You are doing a normal, natural, function that is absolutely essential to survival. He is completely out of line.
Unless your are some kind of masochist and what to be treated like garbage for the rest of your life and any kids you have with him would also get treated like garbage by him, you should tell him to get help and then break up and move on.
Retirement savings are automatically included in net-salaries in Germany + I'm included in an additional public service pension sheme.
Kids will be a strain on finances, sure. But I will not frequently travel internationally at that point in time and with my general annual savings and generous government services (like free kindergarten) that will not be a problem.
Buying a house seems to be the main point of contention here.
You can kiss her anywhere else but the lips??? WTH. She will be too much work and will always drag her friend into your issues. Date someone else.
You are doing a normal, natural, function that is absolutely essential to survival. He is completely out of line.
Unless your are some kind of masochist and what to be treated like garbage for the rest of your life and any kids you have with him would also get treated like garbage by him, you should tell him to get help and then break up and move on.
Retirement savings are automatically included in net-salaries in Germany + I'm included in an additional public service pension sheme.
Kids will be a strain on finances, sure. But I will not frequently travel internationally at that point in time and with my general annual savings and generous government services (like free kindergarten) that will not be a problem.
Buying a house seems to be the main point of contention here.
I dress like Monica Geller from Friends actually
He does not have any obligation to help her. Why is he still in contact with her? Did he give you proof of her asking for financial help?
I guess, he cheated. Either he’s still having an affair with her and financially supporting her or she’s blackmailing him.