It sounds like she has insecure attachment. It's possible she has abandonment issues. Maybe there's trauma in her childhood. I don't know. It would be healthy for her to maybe go to therapy for that so she could develop a sense of independence from you and develop some more security in the relationship.
No, my love. This is unacceptable. Is this really how you want to spend the rest of your life? Or even the next three months? If he is gay, and using you as a shield, that is beyond selfish and cruel, but YOU are the one putting up with it.
He will never change. I don’t know if you want children, but he is never going to give them to you.
You deserve better. But until you realize that, you are going to be stuck in this loveless marriage. My worthless two cents is don’t remarry him in June. Get a divorce attorney. Since you have never consummated the marriage, it might be annulment, unless there’s a time restriction.
Get all your duckies in a row.
Don’t waste any more of YOUR life on this man who is never going to be a husband to you, and puts ‘friend’ first—before you. His wife.
He has shown you all this in his actions.
Don’t allow him to keep showing you.
And anyone gives you a hot time for leaving him, be honest. Say, I’m tired of being in a marriage where my husband won’t touch me, won’t be with me, and hasn’t even had sex with me, in six years.
I had to reread your ages because I thought you were both teenagers or maybe in your early twenties. Approving each other’s friends? Controlling who you talk to? Caring who someone had a crush on years ago? Talk about immature and insecure.
One of my best friends had a crush on me when we were younger. I didn’t feel the same way, and it was awkward for a little but we moved past it. A few years later, I was in his wedding. Next year he’s going to be in mine. You can forbid your man from ever speaking to another woman ever again, but it won’t fix what’s wrong inside of you.
I wouldn't want to have kids with my husband if he didn't want them too. He would be a horrible dad then. Wouldn't bond with the forced baby and what if he resented the kid all his or her life.
Nope get a woman that actually loves children and wants to be a mother. As a current pregnant woman
PREGNANCY IS DIFFICULT AF!!
u dont sleep, u cant always eat, everything makes u nauseous, i cant sleep without getting heartburn in the middle of the fucking night, my feet swell up i cant use my hands properly because they swell up, u have backpain, side pain fucking round ligament pain. And u get fat and verrrrry emotional!
U cannot do all of THIS ⬆️ without actually being happy ur carrying this little bundle. I love my daughter i wanted her, her father wanted her. But I've had a difficult pregnancy and the birthing process is scary and u can't just dip out after they are born.
Post partum depression is a heavy fucking thing my cousin went through as she didn't really want to keep the baby but her bf was so excited she didn't wanna lose him.. bfs a single dad now. She couldn't handle being a mom because she didn't want to be one in the first place!
Don't traumatize a whole child because of selfish reasons. It's completely okay to not want kids and its completely okay to want them! But if yall have opposite views ur gonna be terrible fucking parents.
I wouldn't have wanted a mom i cld tell never wanted me. Already had a dad like that. Being that kid.. isn't fun.
I dont care how much u care about her, how much u love her or feel connected to her. If u two have different values and lifegoals get rid rn before u drag kids into this mess i beg of u.
Yes, YATA.
It sounds like she has insecure attachment. It's possible she has abandonment issues. Maybe there's trauma in her childhood. I don't know. It would be healthy for her to maybe go to therapy for that so she could develop a sense of independence from you and develop some more security in the relationship.
No, my love. This is unacceptable. Is this really how you want to spend the rest of your life? Or even the next three months? If he is gay, and using you as a shield, that is beyond selfish and cruel, but YOU are the one putting up with it.
He will never change. I don’t know if you want children, but he is never going to give them to you.
You deserve better. But until you realize that, you are going to be stuck in this loveless marriage. My worthless two cents is don’t remarry him in June. Get a divorce attorney. Since you have never consummated the marriage, it might be annulment, unless there’s a time restriction.
Get all your duckies in a row.
Don’t waste any more of YOUR life on this man who is never going to be a husband to you, and puts ‘friend’ first—before you. His wife.
He has shown you all this in his actions.
Don’t allow him to keep showing you.
And anyone gives you a hot time for leaving him, be honest. Say, I’m tired of being in a marriage where my husband won’t touch me, won’t be with me, and hasn’t even had sex with me, in six years.
Many blessings…?
I forgot about the gun. dammit. OP pls leave without a word. Go someplace he can't find you.
I had to reread your ages because I thought you were both teenagers or maybe in your early twenties. Approving each other’s friends? Controlling who you talk to? Caring who someone had a crush on years ago? Talk about immature and insecure.
One of my best friends had a crush on me when we were younger. I didn’t feel the same way, and it was awkward for a little but we moved past it. A few years later, I was in his wedding. Next year he’s going to be in mine. You can forbid your man from ever speaking to another woman ever again, but it won’t fix what’s wrong inside of you.
I wouldn't want to have kids with my husband if he didn't want them too. He would be a horrible dad then. Wouldn't bond with the forced baby and what if he resented the kid all his or her life.
Nope get a woman that actually loves children and wants to be a mother. As a current pregnant woman
PREGNANCY IS DIFFICULT AF!!
u dont sleep, u cant always eat, everything makes u nauseous, i cant sleep without getting heartburn in the middle of the fucking night, my feet swell up i cant use my hands properly because they swell up, u have backpain, side pain fucking round ligament pain. And u get fat and verrrrry emotional!
U cannot do all of THIS ⬆️ without actually being happy ur carrying this little bundle. I love my daughter i wanted her, her father wanted her. But I've had a difficult pregnancy and the birthing process is scary and u can't just dip out after they are born.
Post partum depression is a heavy fucking thing my cousin went through as she didn't really want to keep the baby but her bf was so excited she didn't wanna lose him.. bfs a single dad now. She couldn't handle being a mom because she didn't want to be one in the first place!
Don't traumatize a whole child because of selfish reasons. It's completely okay to not want kids and its completely okay to want them! But if yall have opposite views ur gonna be terrible fucking parents.
I wouldn't have wanted a mom i cld tell never wanted me. Already had a dad like that. Being that kid.. isn't fun.
I dont care how much u care about her, how much u love her or feel connected to her. If u two have different values and lifegoals get rid rn before u drag kids into this mess i beg of u.
There are no magic words that will make him care about your feelings.