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ALL GOALS MET [Multi Goal]
Date: February 10, 2023
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
ALL GOALS MET [Multi Goal]
Where is the original post :/
Your Tahoe/Suburban argument made me think of something my wife and I will have an issue with occasionally. She finds it necessary to correct me, often in front of others about silly things, usually numbers. For instance, we were talking to a realtor about selling our house and the subject of in general terms how much we owed on the mortgage. I said “about $100,000” she replied “no, it’s $99,700.” So I said “well that’s about $100,000 isn’t it?” Even the realtor agreed under his breath. She didn’t. She does this a lot about a great many things. She never will wait and tell me privately, she just blurts it out. For someone like me who was raised solely by an overbearing mother, this is a major trigger.
However, while it’s a character flaw I don’t appreciate, she’s overall a wonderful person and my best friend in addition to the love of my life. You two may still love each other but you’ve moved away from being friends. Ask yourself, if you weren’t married, would you hang out with him as a friend? Vice versa? Maybe counseling can help you find that friendship you once had. Maybe you both can change your attitude? Nobody likes being corrected all the time, especially when it’s not a big deal. Nobody but a few like to be controlled by their partner. The amount of respect given is the amount earned by each of you. If you just look at it as a “him problem” you’re probably doomed, same if he looks at it as a “her problem” both of you have to be willing to change or you might as well end things.
My boyfriend was a furnace operator at a foundry and would still come home and help me cook, clean, care for the little one and the cats, so on. He's got debilitating spinal injuries that hinder his every day functionality. Now he's a SAHD and we still split things though he tries to do more while I'm away because he “now knows what it was like” for me lol.. I have two hip injuries and I work a very high stress, labor intensive job now as well. This guy has no excuse, he's either lazy, raised to think this is how it's supposed to be (like my ex), or is too prideful to admit that he doesn't know how to cook. Good luck OP.
So does that mean that she’s changed her tune and lives you again? Or is she just upset that there are going to be consequences to her actions?
This: no one seems to be understanding this. He was VIOLENT.
Oh no!
You can’t give up on your son!
What a terrible father!
This is all your fault!
But no one mentions how he threatened his stepmom.
What if he actually hurt her?
Or the baby?
What would they say then?
You should’ve had him in of the house!
You knew he was dangerous!
Shame on you for not protecting your wife and child!
There’s no advice here. Just damning, and shaming.
Tbh, you know your gf best, and I would definitely recommend trying to talk to her about it unless you really think she wants to be surprised… Did she love the ring and is she wearing it now? Do you think she would want a new ring? If she wasn't thrilled with the first proposal but nonetheless still said yes and wanted to get married to you, and you're planning on redoing the proposal… personally, I think it makes sense to get a new ring, because you want to do everything new again. Plus I think it might be awkward to ask her for the ring back to redo the proposal, but obviously this is dependent on your relationship and what you think she wants! I don't think she would say no to two rings, but I don't know her! (Although my dad got my mom two rings, i thought that was quite audacious of my mom when i found out but they're still together ?)