At first, he was doing an exam to change his job and took a year off work to study for it. He told me he would tell them when he passes this exam. He hardly studied and failed it so I asked him what he would do now and he told me he would tell them when he gets a job. He has a job now.
Girl hell nah.
This was red flag number 1.
Grown ass man taking time off to laze about. And you're going to hitch yourself to him? ????
Honestly , I skimmmed your answer by the end. But I feel like I got the gist. Made me cry to think of how you treat your wife… I wish I felt that love. It wasn’t mentioned but I did take on the tasks of his two huskies (3&4 year old). He works a lot where I dont, so I took a brunt end of the responsibility for them.
In the children aspect, I get it. It isn’t for everyone. Maybe not even for me. But I’ve dreamed of a “unit” that I can have. Maybe this post is showing myself that the “unit” I tried to build isn’t what I hoped for
If he’s already ghosting you and then you find the tinder account, the relationship is over. He already mentally broke up with you. Don’t even bother reaching out to him at all, he doesn’t care. Just block his number and move on.
This is one of those situations where you won’t get the closure you’re seeking and anything you say or do to continue to communicate with him will be turned against you.
I am so sorry this happened to you 🙁 you are strong and capable and you will get through this!!!
At first, he was doing an exam to change his job and took a year off work to study for it. He told me he would tell them when he passes this exam. He hardly studied and failed it so I asked him what he would do now and he told me he would tell them when he gets a job. He has a job now.
Girl hell nah.
This was red flag number 1.
Grown ass man taking time off to laze about. And you're going to hitch yourself to him? ????
It's wild to me that because most men might do this, it's okay. It's not
I could see construction type situations this occurring.
Your very sound advice is worthy of tagging OP in case she'll see it… u/throwrakalo
Honestly , I skimmmed your answer by the end. But I feel like I got the gist. Made me cry to think of how you treat your wife… I wish I felt that love. It wasn’t mentioned but I did take on the tasks of his two huskies (3&4 year old). He works a lot where I dont, so I took a brunt end of the responsibility for them.
In the children aspect, I get it. It isn’t for everyone. Maybe not even for me. But I’ve dreamed of a “unit” that I can have. Maybe this post is showing myself that the “unit” I tried to build isn’t what I hoped for
Go surrender more of your time to the county jail loser. I'm pro choice and this story is fucking infuriating. You're an irresponsible pos
No worries, sometimes you just need to vent.
Do you have any real basis to your fear that he won't help you if you're down on your luck? Because if you do, then that's a little worrying.
If you dont, trust me I know that insecurities can be crippling at times, but talk to him OP.
If he’s already ghosting you and then you find the tinder account, the relationship is over. He already mentally broke up with you. Don’t even bother reaching out to him at all, he doesn’t care. Just block his number and move on.
This is one of those situations where you won’t get the closure you’re seeking and anything you say or do to continue to communicate with him will be turned against you.