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Date: November 22, 2022
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“I think he should tell her” was also in that comment. There’s a TON of judging OP for his sexual decisions on here, that’s more of what I’m talking about. Who other people sleep with, as long as it’s consensual adults and not cheating, shouldn’t be dragged this hot.
Separating? Are you serious?
He is obviously under tremendous stress given the circumstances. He had an off day. He’s human, it happens to everyone. And he immediately apologized. Maybe cut the guy some slack.
And you said you were going on an hours sleep so how do you know you weren’t acting a little off yourself.
Could you link this study, please? If I remember correctly, it was not 3 percent of the population in general, but only 3 percent of men who were already going through a paternity dispute due to court-ordered child support or similar reasons. If that's true, then in the general population the percentage of fraud is even smaller, probably less than 1 percent. I could be misremembering, of course.
She is the most trustworthy person I know, so I am sure she is not cheating.
Sigh. Another one bites the dust. I am not saying that she IS cheating. But you need to get it out of your head that any girl (or guy) is incapable of cheating. Never, EVER, get comfortable because “She is so sweet, humble, trustworthy, shy, introverted, etc…” That means ABSOLUTELY nothing. I have seen (and/or shamefully be involved with) many people in my life who gave off the sweet innocent vibe that portrayed someone who would never cheat. Under the right circumstances, with the right person, anyone can cheat. You just need to build a strong enough relationship where they don't want to.
Bro you really need to look into coercion rape. Because that’s what you’re trying to do. “No that’s not the answer I’m looking for” “how do I change her”. If she’s not into it, and she doesn’t consent. That. Is. The. End. Of. It. Get that through your thick skull. Idk if you’re on here to tell seeing as you came for relationship advice and aren’t comprehending the advice given. Or if you’re seriously this dense.
Please take a step back and comprehend that trying to change her and trying to get her to do what you want is rapey in nature. “Maybe I need to play on her white guilt”. Holy shit dude. If you want to rape her, just say it. Guilting someone into participating in a kink they don’t want to is so effed up.
No means no. Seriously if you need this that bad, find someone else who is willing and happy to dress up like that for you. Stop trying to change someone. You’re being very predatory and it’s gross.
This girl is learning to say “no”. She doesn’t like it, she was just not feeling empowered to say no. She knows what she likes, she is the expert on what she likes, not you. Even if she LOVED anal with this other guy, she doesn’t love it with you, so why do you want her to do things she doesn’t like? Can you not get pleasure out of other forms of sex unless she’s enduring it for you?
When do you guys do a “weekend of sex” where you do only things she wants?
You know what is super unattractive? Insecurity—especially the type where you put the responsibility of addressing it on others instead of taking ownership of your own feelings of inadequacy. You know what else is unattractive? Controlling, abusive, boundary pushing behavior like putting your partner in situations where the only way they can “prove” they are attracted to you is to constantly be available to do things that cause them physical and likely emotional discomfort endlessly.
Break up with this girl, get some therapy to think about why you’re competing against her ex hookup when she’s dating YOU, and maybe you’ll be able to enjoy a future relationship without LITERALLY fixating on how to most often be a pain in her ass.
He hasn’t ended the relationship. End of story. If he just said “Look, we’re not in love anymore and I’m going to start seeing other people” he wouldn’t have to sneak around behind her back, and he wouldn’t be a cheater. But he hasn’t. So he’s a cheater.
Why hasn’t he told her this if he’s so unhappy? He must be getting something from her that he doesn’t want to lose. He doesn’t want to be honest with her because then he’d have to give up playing happy families. But he also wants to go out and get his dick wet. He can’t have both.
Couples who don’t trust each other
Sorry but no matter how you try to couch it, that is creepy.
Find someone who shares your religion.
Do YOU want a boob job? Factoring in if it makes him happier? Don’t do this for him, do it for you. It’s your body, and your discomfort/risk.
If he really loves you and really feels your perfect, this won’t matter and will be as he said, a nice to have but that’s it. If he’s lying and it’s a fetish he needs, not getting it will also reveal that. And do you really want to be with someone who needs you to be their fetish to be with you?
Take it another way. I like body hair on my SO. My SO does not like how it feels. Bc it’s something naturally occurring and easily changeable, they did indulge me once for a little while. But then they reverted. It was nice while it lasted but it’s not necessarily and hasn’t changed our relationship at all (except that I appreciate their considering and trying it).
A boob job is a very different proposition.
Personally I wouldn’t do it unless you’ve been together a decade and you’re sure you’re ok with it.
Have you considered therapy for the two of you, both as a couple and separate? I understand and hate that that isn’t always an option but if it is in this case and you think there is a chance you could work it is something that might actually help you both. This is obviously after you get actual medical attention for your current illness and decide if he is worth that effort.
Doing it for Ego??…bzzzzz…WRONG ANSWER!. Time to leave OP
Maybe see a professional about whether 1-2 months is enough of a porn detox – if you’d been watching quite a bit then it may take longer than that to reset?
I think a key question is also whether you were ever attracted to her in that way or if something has shifted at some point.
My advice is to untangle whether is a problem that comes from your porn use or not. Then you can make a better decision.
There are great starter resources out there in the sex therapy space that can get you thinking about things in a different way. Might help you untangle things.
Also you can consider that our culture promotes certain sexual norms and it’s actually really ok if sex doesn’t occur to you that often. However the fact that you use porn and masturbate makes me think you do have a naturally strong sex drive.
