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Hi hi , ? I’m Yvette? Let’s have some fun together?, 18 y.o.
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Date: October 12, 2022
What drugs did you take?
Simple. You are incompatible. She likes to swim very hot with guys. You don’t like it. Talking to her won’t make a difference because she is not going to stop just because you want her to. You need a girlfriend who has the same views as you have. There is no compromise here.
I have a lot of things to say and I'm going to number them. If you think one piece of advice is off or you're not going to be receptive to it, please just go on to the next thing.
Don't get romantically involved with coworkers you are still currently working with. It's just a bad idea. I think this is going to be the hardest point for you to hear, but what are you doing for her? And I don't mean that in a mean way, I mean that in a “let's look at this constructively” way. We heard she's a great listener, she knows exactly the right thing to say to you to calm you down, she's a good friend, she's always there for you, etc. We have heard you think about her all the time, want the best for her, and bought her concert tickets, but have also repeatedly attempted to ask her out even though you know she has a boyfriend. That doesn't sound like someone who respects her choices or agency, that sounds like someone who doesn't understand the boundaries between friendship, kindness, and romantic feelings. She's playing your therapist, your confidant, and your friend while navigating her own addictions and relationship issues. You're thinking nice thoughts about her, asking her to dump her boyfriend for you, bought her concert tickets, and thinking she'll fall into deep addiction if she sees an ex. Has it ever occurred to you that her ex might be able to understand her and her addiction more than you ever could? Or that she provides the same kind of support to her ex that she gives to you? Has it ever occurred to you that her current boyfriend provides support you don't? Has it ever occurred to you that you're not providing nearly as much support to her as she gives to you? Again, I'm not saying this to be mean, I'm saying this as a suggestion to think about what you've really given her. You “laid out everything” during a crisis in her life. Her ex almost killed himself and she's trying to see him. Instead of supporting her, you told her you loved her and wanted to build a future together. You asked her to dump her current boyfriend, stop seeing her ex, and “pick you” essentially. I don't blame her for saying “no” to that. This is not the time for confessions, and it's honestly really selfish and immature to bring that up right now. You were “beat out” by the guy she was already dating. The man SHE CHOSE. There was no race – she'd already called the winner – you shouldn't have kept pushing her. Asking her to leave her boyfriend for you when she was just being a good friend shows such a lack of respect for her.
Damn this is the biggest case of “you played yourself” I’ve seen in a while. You wasted 10!!! years of your life being your BIL’ side piece. Don’t waste a second longer. You have to move on.
ETA I don’t think you internalise yet that spending 10 years banging the same dude WILL lead to an emotional connection, and that’s why you’re feeling this way. Take some time away from him. find a rebound.
Do the interview, keep question the relationship
He probably hasn't experienced it either so he's figuring it all out himself. Give him grace.
Well there's no right and wrong way to do this stuff right. It's what each personal is comfortable with.
I get the feeling the intimacy aspect may be an issue? Are you bothered that what should be in your eyes, private moments, are being shared with the world?
Just to jump onto this, I think you need to also reframe the situation in your head. This isn’t an issue between you and your wife, it’s a problem you’re both facing together, and choosing to address differently. A conversation will help you two address those differences and present a more unified front.
You can’t help people’s perceptions, but I feel like you’re targeting your resentment in the wrong place. