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IG: Ohmykath_ *Free snap with a control her/99tks* 1000 tks for naked 420 secs in ultra high
Date: October 9, 2022
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This doesn’t sound promising. She’s made it clear she’s not willing to do the work to be what you think of as a family. You seem willing to compromise by living in 2 places so she doesn’t have to be bothered with your kid then she raises the bar by wishing you and your ex never had her (I don’t know what else to think she meant by her comment). Unless your daughter has serious behavioral issues, your partner seems to be very uncompromising and wants everything her way. I think willingness to be reasonable is key to a happy and successful partnership and I’m not getting that vibe here.
Why do you feel it should be that way I guess is a good question to start. What was your childhood like?
This relationship is bad for you and you need to end. Then, you need to start focusing on yourself and building yourself up. NEVER cling on to another person and think they'll your sole reason for existing. Just so you know, depending on someone else to make you happy does more harm than good. It puts all of the pressure on them and it will push them away.
Anyway, your sole reason should be you being the best version of yourself. As you improve and get better in your life, someone you really vibe with come your way and be attracted to you. That person will make you feel loved like you never did before but all of this desperation isn't it and it's very unattractive. You need to learn to love yourself first. If you don't love or value yourself, you're constantly gonna get abused and taken advantage of.
It's hard to know the real situation, but consider the possibility that they treat her badly if she takes her space, or manipulate her by accusing her of being mean or whatever.
I hope you two can talk it out and she can open up on what she truly feels of the situation. Perhaps some precedents in her life scare her from doing anything.
Then ofc there's also the possibility that she seeks the attention, which she can also grow out of. Just try to be curious about the whole situation, explore how it really is.
Yeah, I shared a class with him and didn’t act any different after the fact. Just kept to myself. The class is over but it still bugs me because everything seemed to go smoothly. Maybe I was just seeing things
I want a civil ceremony. I don’t need a wedding. I just want to be married to the love of my life.
Honestly, I think your thinking is the actual red flag here.
Maybe 2-3 more?
You’re getting downvoted, but your thought here is valid, because therapy doesn’t work for all people or relationships all of the time. Sometimes doing therapy-type work isn’t where you’re at or exactly what that relationship needs at that moment, and that is OK. Sometimes what you actually need to do is find a shared interest and make time for it, for example. Sometimes it’s some task or activity you do together every day or week or whatever. The important thing, especially with kids, imo, is to remain open to the possibility that someday therapy COULD be the right choice.
I’ve had relationships where they ended up cheating on me or just leaving me. Maybe that’s also why I’m too protective of myself that resulted of me being this closed off.
not sure. I feel like you can be in a new relationship and develop new feelings while getting over your ex (as log as it's not super fresh). we're humans and we can build connections while working through our breakups. However, the fact she is still friends with her ex is a bit concerning, as i don't think it's healthy for her. she will not be able to get over the ex and process this whole thing if she is still attached.
I would take a step back from her for the time being, sounds like she needs more time to figure it out. If in a while she will still be interested and over him, and you are still available and interested you can give it a try.
also, i would add that if her previous relationship was toxic, I hope she won't bring it with her to the potential relationship with you.
Projection at its finest, good luck with your addiction!
When someone shows you who they are, you should believe them.
He's obviously lied to you multiple times with no real reason not to continue to do so, because what repercussion has he experienced? His family lies for him as well, so that seems pretty systemic and not likely to change.
Worse, to me, he has experienced a pain and is happy to share with you that exact pain. With someone obviously content to go around your back and help him hide it.
This is the rest of your life, and if it gives you anxiety then it likely should, and it will likely never change. Why would it? You are about to have a kid and then will have even more ties with him. And this will be the behavior he shares with your kid.
If that bothers you at all, move on. I'd take further steps to protect your child. Get a free legal consultation. Don't list him as the father and see if you can avoid him having any parental rights if he tries to force a continuing relationship with you through any acknowledgement you voluntarily or accidently give by listing him as the father.
