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bite your lip [Multi Goal]
Date: October 24, 2022
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bite your lip [Multi Goal]
Accidents happen. He is perfectly allowed to choose to not be involved with having a kid.
It’s not a threat. He’s being open about his preferences
You and your boyfriend both sound like assholes and I wouldn’t want to be friends with either of you.
And let her say what she has to say and don’t go into making excuses and self-defense mode. Because that is absolutely saying you’re not listening.
You will over time. If you stay with him the mistrust will drive you mad. That's my personal experience anyway.
Stop dating and get therapy.
I agree with her and also when you get to a certain age or maturity you realise that there are far more important things than physical beauty… like inner beauty.
I doubt we would hookup because he was telling me we could choose a spot we could hang out at.
I try not to divulge my past to my gf. I try to be as stoic and strong as possible. For the sheer reason that I dont think she will want me any more if I show weakness or sadness to her.
If she does that, anyone who does that to their partner, don't deserve to be in a relationship. Being vulnerable is a human trace, that has nothing to do with the gender each one of us identifies as. You are human and you have every right to cry, not be strong, be weak at some points, be sad, be anxious, be everything.
You have gone through things that are way above reddit's pay grade, but you are in the process of getting over them with your therapist and that is great! Allow your girlfriend to know that you are struggling. You have your own reasons to be uncomfortable with families, but to her you might come off as indifferent or even an asshole. If my partner did the same, and I didn't have the info about his past, the first things I would think is that he doesn't like my family, I would make up senarios about the reason and think for sure that he is hiding some serious shit.
Please, consider opening up to her. I know it is scary, but do it step by step and at your own pace. If she doesn't accept or acknowledge all these and doesn't show the will to support you, well… you dodged a bullet there.
Well I'm sorry but you can't live with her. She has said that so that's not an option. So you have three options:
Long distance break up live! with a roommate.
Also I thought she mentioned it because someone in Barcelona explicitly asked her.
Actually, with clarity from OP, it was OP who really focused on it with the gay man.
“Again she apparently never did anal with op so how is it withholding? “
The anal sex that she had with other men. She's withholding that experience from him.
“He is dating a girl who doesn’t do butt stuff.”
Correction: he's dating a girl who used to do butt stuff but doesn't anymore.
The analogy is a little off because you can't “club” someone intimately (unless you're using a physical club).
He's feeling like she's withholding an act of intimacy shared with other people. She likely never liked it all that much to begin with.
I think that we agree on a lot of the same beats. But I can see how this brings up resentment.
Imagine your long term boyfriend telling you that he used to eat out but he doesn't want to do it to you because he doesn't do that anymore.
That'd suck. But your boyfriend also has the right not to do it.
He will always look at other women. I am sure you do aswell to some extend. Its better to realize why he is together with you and I wish for you its more than superficial reasons.
I highly recommend the book ‘why does he do that’ by Lundy Bancroft. This book can not only describe to you exactly what is going on in these interactions, but also how it fits into the relationship as a whole. It will help you navigate next steps, and to read and understand this behaviour in others as well as in your partner, which will be super helpful for your future. Good luck OP!
This is more helpful. I don’t think I’ve thought of it from her perspective of being safer or possible for her. Thanks
???She sounds absolutely horrible. Please save yourself and walk away.
I don’t think either of you is in the wrong, but rather that you simply want different lives and are overall incompatible in a big enough way that it won’t work out for you long term. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to go out and enjoy partying while you’re still young, but having a partner who isn’t on the same life level is so difficult for the partner. As heartbreaking as it is to breakup sometimes people just aren’t compatible for what the other wants in life, no amount of therapy or compromise is going to change that.
This made me laugh lmao
Run…. You are condemning yourself to a life of maid to him, his parents and any potential children you might want. You can do so much better than this.