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My juices in ur mouth, your cum inside of me, that’s all we need , ❤️ // GOAL: My orgams [168 tokens remaining]
Date: December 17, 2022
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You can leave for any reason you want. If you don’t want to live like that you don’t have too. It is worse to stay and be resentful, only you can make this decision.
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What does carpel tunnel have to do with being a counselor?
Good stuff.
First thing:
Addressing the elephant in the room with her. Both of you feel like something is off, stop pretending things are normal. Then decide what the next move is together.
Social Life:
Neither of you have life outside of this. People need multiple sources of fulfillment. Putting the entire weight on the relationship for your fulfillment, that is too much of a burden.
Easier said than done, but developing your own social life is a great way to reduce the dependency. If you're into sports, joining a men's league team is a good time.
Getting something else into your life for the both of you will be healthy. You need other reasons to be excited about, more color.
An incompatibility:
Multiple times you've mentioned how you feel that you're not being authentic
I would ideally like it if my partner required a little less affection/attention from me, as I'm just generally more of a stoic person who has some difficulty emoting in the way she probably wants/needs.
That's hot one to balance as it's what she needs in return.
However, it makes you feel like you're pretending… which dulls you. But this is how you function as a person, so that needs to be taken into consideration in the relationship as well.
Like I said earlier, less of it, but a more quality version of it in return.
This side of you needs to be understood by her. You can't fake your actions.
On the contrary, expect a compromise. Maybe expect less of me in that department, and I will put more effort into initiating sex.
Crossroads:
This is a normal position for a relationship. You two had an easy ride getting here. But now the reality of things are settling in.
How genuine do your personalities work, and how well this relationship fits for you. This is where the meat and potatoes come in.
There needs to be more openness and communication about how the relationship is structured… you cannot without this information and neglect yourself in the relationship.
Why? Because when your partner understands you on the deeper levels to give you what you actually need… is attractive. Like real effort, the type that compromises and understands. Working together.
Sex life:
No idea what that looks like… but if you enjoy sex, and don't look forward to it with her… that needs an update.
Get a buzz going together, throw on some music… something simple like that can change the atmosphere in the room drastically.
Shake some things up, throw toys into the mix, new positions, lingerie. If that's not your cup of tea, so be it. But if there are things that you would like to see, then communicate it, so you get excited about it.
Regardless of the frequency, there needs to be a real desire for each-other where you both look forward to it.
Conclusion:
Getting into a relationship is easy… maintaining it / improving it, is that hard part.
You have be more honest about yourself and genuine with her.
You can't go:
I am doing this to satisfy her, but it is also makes me struggle at the same time.
That doesn't work. If you're not real with each-other, eventually the reality of the relationship shows.
The reality is showing now… its a matter of how you two want to handle it.
Yeah that timeline is horrible for both parties. If this ex is more of the assumption they are separated to work things out, get some space etc which is not at all uncommon then she would indeed be devastated and make things difficult. If OP is rebound then that would be revealed by him having to choose sides and then again sucks for both parties. How this man would move in with someone new directly after a 9 year long relationship is wither absolutely vile or he needs somewhere to crash. In mho
Oh.. sorry. A friend told me you should put this. ?
You don't get to dictate or demand that she forgive anyone for any reason. You are being incredibly selfish here.