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Depends what your belief is, unless both are in relationships(and even then) then I don't believe in boy girl friendships.
She has feelings for you and needs space to forget about them. Maybe she'll be able to move on once she finds somebody else but the reality is that your “friendship” qualities led her to wanting to date you and you've turned her down without even giving it a go
Since, you are 19. This job is not a career. I have no doubt you can find a better job then this one. So, maybe look for a new job ASAP and then dump the dude.
I don't think he had sex with those two girls. Also, it's possible that he was ashamed of telling you how he was spending his money. I'm not trying to say he's not guilty at all, he really should've considered the fact that you had a beautiful relationship and he shouldn't have been ashamed of talking to you about that. I know, once you learn that someone has been hiding something from you it's horrible, you live! in constant fear of what he could do behind your back. But listen, there are only two possible ways: you dump him or you try to fix this. I'm not one of those who think that there can't be divorces if you have kids, but from how you described your relationship I think you also wouldn't want to lose that, even if you feel like you've already lost what you had. Personally I would try going to a therapist, individually and as a couple, before throwing everything away. No relationship is perfect, but I don't think that he did something to harm you, even if he should've considered that he could hurt you if you knew that he was hiding something from you. Then, if you feel like you can't fix this, at least you can say you tried your best.
Also, I have a question (I'm not trying to judge at all, just trying to figure out what happened): you said that you had a feeling something was wrong, did you try to ask him or did you just go straight to his phone?
He can just be downright nasty sometimes and honestly, it depends on what kind of mood he's in. It's always a crapshoot. If everything is going his way and he's super happy then nothing I do is wrong. I brace myself for some kind of criticism but he's just super sweet. Yet on days when something went wrong at work or his back hurts (like it did last night) then watch out. Everything I do is wrong. I walk too loud, I keep too much stuff on the bathroom sink, I load the dishwasher in correctly, fold clothes incorrectly.
How is this guy gonna learn if no one calls him out on his shit. If you can't call someone out on their bad behavior they aren't worth hanging out with. Period.
I mean, regardless of what the fight was about, if someone says “you need to ask consent to touch me” then you need to ask consent to touch them. Whether OP’s gf has previous trauma around touch, or she has now just realized that OP can’t read signals correctly — whatever reason she has is completely valid because its her body and she decides who touches it and when. That is not up for debate.
Now, if this is something that OP doesn’t think is viable for the way they view relationships, then they’re incompatible. OP’s gf has set a boundary and OP can either accept it and move forward with that in mind, or not accept it and move away (from the relationship) and move on with their life. Both of those options are also completely valid and not up for debate, unless they are both willing to find a compromise.
Honestly why are you letting politics become such a huge part of your daily conversations??
You’ve been married to the woman for 17 years. You both need to stop giving a fuck about what party’s are or aren’t doing – there is more to life than this shit.
Agree to disagree and stop giving politicians so much airtime in your marriage – it’s ridiculous!
There are a multitude of things outside of this you both could focus on and be fine
Maybe it's just me but I'm still friends with some exes, my boyfriend is still friends with some of his. I trust him, he trusts me. The girl is moving away. You have to trust the person you're with, or what's the point? It's not like he hid what he was going to do and with who.
Yeah you've convinced yourself to leave your wife for your girlfriend. Do it now, don't pretend a moment longer to 'spare your wife.'
Don't hurt her by saying too much – she doesn't need to know all the years you have been carrying on emotionally behind her back, plus the agony of knowing you've pretended to be respectful of her and hold off on the physical stuff.
I hope your wife kicks you out and your girlfriend is too consumed with guilt to keep your relationship going. You deserve to be alone this Christmas.
I’m sorry you were raised this way, but that’s quite a blanket statement. Women can be just as direct and. clear as men.
How many women complain about men not getting their hints, only to have the men complain their wife is being vague and confusing. They DESPERATELY want clear communication and there’s no reason not to give it to them.
Sounds like the past is the past, your friend is single and your husband at the moment is effectively single considering the gap between you and he still wants to stay with you. Idk sound like the past truly is the past and he’s now all about you. You don’t need to just live! for your children. If you want to find love with your husband again then please please begin marriage counseling. It will help you get your head around this. Outcome might be reconciling or divorce but at least it isn’t this painful limbo state you’re in right now.
