Yes, people are not actually reading and are just reacting to, he invited you on vacation and you are mad. People seem to think that if someone offers to spend money you should be grateful no matter how awful they are being about it.
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Basically what will happen is that you'll agree to give up all custody rights in exchange for child support. You'll pay it monthly and that'll be your only obligation to the child.
I will tell you this, as someone that was the child in this situation (where my mother gave up rights), don't be surprised when he or she reaches out to you about a dozen or so years with all kinds of emotions. Just be mentally prepared for it.
IF this post is even real why won't you take the advice of others? It's as if you don't even care or have any forms of love/respect for yourself. If you wanna stay with your RACIST boyfriend because he's SUPER HOT & you LOVE HIM then cheers to you I guess. Keep him and be together forever. At least somewhere in the world 2 people wouldn't have to deal with either of you.
Be honest with her if you don't feel the need or comfortable with deleting the pics. Compromise archiving them in the cloud somewhere. Not on your phone or immediately accessible on other accessories.
Angle is that you just have them around for the memories sake not sitting there pining over the old pics daily lol just mean it when you say it. Really think about why you asked the question and have concerns about deleting the pics
This is a rule that varies from relationship to relationship. Both answers are right and you're just going to have to be open and honest with each other about boundaries
Good golly girl-wake up!!!!!!!!! Leave him and go home to your family-this guy is bad news, there’s a reason he targeted you-he needs someone naive enough whom he can control and manipulate-this is not a healthy relationship nor is he a loving partner!!! It’s no longer just you to consider-do you want your child growing up thinking this type of relationship is healthy????
Thank you for being the voice of reason here. It’s not like I’m criticizing him for something he can’t easily change. I didn’t marry him with this creepy ass stache so where’s my right to choose? Lol and the fact that he knows it is creeping me out and is basically weaponizing it is disappointing.
That being said we’ve been together for years and there have definitely been times when he’s told me in a respectful way that he didn’t like my nails, outfit, hair style, etc and I took the advice.
Oh come on. The top comments are telling him exactly what the top comment here are. Stop trying to make a weird battle of the sexes thing just because you need to feel like a victim.
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My husband had a common procedure done a few months ago and I was right beside him as they prepped and I was there when they brought him back. He just didn't want to be there for you. Your husband sounds like an AH tbh and you deserve better.
NOOOOOOOOOOooooooooo!!! And I also wouldn't explain why. Giving someone your reasons just opens doors for them to argue. You never have to explain your thought process to anyone, especially if you think it will give them an opportunity to try to wear you down. “Nope. That won't work for me.” is a complete sentence.
If you stop making the effort and they don't pick up the slack, what exactly are you fighting for? Just let it go. Friendships grow apart. And if he did/does have feelings for you, isn't it better to just let things go?
But like what is this dude even exhausted from? He's getting woken up once every other night…. I was up 1/2 the times and my wife the other so at least 3-5x a night. I couldn't feed the kid because of breastfeeding but I army marched, snuggled and bounced that kid back to sleep constantly.
Because I couldn't feed I always felt like I wasn't doing enough but I was always trying. Stories like this make me feel like maybe I did a good bit better than I gave myself credit for.
So I’m stealing this from a different comment in a similar post. I just can’t remember the exact wording so I’m paraphrasing.
Imagine you work a tough job with the prospect of promotion at the end. You work you ass off and give it all emotionally and physically. The promotion never comes so you leave or get fired. You move on to a new company. Things are a million times better, it’s still new and you’re starting fresh.
Then you hear from old coworkers that your replacement was granted your promotion after only half the work you put in. You don’t actually want your old job back. But you feel slighted someone else received the recognition you so longed for at one point in your life. You’ve moved on but it’s still apart of your past. You grieve because it’s fresh information. But in no way is this going to make you quit your current job, or under appreciated how amazing it is.