Ultimately she deserves to be with someone who does have that oo ah ah sensation for her, and you also deserve to be with someone who excites you in that way (assuming that sex is important to both of you).
Long term relationships that lack physical attraction often end up in pretty sad places so if you think you’re just not that attracted to her then at your age I’d suggest moving on. I know sex is just one issue now but trust me when the attraction really wanes when one person still has a strong desire, you can end up in a pretty dead bedroom and it becomes THE issue, and takes up a lot of space.
It is normal to rebalance how you spend time once in a relationship. I’m not sure why you attribute such hurtful labels to everything?
You say you understand but then behave and self talk as if you really don’t understand.
I would seek out a therapist for negative self talk (you can start doing cognitive behavior therapy workbooks while waiting to get in with a therapist) and also definitely work on self soothing and maybe codependency. Good luck in your journey. Start focusing on new things for you now.
The name bigtorchprop is interesting. We own a marine service business welding rebuilding boat props…
she should still give you the f'n password.
If he can’t tell you no then he can’t help you grow and will just tolerate a lot of things. I believe love is a beautiful thing but don’t marry because you love someone. He told you everything you wanted to hear and when you tried to make it happen, he backed out. Love just isn’t enough and sometimes love is only for a season. Enjoy your early 20s, you’re just starting to understand yourself and you have so much time to figure out what you need and want in a partner. When you’re 30, you will not want to dating a 22 year old who still has a baby face and is still developing.
Doesn't actually mean anything to me sorry, just put together three random words
That's what's often called the “honeymoon phase” or “new relationship energy”
..according to dad, the cop.
Finished that for you.
Sorry I mean is this the first time you've posed this question to your OH? Not posted on here lol.
His reaction is definitely strange but not “throw the whole thing away” strange like most of reddit love, youd be better off asking him I feel, and if he continues to rinse and repeat the same over acting, that would be the bone of contention, cos I get it, been there done that, didnt last
Hope you work it out
It sounds Like y'all aren't compatible. You should break up and find some more mature and who listens.
I did once, he was very convincing about regretting it and feeling bad. Then he did it again, never again will I forgive cheating
Makes sense and yeah exactly that could be rejected as well. I wouldn’t think a friendship would just happen right away and it would also take time to develop. I’m still gonna sit on this and give it a bit more time, but I was just curious if it was a good move
You’re dense. You’re an advice page and you think ppl talking about the subject are trying to get with your Bf? You sound jealous, and insecure. I hope the best for your partner. He needs to get rid of you. You are literally what ppl define as TOXIC.
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Bitch doesn’t deserve the ring. Sorry Op and my heart goes out to you. I don’t think you should go back to her either.
Just to add, pubic hair is healthy because it can keep bacteria out of your vagina. So trimming is the way if you want to keep it neat and smelling fresh down there
I tend to have little to no sympathy for people in FWB relationships. It always devolves into this or something just as gross and weird. And those who choose to pursue this deserve all the gross weirdness that comes with it.
That said, yeah….dude's being outright disrespectful. Of course, the fact that you haven't already ended this because “the sex is good” says so much about you specifically, and women in general. The demented levels of abuse and toxicity a woman will endure for good sex might actually exceed the hilariously tragic lengths a man will go to for ANY sex.
You two should just get together. You seem like exactly the right kind of people for each other.
That’s a good point. I know she wants us both to be happy, but I just don’t get emotional and I feel terrible when she does. I never know a good time to bring it up, and she physically removes herself from the room and will get a shower because she wont talk about it. We can/have always been able to talk about anything BUT this.
No way its real. Its a bait xD
Stupid games/stupid prizes
Soooo what exactly genital area of men do you think the joke was referring to, exactly?
Lol copy-write
I would sit her down in a non-confrontational way and say you want to talk to her about something that's on your mind. You could tell her that you really appreciate that she wanted to do something special for your anniversary and that you think she looks awesome in the photos, but it really bothers you that:
a “friend” of yours that would normally never see her hot has seen used this business idea to see her naked you can't help feeling that this “friend” has taken advantage of this business to see your wife hot
I would stress to her that you are not accusing her of anything (ie cheating) but that it does seem like a bit of poor judgment. A photographer is not a doctor or a lawyer. There are no laws or code that requires them to treat the photographs confidentially or to keep them from ending up in the wrong hands (ie him selling them or using them for marketing or obviously for himself). And finally, this whole thing has convinced you that you will be taking a break from this friend and keeping distance from him for a while. But also, you really both need to make sure that he hasn't kept any copies.
Being “strong enough” and “loving each other enough” has zero to do with opening your relationship.
Your relationship can be healthy, strong, loving and still be easily destroyed by one partner wanting to fuck other people. You even admitted you wanted to try poly because of going through a rough time. Recipe for disaster.
Being monogamous for years and assuming your partner feels the same way and then learning they want other people is a horrible experience.
The most successful open/poly relationships start that way.
How about let him hold the grudge forever away from you. It's not a good start of a relationship and I don't see why do you want to keep this going.
If it was a talking stage, you weren't even hooking up. Basically stargers with a possibility of dating.
that is why you dont get married with a 21 yo
You're being really vague about what happened so it's hot to say, but no – there's probably not a way to move on from something if you were open on social media about not caring about your partner. If you were blatantly posting that you did not care or that you wanted someone else or, whatever the case may be, the point is, when you publicly do stuff like that, there is pretty much no hope for the relationship. You need to take this as a lesson in being respectful to your partner and treat your next one better, but I doubt your current boyfriend will ever actually respect you again – assuming that you actually did something wrong. Again, you're very vague.