You will absolutely break up if you move out and that’s okay, I just don’t think you should expect him to be okay with that. You are clearly in different places in life and he is 36, all the stuff you want to put off, he’s probably more than ready for. Moving out puts this thing he wants to be closer to even farther away. You’re going in different directions. Even if you do stay together at first, your desire to be single or at least live! like your single will end the relationship. You can’t expect anyone to stand back and wait for you like that. Just break up with him and move on so he can to.
You absolutely need to let him know of your reasons as to why you don’t want to be around his gf, and that it’s NOT him. I also don’t have an issue with you telling him you don’t like his gf’s personality. However, if you choose to do this you need to do it kindly. Explain that she seems immature in the fact she doesn’t respect other’s boundaries, and even if she agrees to do so going forward, you are not sure you trust her to follow through.
As you need to keep in mind that if they are in love and they continue the relationship, you could then effectively ruin any future relationship with your brother. He may choose her over you.
Also if they do stay together do you plan to avoid every family event she is present? You will have to find a way to work through your issues with her because it’s not right to make anyone choose over your personal issue with her personality.
She might love you. Just not enough to not cheat on you. You deserve better “love” than this.
However for future reference, if there is discrepancy between someone's words and as actions, always trust actions. It's applicable here as well. If you want more elaboare rxplanation it's about “cost” payed. Words are cheap, some “actions” like hugs and kisses are also reasonably cheap. Being faithful is expensive in terms of effort. She can entertain your needs only as long as the cost she pays is low.
She’s an adult who chose to move out of his house. He helps pay her bills. I wouldn’t think to invite her either as the money for her ticket is probably going to her rent. She’s a 25 yo working adult, she accepts responsibility for hiccups like her car when she moves out. We all do. If you want to be independent you have to take all that comes with it. Your parents can’t always bail you out and it seems unfair that his oldest is guilting him for, contrary to what is consistently seen on Reddit, having his priorities aligned.
In case 300 comments saying so weren't enough, here's 301; you are being abused!!! Making a few calls isn't enough, people like this need intense help and he needs to do it now
Because no matter how much you think that your fine with them not saying it back. You really are not. You wish the person you love and adore feels the same towards you.
Yeah, you need to talk about this. To her this is a 'mistake' that she lied about, buried as best she could. To you this is fresh information, and it needs to be processed and worked through.
Thanks I honestly have plenty of family members who were/are ready to track him down if he ever tried and he’s well aware of that which is one of the reasons I trust him
No not at all. I grew up in a family where cutesy names / babying wasn’t a thing and I find it super cringe. What I’ve learned over the years is that – it’s other people’s way of showing affection. It doesn’t have to be the same way you do it – but can teach you/show you other types of affection that you might either grow into or just never be about. I think it sounds like you are really new at navigating relationships and in a stage of discovery about what you like / don’t like and it can be frustrating and annoying at first but with time these things will make more sense to you. Try not to be critical about yourself or others along the way and instead ask more objective questions like – what is this teaching me about me and the people I’m engaging with? Unless things give you weird or creepy vibes or vibes that tell you you’re in danger – try to enjoy it and keep an open mind about you being a student learning about the subject of love/romance as it relates to another person.
OP, you got sucked in because she is manipulative and also because this all happened slowly. Seeing only the red flags written out clean and concise, everyone can see that you need to get out of this relationship. However, none of us were there for the 80% of your relationship that didn’t involve these moments. You have seen the light and that is great, but, don’t blame yourself for not seeing it sooner. I am sure it wasn’t rant after rant about her abuse and weird continued love for her father despite these allegations. It was a comment here, and mention there, some well placed tears over there. I am glad you are leaving, truly, but try not to beat yourself up too much.
Depends what your belief is, unless both are in relationships(and even then) then I don't believe in boy girl friendships.
She has feelings for you and needs space to forget about them. Maybe she'll be able to move on once she finds somebody else but the reality is that your “friendship” qualities led her to wanting to date you and you've turned her down without even giving it a go
Since, you are 19. This job is not a career. I have no doubt you can find a better job then this one. So, maybe look for a new job ASAP and then dump the dude.
I don't think he had sex with those two girls. Also, it's possible that he was ashamed of telling you how he was spending his money. I'm not trying to say he's not guilty at all, he really should've considered the fact that you had a beautiful relationship and he shouldn't have been ashamed of talking to you about that. I know, once you learn that someone has been hiding something from you it's horrible, you live! in constant fear of what he could do behind your back. But listen, there are only two possible ways: you dump him or you try to fix this. I'm not one of those who think that there can't be divorces if you have kids, but from how you described your relationship I think you also wouldn't want to lose that, even if you feel like you've already lost what you had. Personally I would try going to a therapist, individually and as a couple, before throwing everything away. No relationship is perfect, but I don't think that he did something to harm you, even if he should've considered that he could hurt you if you knew that he was hiding something from you. Then, if you feel like you can't fix this, at least you can say you tried your best.