I understand the feeling and the problem. But your husband got a point : your SIL made a very bold move, and she pretty much expected that reaction from her parents… I'm not saying that she should have stayed in the closet, but announcing that she is lesbian before bringing her girlfriend over could have helped a lot in avoiding this clusterfuck, and this is your husband main complaint About your whole personnal situation I hope your husband will mentaly evolve, it may take time but if he is fairly smart and reasonable, there's no reason for him to stay like that I witnessed both of my religious grand parents accept that with my cousins, so all hope is not lost !
Freaking thank you. She mentioned something is a sore topic for her so he’s doubling down on the jokes. Maybe if he’d respect her boundaries she’d start trusting him.
Exactly. Back off for a bit. Give her a chance to miss you. No groveling!
Should have to*
Dude, no. Not being ready for a kid at 23 does not equate to NEVER wanting kids. Getting the snip is permanent.
THATS IT! Thank you, that was going to bother me
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Yes, people are not actually reading and are just reacting to, he invited you on vacation and you are mad. People seem to think that if someone offers to spend money you should be grateful no matter how awful they are being about it.
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there we go, just like that
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Seriously. This guy is gonna think it’s on if OP meets him for the beach date.
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You fucked up leaving the home. It won’t look good during divorce. Get a lawyer immediately.
Tell her straight up stop acting like a preteen.
She said she didn’t want any
She said she’s on a diet
You were a great partner by not enabling her bad habits.
Basically what will happen is that you'll agree to give up all custody rights in exchange for child support. You'll pay it monthly and that'll be your only obligation to the child.
I will tell you this, as someone that was the child in this situation (where my mother gave up rights), don't be surprised when he or she reaches out to you about a dozen or so years with all kinds of emotions. Just be mentally prepared for it.
Nope
IF this post is even real why won't you take the advice of others? It's as if you don't even care or have any forms of love/respect for yourself. If you wanna stay with your RACIST boyfriend because he's SUPER HOT & you LOVE HIM then cheers to you I guess. Keep him and be together forever. At least somewhere in the world 2 people wouldn't have to deal with either of you.
I have a couple of thoughts here. First, I can apoericate how a bad childhood leads to poor choices.
But that isn't an excuse, it isnt license. In real lifebifvyou make shitty decisions, there are consequences.
You do neither yourself nor her any benifet by not telling her in straghtfoward terms of your hurt, anger and disapointment in her.
And you have every right to those feelings, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
You should demand an explanation of her actions followed by her sincere apology. That is the bare bones miminum.
And if she can't do that without blameshifting, gasighting or trickle truthing you, you must dump her.
Because she will do this again, except she will be more careful to hide it.
I wish you luck.
Cloud it.
Be honest with her if you don't feel the need or comfortable with deleting the pics. Compromise archiving them in the cloud somewhere. Not on your phone or immediately accessible on other accessories.
Angle is that you just have them around for the memories sake not sitting there pining over the old pics daily lol just mean it when you say it. Really think about why you asked the question and have concerns about deleting the pics
This is a rule that varies from relationship to relationship. Both answers are right and you're just going to have to be open and honest with each other about boundaries
Cleaning your sister is not incestuous. Your ex girlfriend is dumb.
I just feel bad.
He's in a treatment facility, verbally abuses you, hates your dad, and you're saying he's a good man?
Ma'am. Your blinders are thick.
Good golly girl-wake up!!!!!!!!! Leave him and go home to your family-this guy is bad news, there’s a reason he targeted you-he needs someone naive enough whom he can control and manipulate-this is not a healthy relationship nor is he a loving partner!!! It’s no longer just you to consider-do you want your child growing up thinking this type of relationship is healthy????
Yea it was weird. But he knows it was weird and is different person now based on the age
I’d say it’s not something you really have to worry about
I personally like 'unshelled walnut' as an insult.
I still asked him was it him cause it was large for a toddler to do that
So wait, is he not wiping or not flushing? Or.. both? Good god.
