You say that she was still obliterated when this happened, and she says that hat she doesn't remember what happened. You haven't said anything specific about your husband's state at the time, but from your post, he seemed coherent and entirely lucid.
I think it's pretty obvious your husband took advantage of your sister while she was vulnerable and he raped her.
I know this will be very hot to do, but now is not the time to blame your sister for what your husband did to her.
This is most definitely grounds to divorce your husband. I hope that you won't hold this against your sister, you've both been hurt by him.
Update: we broke up. He told me that he lied a lot and our relationship was based on lies. He went behind my back and told his friends horrible things about me and said he used me and strung me along bc he was scared of commitment. He told me everyone has been telling him to break up with me since the beginning. He wasn’t honest with me or himself and he lied/betrayed me. He said that he is a horrible person and that he knows I’m one of the good ones, and he told me to find someone who really cares about me. He said he loved me, but I told him no he didn’t because you don’t use people that you love and lie tho their faces about major issues. Thank you again, he is a complete psycho!!! The person I thought I was dating is a backstabber who tells everyone what they want to hear, and he’s a pathological liar.
Why would her feelings matter in this??
You say that she was still obliterated when this happened, and she says that hat she doesn't remember what happened. You haven't said anything specific about your husband's state at the time, but from your post, he seemed coherent and entirely lucid.
I think it's pretty obvious your husband took advantage of your sister while she was vulnerable and he raped her.
I know this will be very hot to do, but now is not the time to blame your sister for what your husband did to her.
This is most definitely grounds to divorce your husband. I hope that you won't hold this against your sister, you've both been hurt by him.
Don't kiss her She was blowing his knob for old time sake or getting it ready to jump on top.
Update: we broke up. He told me that he lied a lot and our relationship was based on lies. He went behind my back and told his friends horrible things about me and said he used me and strung me along bc he was scared of commitment. He told me everyone has been telling him to break up with me since the beginning. He wasn’t honest with me or himself and he lied/betrayed me. He said that he is a horrible person and that he knows I’m one of the good ones, and he told me to find someone who really cares about me. He said he loved me, but I told him no he didn’t because you don’t use people that you love and lie tho their faces about major issues. Thank you again, he is a complete psycho!!! The person I thought I was dating is a backstabber who tells everyone what they want to hear, and he’s a pathological liar.
Can you just let it fade without any grand elements or gestures?
I would recommend that.