Also, I have a question (I'm not trying to judge at all, just trying to figure out what happened): you said that you had a feeling something was wrong, did you try to ask him or did you just go straight to his phone?
I am certain that a newborn baby will be very adoptable.
He can just be downright nasty sometimes and honestly, it depends on what kind of mood he's in. It's always a crapshoot. If everything is going his way and he's super happy then nothing I do is wrong. I brace myself for some kind of criticism but he's just super sweet. Yet on days when something went wrong at work or his back hurts (like it did last night) then watch out. Everything I do is wrong. I walk too loud, I keep too much stuff on the bathroom sink, I load the dishwasher in correctly, fold clothes incorrectly.
How is this guy gonna learn if no one calls him out on his shit. If you can't call someone out on their bad behavior they aren't worth hanging out with. Period.
I mean, regardless of what the fight was about, if someone says “you need to ask consent to touch me” then you need to ask consent to touch them. Whether OP’s gf has previous trauma around touch, or she has now just realized that OP can’t read signals correctly — whatever reason she has is completely valid because its her body and she decides who touches it and when. That is not up for debate.
Now, if this is something that OP doesn’t think is viable for the way they view relationships, then they’re incompatible. OP’s gf has set a boundary and OP can either accept it and move forward with that in mind, or not accept it and move away (from the relationship) and move on with their life. Both of those options are also completely valid and not up for debate, unless they are both willing to find a compromise.
So she cheated………..
I just randomly checked his photo gallery
Did the phone just randomly unlock itself and the randomly entered the photo gallery and then randomly opened that video?
How dumb have you have to be to cheat, and to film it and then just leave it like that openly.
This relationship sounds toxic….
You're right. I hate that I make him feel this way. I have to leave him alone. Thank you for reminding of me that.
Honestly why are you letting politics become such a huge part of your daily conversations??
You’ve been married to the woman for 17 years. You both need to stop giving a fuck about what party’s are or aren’t doing – there is more to life than this shit.
Agree to disagree and stop giving politicians so much airtime in your marriage – it’s ridiculous!
There are a multitude of things outside of this you both could focus on and be fine
“Holey moley! What is that, 9 inches?!”
“And a half!”
Maybe it's just me but I'm still friends with some exes, my boyfriend is still friends with some of his. I trust him, he trusts me. The girl is moving away. You have to trust the person you're with, or what's the point? It's not like he hid what he was going to do and with who.
Yeah, I need to reduce it but I guess I am too addicted… I will be cutting back. Thanks for the advice!
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Yeah you've convinced yourself to leave your wife for your girlfriend. Do it now, don't pretend a moment longer to 'spare your wife.'
Don't hurt her by saying too much – she doesn't need to know all the years you have been carrying on emotionally behind her back, plus the agony of knowing you've pretended to be respectful of her and hold off on the physical stuff.
I hope your wife kicks you out and your girlfriend is too consumed with guilt to keep your relationship going. You deserve to be alone this Christmas.
Honestly, anyone who snores should see a sleep specialist and get a sleep study done.
I’m sorry you were raised this way, but that’s quite a blanket statement. Women can be just as direct and. clear as men.
How many women complain about men not getting their hints, only to have the men complain their wife is being vague and confusing. They DESPERATELY want clear communication and there’s no reason not to give it to them.
Sounds like the past is the past, your friend is single and your husband at the moment is effectively single considering the gap between you and he still wants to stay with you. Idk sound like the past truly is the past and he’s now all about you. You don’t need to just live! for your children. If you want to find love with your husband again then please please begin marriage counseling. It will help you get your head around this. Outcome might be reconciling or divorce but at least it isn’t this painful limbo state you’re in right now.
No, he hasn’t talked to her since that text, other than when we met in couples.
You will absolutely break up if you move out and that’s okay, I just don’t think you should expect him to be okay with that. You are clearly in different places in life and he is 36, all the stuff you want to put off, he’s probably more than ready for. Moving out puts this thing he wants to be closer to even farther away. You’re going in different directions. Even if you do stay together at first, your desire to be single or at least live! like your single will end the relationship. You can’t expect anyone to stand back and wait for you like that. Just break up with him and move on so he can to.