Thank you for this anaolgy, really put it into perspective.
Yeah I feel like “empath” means “I see suffering and want to involve myself and bask in the attention this other person is getting.”
Yeah I feel like “empath” means “I see suffering and want to involve myself and bask in the attention this other person is getting.”
Cut her off. If you want better support and advice try r/justnofamily
Thank you for being the voice of reason here. It’s not like I’m criticizing him for something he can’t easily change. I didn’t marry him with this creepy ass stache so where’s my right to choose? Lol and the fact that he knows it is creeping me out and is basically weaponizing it is disappointing.
That being said we’ve been together for years and there have definitely been times when he’s told me in a respectful way that he didn’t like my nails, outfit, hair style, etc and I took the advice.
You sound like a good man thank you!
Oh come on. The top comments are telling him exactly what the top comment here are. Stop trying to make a weird battle of the sexes thing just because you need to feel like a victim.
If you want to compromise talk about getting a dog trainer to evaluate your dogs potential to live with a cat. Be prepared for either answer and to do some work if training is possible.
He was reclined in the seat for a reason. She definitely went down and then gaslit you in order to get away with it.
My husband had a common procedure done a few months ago and I was right beside him as they prepped and I was there when they brought him back. He just didn't want to be there for you. Your husband sounds like an AH tbh and you deserve better.
NOOOOOOOOOOooooooooo!!! And I also wouldn't explain why. Giving someone your reasons just opens doors for them to argue. You never have to explain your thought process to anyone, especially if you think it will give them an opportunity to try to wear you down. “Nope. That won't work for me.” is a complete sentence.
“Some MF's always trying to ice-skate uphill.”
If you stop making the effort and they don't pick up the slack, what exactly are you fighting for? Just let it go. Friendships grow apart. And if he did/does have feelings for you, isn't it better to just let things go?
But like what is this dude even exhausted from? He's getting woken up once every other night…. I was up 1/2 the times and my wife the other so at least 3-5x a night. I couldn't feed the kid because of breastfeeding but I army marched, snuggled and bounced that kid back to sleep constantly.
Because I couldn't feed I always felt like I wasn't doing enough but I was always trying. Stories like this make me feel like maybe I did a good bit better than I gave myself credit for.
It’s not cheating, but it’s also not good practice either. I just wouldn’t do it again.
It’s who isn’t coming over her any more.
So I’m stealing this from a different comment in a similar post. I just can’t remember the exact wording so I’m paraphrasing.
Imagine you work a tough job with the prospect of promotion at the end. You work you ass off and give it all emotionally and physically. The promotion never comes so you leave or get fired. You move on to a new company. Things are a million times better, it’s still new and you’re starting fresh.
Then you hear from old coworkers that your replacement was granted your promotion after only half the work you put in. You don’t actually want your old job back. But you feel slighted someone else received the recognition you so longed for at one point in your life. You’ve moved on but it’s still apart of your past. You grieve because it’s fresh information. But in no way is this going to make you quit your current job, or under appreciated how amazing it is.
Just let him know that you aren’t feeling it, there is just something missing. You don’t think it will work out.
Don’t string him along & waste his time, and don’t ghost.
Nah. She is hiding something.
Listen to your sister.
I understand the feeling and the problem. But your husband got a point : your SIL made a very bold move, and she pretty much expected that reaction from her parents… I'm not saying that she should have stayed in the closet, but announcing that she is lesbian before bringing her girlfriend over could have helped a lot in avoiding this clusterfuck, and this is your husband main complaint About your whole personnal situation I hope your husband will mentaly evolve, it may take time but if he is fairly smart and reasonable, there's no reason for him to stay like that I witnessed both of my religious grand parents accept that with my cousins, so all hope is not lost !
Freaking thank you. She mentioned something is a sore topic for her so he’s doubling down on the jokes. Maybe if he’d respect her boundaries she’d start trusting him.
i hope she stays in touch with her sil tbh