glad to be drama free on nights out now.
Came here for the poop knife comment.
I’m leaving her. I came in here for the validation that I’m not overreacting and realized how blind I’ve been. I’m done with her
This reeks of entitlement
If after 4 years you've not met his family there clearly is a reason. Not everybody has grown up with a normal functioning family.
My father was physically and emotionally abusive to me and my mother, he was also in and out of prison for selling cocaine. He even threatened my life on multiple occasions for not agreeing to sell cocaine for him while he was in prison.
I cut him off many many years ago and haven't spoken with the man in close too a decade.
I never went into detail about it with my partner because when people found out they treated me differently, and I was embarrassed about my family's past.
I simply told my partner my dad had died when I was young as I had no plans that they would ever meet.
My relationship with my mother determinated as a result of it as well.
I spent many years bottling it all up so I completely understand where your boyfriend is coming from
It's not for you to understand or get him to explain it just is and you need to accept you crossed the line.
If you can’t get a job these days it’s on you, everywhere is hiring. Dumb bs jobs you’ll struggle with but real work is all there baby.
Its your decision, and its a big and very important one. He is supportive even though he would rather you keep the baby, which speaks volumes about this guy and how much he values you. You are young and I am sure that is part of the reason you want to get an abortion which is completely understandable, but you should not discard the feelings you two are having at this moment. Maybe you guys need to talk about a future together and contemplate the idea of starting a family today, or in the future.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Otherwise known as he fucked around and found out.
“Why don't we have dinner catered in so that everyone can enjoy themselves instead of slaving away in the kitchen?”
Or suggest a potluck style dinner so everyone brings a dish.
You both need to start using your words.
You'd do anything for her to stay, but you'd be wasting your time with her if she left?
Do you love her, or are you just feeling pressure to settle down before 30?
Hey, we have a troll in the house. Welcome old troll. Now I’m blocking you.
Good decision with the counselling. My ex-wife presented as normal, but was unhinged. I could talk for hours about that. Unfortunately there are all too many people in the world like this. Good luck to you both, I hope everything works out for you.
She doesn’t really owe you anything in regards to what happened while you were broken up. Of course it’s one thing if down the line you talk about it in an open sense but she has to be comfortable with it. The one thing I do think is worth asking is did she want to take a break purely to see what other options were out there? Because then it would seem like she’s just settling which isn’t healthy.
I don't think people should be violent even if it's just to animals.
Is this a general problem in your relationship or she’s just unhappy you aren’t helping more in wedding planning?
Four months is nothing when it comes to substitute knowing someone and who they are. No, after 4 months you don't know him. You haven't had time to know him. Situation you described in your post also shows it. Calling someone isn't in any way a path to truly know someone. You didn't answer my question – where you learned that “he treated women like they were nothing”. What this is a sign of? That he does this normally, that's who he is and that he lied to you. If you want to believe that you truly know him and this is out of the character behavior, you are allowed to. I understand it hurts, but if you want to stay in denial you are setting yourself up for even more hurt and disappointment. It's up to you.
What do you care of the guy is bad news. Break up you know you have to.
And what are you talking about a big moment to change. You barked once and then backed off as fast as a blink.
Was he mentally 13? ? wtf
So then…what exactly are you going on about? They both made a mistake, that ended in a baby. It happens. Both people are capable of raising a baby, and she seems more than capable of raising the baby without him. You’re just another person on reddit who thinks their hateful opinions on here are more important than anyone else’s lol grow uppppp
Your gf sounds like she’s either abusive and using self harm to make you feel bad OR she is on the autism spectrum. Being upset shouldn’t make you want to hit yourself. I’d tell her to get help and end the relationship. I also don’t know why you’re surprised a 22 y/o is so immature.. you’re literally 6 years older than her. Her brain isn’t even developed yet.
She never initiates sex not in the 6 years we have been together I always have to start it.
I'm not being defensive or implying that she's wrong, like I said if I was unsure about the number of children before, I am more sure now that I see what it is like to take care of 1 kid. After having the 1 kid, we talked and I was definitely less sure about having the second one and in the next months the decision became more sure.
She does hate it when I change my mind though, where I see that as my right to change my mind when new information comes in that makes me question my earlier decisions.
I can see how people in healthy relationships who have very strict boundaries and a strong self esteem can't quite comprehend how someone might feel forced by such (truly pathetic) displays of emotional manipulation. Unfortunately some people, especially those who have experienced prior victimization, might not have those strong foundations to fall back on when the boundary pushing starts and they find their boundaries constantly disregarded and violated.
In cases like OP where someone constantly gets guilt-tripped until they “consent” to sex, it's a gradual escalation with more and more outrageous tactics being employed until the person is so worn down they don't see it worth the hassle to say no in the first place. Might as well lie back and think of queen of england to avoid the argument and dramatics that would follow a “no”. The escalation follows the idea of a “frog in a kettle”, where you slowly increase the heat until the frog boils alive.
It's a similar type of conflict-avoidance someone might develop with an irrationally jealous or controlling partner, where you “choose your battles” because trying to assert yourself feels too taxing emotionally, and in the end you find yourself steeped in learned helplessness that makes you feel completely powerless to assert yourself. Abusive people are incredibly good at making normally functional and self-respecting adults find themselves in situations they never thought they'd accept.
So if it helps you understand the tactic a bit better, think of it as emotional abuse that is geared to manipulate someone into having sex they don't want.
I'm genuinely happy to hear you haven't been in such a relationship. Thank you for considering what I was saying.
Oof… Jesus you girls really do anything for love. Listen what you have here is someone who is clearly taking full advantage of you and how unbelievably nice you're being. I get it. You're madly in love and really want to believe that you can help or fix him, but the truth of the matter is you can't. A grown ass man who takes advantage of someone who loves him as much as you do is no man but a boy masquerading as one. Also, you have been doing everything you can to help him and he STILL hasn't gotten a job. You're feeding him, housing him, paying for literally every house hold item all the while he is very busy… skateboarding… yikes.
I mean your only option at this point is to have a serious talk about this and how you're at your breaking point. Think about your future and if you would want someone like this raising your kids. Be honest with yourself, put aside your feelings and look at it from a objective point of view. From where I'm standing all I see is a naked working women taking care of someone who doesn't care for them back.
She has multiple cameras outside of her house