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Date: October 12, 2022
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Differences of opinion can be managed when the people involved can respect the other's opinion even if they disagree.
Incompatibilities are fundamental differences in values that cannot be compromised on. Children vs no children, for example. Or a particular kink that one believes is necessary for a satisfying sex life and the other finds abhorrent.
Trust your gut.
See what happens if you want to employ an open phone policy.
Good luck
Uh, yes. Lol. She is an absolute piece of shit. What a low quality person. Anyone who steals from someone, especially their SO, is another level of trash
The issue is that he’s manipulating you and not following through on his promises. I wouldn’t want someone like that to begin with. Let’s say it wasn’t marriage but that it was something else he said he would do and didn’t follow through with it. Would it not bother you enough to get out of the relationship? Maybe it’s me but a pattern of not following through to completion the things that you say you will do is a huge turn off. It’s then more disrespectful that he says these things, strings you along, and then pretty much says he flat out not doing it. Nope. Bye.
OP’s husband is not going to “work this out.”
Bad news usually doesn't get any better as it ages. I'd tell her right away (on the phone) but let her know you'll make the best of the situation.
I'm mostly bothered by the lying. I would be more understanding if she told me she was uncomfortable with it and not promise she would do it and not follow through.
I talked to her before and told her I want her to feel like it's the right thing to do and not because she feels pressured by me.
First of all, he’s lying when he says that’s all they have on PH. And I see a lot of other worrisome things here: his childish responses every time you raise a concern, confirmed mommy issues, and absolute refusal to go to therapy to name a few.
His conflict responses are at best a result of his mommy issues and at worst him being manipulative.
He does want you to be a maternal figure and if he doesn’t work through his issues this will continue to affect your relationship. You’re 18–it’s not your job to be mommying him or anyone. I know you say you can’t break up with him but if he’s going to lie and refuse to do anything on his part, why wouldn’t you?
So instead of being mad and triggered you need to reflect on this. She didn’t feel COMFORTABLE opening up and being VULNERABLE with you.
Why are you making this difficult. You guys got engaged at 8 months and you’re not compatible just move on
You're miserable with your life choices, and your solution is that if your partner is also absolutely miserable, maybe you'll feel a bit better. You've gotta lower the hours you either work or go to school and get therapy, cause this isn't healthy
Once the toxic person is removed things improve.
Is this a recent thing? My initial reaction is that you need to give this time. Maybe it changes some dynamics and maybe it doesn't. Maybe you end up drinking less because of this and it helps you, too. Who knows. But just let it play out before making a big deal of it, as this decision on her part is a pretty reasonable one.
If she is sexting her ex that is clearly the relationship she wants
You are just the doorman at this party , your shift is over it's time to leave
It’s not about exercise, it’s about eating more calories then you burn. If you don’t want to work out then don’t eat so much.
He could have made your father understand without sending him to the hospital. Do you really think that’s a normal way to solve problems?
Read what you’ve said!! Your LANDLORD EVICTED YOU because of YOUR BOYFRIENDS YELLING AND ABUSIVE BEHAVIOUR!
Yes you absolutely should “give up on him”. You deserve better than some abusive 37 year old who is threatened by his girlfriend having an apartment.
You have a boyfriend. And a kid. You don't have ANY commitment. None. Nada. Zero. Zilch. You have a guy that can twist you into doing whatever he wants. That's why he's with you. Many of us have been in your position and have years of experience after getting out to have a clear view of what's probably going on. I understand you're defensive, but you came here for advice and you're getting it. You're in a bad spot. And you're stuck with this guy in some way for the next 18 years. Even if you break up tomorrow. You've picked the wrong guy. Now you need to decide if it's worth your dignity and self-esteem to stay or if you need to get your baby, leave, file child support and sole custody paperwork, prepare to take his ass to court, and never look back.
Ok
She's 28, not 2
I find it insane that you were given the okay to adopt because yikes. You're a nightmare.
Let him do his own thing.
You either learn from someone telling you the stove is hot or by burning your hand.
If no one ever turns the stove on though, he never gets the opportunity to learn that.
He probably needs to screw up enough, or be miserable enough without any bailouts so that he is forced to change.
Him figuring that out is the best and quickest way he is going to mature.
So lay off and let the stove heat up.
well first you were groomed so let’s unpack that first
So this happened to a friend of mine. Childhood sweethearts. Her man got skinny and dumped her to experience what was out there. When he had enough fun, he wanted her back.
Block him, find a way to cut all the financial ties and do not talk to him in person. He is sending you videos to make you jealous. He is keeping in contact for two reasons, the first being that he doesn’t want to be the bad guy. But he is. And the second reason is to string you along. You are his safety net. So, if his exploration does work out you will take him back.
Be strong OP!
Hotels aren't public places, you have a private room. Unless you are staying at some cheap as place, you can't hear what people in the next room are doing and no one else in the hotel care what their neighbours are up to because they are busy thinking about themselves, their holiday and the sex they are having.
Girl, I've been you for the last decade or so, and I'm telling you, he ain't dead. I would just about bet my life that is simply more emotional abuse. I'm moving out next week. Gtfo before it destroys you. I became an alcoholic to try to cope, and I will literally die from it. Don't be me.
No. You are not supposed to be equally as important as his spouse and child. Why do you think that? Is it “Because Im his MOOOOOOMMMMMYYYYY!” ??? Thats what you needed to realize before you had any kids, that when you have a child, there will be a time when they grow up, make their own family, and you are no longer the most important person. It sucks, but thats the point of child rearing and parenthood. Raise them and let them go out into the world to be their own person. You sound like the kind of parent who only had children so they could force being the number one person in someones life, not to create a human who will grow and become an individual.