If you don't live! together it's easy. Tell her and explain why. Tell her you don't wish to talk to her anymore and then block everywhere.
Updateme!
You absolutely need to let him know of your reasons as to why you don’t want to be around his gf, and that it’s NOT him. I also don’t have an issue with you telling him you don’t like his gf’s personality. However, if you choose to do this you need to do it kindly. Explain that she seems immature in the fact she doesn’t respect other’s boundaries, and even if she agrees to do so going forward, you are not sure you trust her to follow through.
As you need to keep in mind that if they are in love and they continue the relationship, you could then effectively ruin any future relationship with your brother. He may choose her over you.
Also if they do stay together do you plan to avoid every family event she is present? You will have to find a way to work through your issues with her because it’s not right to make anyone choose over your personal issue with her personality.
So she broke boundaries and got you to comfort her?
She might love you. Just not enough to not cheat on you. You deserve better “love” than this.
However for future reference, if there is discrepancy between someone's words and as actions, always trust actions. It's applicable here as well. If you want more elaboare rxplanation it's about “cost” payed. Words are cheap, some “actions” like hugs and kisses are also reasonably cheap. Being faithful is expensive in terms of effort. She can entertain your needs only as long as the cost she pays is low.
She’s an adult who chose to move out of his house. He helps pay her bills. I wouldn’t think to invite her either as the money for her ticket is probably going to her rent. She’s a 25 yo working adult, she accepts responsibility for hiccups like her car when she moves out. We all do. If you want to be independent you have to take all that comes with it. Your parents can’t always bail you out and it seems unfair that his oldest is guilting him for, contrary to what is consistently seen on Reddit, having his priorities aligned.
Thank you I will get out matter afact
you need to tackle his shitty communication skills for good.
Why are you getting so ahead of yourself and getting so upset? Most people get upset after, not before.
Multiple reports from other people will help.
Children have a bedtime. It sounds like you're infantilizing your partner.
In case 300 comments saying so weren't enough, here's 301; you are being abused!!! Making a few calls isn't enough, people like this need intense help and he needs to do it now
Thank you. That adds up from what i have heard about guys. Should I also not worry that she deleted the prior messages fairly recently?
Because no matter how much you think that your fine with them not saying it back. You really are not. You wish the person you love and adore feels the same towards you.
Yeah, you need to talk about this. To her this is a 'mistake' that she lied about, buried as best she could. To you this is fresh information, and it needs to be processed and worked through.
Ziplock bags come in very many sizes, some are quite small. Also if she's owned more than 1 ex-pet it's sensible to label the bags.
You sound like you're trying hard to overdramatize the situation
She is not pressuring you. She's asking you. She deserves some of your time as well.
Set aside time each week to do a task with her.
Thanks I honestly have plenty of family members who were/are ready to track him down if he ever tried and he’s well aware of that which is one of the reasons I trust him
No not at all. I grew up in a family where cutesy names / babying wasn’t a thing and I find it super cringe. What I’ve learned over the years is that – it’s other people’s way of showing affection. It doesn’t have to be the same way you do it – but can teach you/show you other types of affection that you might either grow into or just never be about. I think it sounds like you are really new at navigating relationships and in a stage of discovery about what you like / don’t like and it can be frustrating and annoying at first but with time these things will make more sense to you. Try not to be critical about yourself or others along the way and instead ask more objective questions like – what is this teaching me about me and the people I’m engaging with? Unless things give you weird or creepy vibes or vibes that tell you you’re in danger – try to enjoy it and keep an open mind about you being a student learning about the subject of love/romance as it relates to another person.
OP, you got sucked in because she is manipulative and also because this all happened slowly. Seeing only the red flags written out clean and concise, everyone can see that you need to get out of this relationship. However, none of us were there for the 80% of your relationship that didn’t involve these moments. You have seen the light and that is great, but, don’t blame yourself for not seeing it sooner. I am sure it wasn’t rant after rant about her abuse and weird continued love for her father despite these allegations. It was a comment here, and mention there, some well placed tears over there. I am glad you are leaving, truly, but try not to beat yourself up too much.
Kind of like I’ll shave it off when you get rid of your ugly bathroom decorations kind of a thing.
Why do you get to keep your ugly decorations, but he doesnt get to keep his?
Rum ham
What can I do? Because they bring up the idea of trying to fix this but never seem to respond when they’re needed to.