Right now it is up to you what you will accept from him. Once you legally share a child it will not entirely be up to you, and given what he's already done to you, and how he treats you I would be more worried about having him permanently in your kids life.
She has a white hair, presumably from stress.
He never hid his feelings from me before. This is all new to me.
THIS. The amount of people glossing over her abuse is so, SO unsettling.
I'm not really even understanding why you two broke up lol
I can't believe there is a possibility to break up because of that issue…its unbelievable
I love you so much random person on reddit. ??
I mean, you’re expected to be professional in the workplace anyway, no one needs to know about your romantic life. I’d just be polite running into him if that’s what he’s comfortable with.
I’d be more concerned about dating someone who isn’t out in the rest of your life. It seems like it would be exhausting to keep things so secretive.
They’re around my age (22) and I wouldn’t date them! Men (and women for that matter, including myself) at my age are dumb as hell!
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He sounds abusive, actually.
How about he goes to therapy to deal with HIS issues while you go on with your life?
which he responds either “we need time to tweak some things”
OOOOOF. Man, what? I've been with more people than my partner has and I could not IMAGINE saying this to him, even if I belived it (which I don't because, yeah, I've had great sex with other people – but nothing beats sex with someone you love deeply, it can't compare). I'm honestly pretty shocked that is something he's repeatedly said to you.
Like, I don't think you should be focused on being “the best he's ever had” because that's a really artibrary and subjective thing – but I do think his responses are concerning.
I've been following this story, and I am more convinced than ever that it is total bollocks. There is no way anyone could be so pathetic to stay with her after this. I just don't buy it. Well done, troll, on convincing so many people.
Hindsight and an outsider’s perspective can be clearer at times. May you find and make the best decision for you.
It sounds like she baby-trapped a spineless sap. Good luck, OP.
If your cat is chipped. Call the police.
I went through the same thought process as you with the title, the story, then the comments. “oh no, 23? okay 32 is better! oh shit never mind”
That’s the thing. I know how much I learned from this, even though it’s stupid to HAVE to learn from it, but I did. I know I can commit to her now and I want to, since I’ve realized that sleeping around isn’t something I enjoy or need.
Well, play along. Start dressing him up, try domming him if you are willing to play. See where it goes.
Yikes. Did you not see that him going through your phone without your knowledge is a huge red flag and violation? That’s just one of many things wrong with this whole situation thought.
Eh, I don’t find by text to be as big of a faux pas anymore but you’re right, going on break never works out. It’s just a “half measure” when someone is too afraid to rip the bandaid off to me.
That's rape. Coercion is not consent. Honestly you need to open your eyes to what people are telling you here. You came here asking questions, and people are answering them. And you're just turning away because you don't like the answers. Yes, he's toxic. No, its not your job to fix it. Leave before you get trapped with this guy.
You know she'll do the same thing again, if he leaves his wife, yours will go running to him, or if someone else pays her attention she'll go to them. You are her backup plan I'm sorry to say.
We met at an art gallery and she told me what she did for work. To clear things up for everyone
I can’t see all the comments. Can you guys please reply to me here so I can see them? Thanks.
Yes, you're in wayyyyy over your head. You have ZERO idea what you're in for.
Also, I wasn't even using the equipment she was asking for. Someone else was using it lol
Sus about what?
He’s not even real. He’s sent fake photos. He could be, and most likely is, 50 years old. He’s a bad man. Please block him. I believe that you haven’t been exposed to healthy relationships and haven’t had a lot of support at home. A therapist would really help you. Please try to seek one out.
You don't. What she wears is up to her.
You don't. What she wears is up to her.
Stop beating yourself up. You did the best you can, and everything you did out of very positive motivation, so you have nothing to regret. If she eventually rejected the love you were giving then she is losing out. Too bad for her, such love and appreciation are hot to find and she blew it.
Going through this point-by-point and offering justification for each one is part of the problem.
You need to develop the introspection and judgments to see things in a more objective light.
Other user is correct in that this is a really immature approach. It's self-defeating and gives the impression you are self-centred and will justify anything as long as you “get your way”.
