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Date: October 9, 2022
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how do you plan a future with someone like this?
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What do you mean “how”? Personally, I would not even THINK of planning ANY kind of future with someone like your bf.
I would never choose a bf over my dad.
If he doesn't like my dad just because he doesn't get “space” for ONE night a month, then guess what? We're done. Overs. Relationship over. Period.
Same story with my husband. Decided he was worth the risk. After 5 years I technically did test as having been “exposed” to it, but I've never had an outbreak so I don't have to do anything about it.
Ewww. I would not have married such a disgusting man.
Also, he sounds like a selfish, arrogant and sexist pig. What redeeming qualities could he possibly possess??? Don’t put up with his shit – or his bullshit.
I agree that OP should handle it but that's a lot of “don't let hims.” There are three people involved and the boyfriend is one of them. I think that dictating what must be executed could also backfire.
Comfort and inconvenience are the worst possible things to build/continue a relationship on. It’ll just lead to resentment and a worse situation down the line.
Are you sure he is feeling that way or are you projecting onto him how you are feeling? Or is he responding to how you’re acting towards him? You’ve got the space to think things through and take stock of where you want your life to go, so has he bug there is every chance that your conversation about the future and where you are going will turn into how you can face it together and plan together rather than just drifting along.
25 is not too old to be starting again. I got married at 26. My brother is two years younger than me, but didn’t meet his wife until he was in his 30s.
No way to tell, but it does seem very much like a fetish post, or whatever it's called these days. There have been a run of them lately, both here and in other relationship subs like retroactivejealousy, and they're getting out of control. One guy even said (paraphrasing) “My girlfriend pooped on me by accident and I threw up on her. How to proceed?” Ugh.
So yeah, in this case, it's a post just to make a post. Some of these guys must be in a creative writing class.
And failing.
Let's be real…. LDRs do not come without complications. They are insanely challenging to navigate.
The issue in your relationship is hot to decipher, especially when it could be that the distance has finally taken a toll on her.
So, instead of being combative… take the time to understand her side and why she arrived at her current POV… and to do that, it takes gentle communication to pry information that is affecting her side.
You definitely reacted poorly but she's lied to you for 5 years, so I think it's a valid reaction. She absolutely has manipulated you and wasted your time. If she didn't want kids she should have said that sooner. Your future plans clearly don't align. I'd be upset too in your shoes. What you said may have been hurtful to her but she's been actively lying to you for years about this. She doesn't get to pout and be upset— she caused this situation. You need to have a serious talk and if that's truly how she feels, you need to determine whether she's worth giving up kids for or if you need to go your separate ways. Don't agree to stay child free and then let resentment build if you absolutely want kids. Love isn't enough here. Good luck
Op seems completely unwilling to even consider that he was raped which is very heartbreaking. Some ppl deny this shit even to themselves bc it’s too scary to deal with which I get. But that’s absolutely what happened
We have other problems other than the cat. I would never get rid of her, she’s my everything. 🙁
The whole post was only talking about the cat, and the end is this, which was already the vibe. You have other problems, the cat is the brick being hurled at the camel's back, instead of getting out of the way, the camel is continuing to take bricks. You need to get your cat away from him immediately, sorry but if he's comfortable threatening her like that, he'll escalate, especially if he thinks she actually is a threat to something he thinks is important.
Never. Ever. Give anything up for a relationship like this, and especially for women is this incredibly important. This is the time in your life when you're creating your “life backbone” don't start by taking too long to leave an unhealthy relationship with a shitty person. I made that mistake and I have literal and mental scars to show for it, and it started very similarly to your story. All I'm going to say is, I miss my dog greatly.