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She probably knew you were going to propose. She used that as a green light to increase her level of abuse, because she had you “hooked”. Basically “look everyone at this chump i have wrapped around my finger”. However, she jumped the gun and revealed her true colors.
She did you a favor and gave you a glimpse of your future as an abuse victim. Its one of both physical and psychological abuse. Doesn’t seem like a good time, does it? Run and don’t look back.
Sell the house, take your investments back as you both put them in (if you gain on the sale, make it equitable, same if a loss) and then reboot.
It’s just a house … your relationship may be forever but you won’t know if you break up because of a bad purchase.
You just tell him that you care about him but this doesn’t feel compatible for the long term and that you will be moving out and ending things.
Let it go. Let him go.
Rather than judging you, I'm going to actually answer your request:
Communication is key at every step, the entire time, forever. Check in with each other regularly about your emotional state in regards to the situations; are you still both okay with it? Is someone getting uncomfortable, and maybe you need to put a hold on things for a while? You need to be able to clearly articulate what (if any) boundaries you have, and so does she. Consent can be retracted at any time; both of you have the right to both revoke the entire arrangement and to veto a specific partner at any time, before the fact. You can't retro-actively forbid a specific partner or cancel the arrangement and get feisty about a violation of the rules. You must decide on whatever ground rules you want mutually, and stick with them. Any changes must be agreed on together, before they take effect. Is this a “don't ask don't tell” situation or can you talk about your encounters? Or does she want a play-by-play? Are there limits to your activities? No kissing (this never works, btw), no vaginal, no anal, whatever? Are there requirements for your activities? Always wear a condom? Get on PrEP? Regular testing? Is there a “who” restriction? Some couples insist on one-night stands only, other couples insist on a single regular partner, others have all kinds of other versions of those rules. It doesn't matter what you choose, so long as you and your girlfriend are both okay with it. Is there a “where” restriction? Some couples have a simple “not in my bed” rule, some don't want it in their home, some it doesn't matter as long as the uninvolved partner isn't home, some partners insist on only playing together. Again, it doesn't matter what you choose, so long as you and your girlfriend are both okay with it. What permissions does she have? Your post indicates that she still has some sexual desire and capability for activity, does she have the same rights you do (trust me, she'd better)? Make sure that whatever you do, your sex life with her always comes first. When she's up for it, you need to be; if you're not because you're worn out from indulging with someone else, she's going to feel neglected and secondary no matter what the circumstances are. You both have to be down for this. If one of you is a bit reluctant, that's one thing, but if she's just doing this to “save” the relationship she thinks will fail if she doesn't, then the relationship is going to fail anyway. That's the one circumstance where open relationships are guaranteed to fail – when one party doesn't want to be open but agrees because they think it'll save the relationship. Those are the stories everyone tells (“Oh, I knew a couple who opened their relationship, it fell apart not long after”) and they happen because the relationship was already failing, and allowing people to go have sex with other people doesn't heal the fundamentals of the relationship
My only concern here is that she's doing this because of her disability and that she sees this as the only way to save things. If that's the case, it's going to hurt her very much and things are going to end even more messily than they would otherwise. You need to have a real heart-to-heart with her and dig deep to figure out if this is something she's really interested in or if she's doing it to “save the relationship”. Because if it's the latter, it not only won't save the relationship, it'll bring about the collapse a lot harder, a lot messier, and a lot more painfully than it would be if you just break up.
You should also consider how you feel about this. Open relationships sound great, but they're a lot of work and they're complex. If you're both seriously interested in trying this, it can be a lot of fun. If you're not though, if one of you is uncomfortable or feels like they're under duress, it's just going to make things much worse, and you're better off ending things now.
Either way, best of luck to you!
Im not doing anything to him
You don’t really have to do anything, but now you’ve learned to not drink things someone randomly hands to you. Or at least, smell them first.
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I 27F have been with Eric 32M since college. We have a house together in the middle of nowhere texas.
For the most part, we’re sexually active and we have sex almost every day. The problem is that he’s not able to come or stay hot during real sex unless it’s the back door. The back door is extremely painful and I’ve gotten a UTI once before because of it and at that point I said no more of this. It’s been 4 years since then and sex was normal. It was until he complained that he wasn’t able to finish since the start of our relationship, and I was getting too loose too fast. He got mad and told me how fed up he was. He said it was like going in the hallway. I’ve tried everything possible to try to fix it. I’ve tried kegels, tightening creams, even made an appointment to the doctor.
He has continued to pressure me into going the other way and at one point did it without my knowledge and I didn’t notice until it hurt. I had to scream at him to stop. He told me to get tighter so he wouldn’t have to go the other way.
A week later I’m showing symptoms reminiscent to the last UTI I had. Now I have to see a doctor. I’m both sad and pissed.
Is there any way to fix this so he doesn’t do this anymore?
TL:DR He said I wasn’t tight and went the other way and gave me a UTI.
If I were you, I would write him a letter and tell him to read it when he’s alone.
Explain what happened (put a copy of the toxicology report in there if you want), and explain to him that, because of what happened, you’re not going to discuss whether he was right or not about you going out. Tell him the facts. Tell him you didn’t want this to happen and it was done against your will.
Tell him that if he wants to support you, he can’t bring up your past discussion, but besides that, you want his support. If he won’t support you, tell him it’s over.
You're acting like everyone has the same opportunities and choices. Outside of a few rich western countries the options are more limited, he can't just quit school and work and go back to university later.