Not trying to play the blame game, but that's what I took from this comment. Wishing you good luck w/ therapy.
So she doesn't work and is too lazy to at least do all the chores?! If you're the one working then she needs to do the housework to help out, period. You split the tasks when you both work and have little time but not when one is home all day. Smh…
Call someone to report the suicide threat and then stop talking to this person. Like leave the room if they show up level. Anything else is on them. This is extremely manipulative and they need hot core therapy. Not your problem and being involved will only make things worse
I don’t care if it’s legally accepted, culturally accepted, or not. I have been 17, and I have been 21, and I think that combo is a whole lotta ?
Move on is best course of action. What she did was extremely disrespectful and down right improper. I got $100 that she gave the ex a blow job any takers???
I didn't mean that as crudely as you put it. I also wanted to cuddle, kiss, touch, etc., not use her like you're implying. But even if it's too late, what would be the best thing to say to at least make it less awkward at the study group?
Oh! It just now occurred to me that you might not have any studies to post.
Shocked Pikachu face
That’s what immediately came to mind for me too
so she doesnt know if shes into it but you know you are. certainly gonna end well /s
I dunno if this will be an unpopular opinion or what, but I don't think this is or should be about either of you. Regardless of how “difficult” her son is, he deserves a step father who loves him and treats him as his own. If you were to move in together, you would have to on-line with him 5 days per week and you'd never get more “time off” than you have right now. Yet this arrangement was still too much responsibility for you. You shouldn't continue a relationship where you will be unable to give him the love and attention he needs and deserves.
And it's not OK that his mum considered continuing a relationship like this either. Her son should come first and this arrangement was unsustainable, even before you suggested your “weekend off”. You did the right thing by ending it, though not completely for the right reasons imo.
My man…roflmao…
If the data shows he has downloaded the apps during your relationship, and your boyfriend is insisting otherwise…
The records have no motive to lie to you. Your boyfriend does.
Yes. The wife is a child and in no way responsible for her actions. Same if a man is seduced by another woman, he holds no responsibility for his actions. None of us can say no to anyone asking us to get hard /s. Way to infantilise women
Fucksakes when woman start with this bullshit of we have a great connection or the relationship is perfect otherwise..
When a partner is cheating i give up on giving advice. This man is gonna spin some bs and OP is gonna forgive him and probs catch an STD.
Pick better have some self respect. Your great and wonderful connection didnt stop him from searching for hookups on tinder now did it?
Do you on-line together ?
Passive air cooling is a fine way to maintain the temperature sensitive equipment if you know the environment for which it is designed to operate. If it is hard, move away from the heat, cold move closer. We're going for easy of use. People are welcome to take it to more extreme environments, they will have to get creative. Throw some pelts over it.
Hahaha why you got that in quotes?? Also not everything is gauged by sex yknow
I don't know anything about either of you, so forgive my armchair psychology based on the very tiny amount of info in your short post…
She likely has some self-esteem problems, and competitive activities might make her feel frustrated and upset when she doesn't do well. Probably more at herself than at you. Have some empathy for her – it's a pretty miserable thing to struggle with. I'm sure she'd much prefer to have fun, happy feelings while playing games; but, some people go through a lot of deep, painful turmoil when they perform poorly.
This probably isn't helped by the fact that you obviously like competitive pursuits. And your enjoyment might be perceived by her as being arrogant, “aggressive” or a sore winner. In other words – rubbing your superiority in her low-self-esteem face. And then, shaming her in front of the group by stopping the game due to her protecting her emotions by quitting. Reducing her emotions to just being “childish and immature” shows how far you are from empathizing with her…
Some people love trash-talking and aggressive competition. Others can be super fragile – and feel self-loathing when they do poorly, and then humiliation or guilt based on how others react. If you want games to be fun for everyone, you should be aware of the personality types and how to cater to them. Maybe she's not the best person to invite to Catan or Scrabble nights.
It’s theft. If she pays him back it’s still theft. She didn’t have permission
lgbtq isnt an adult concept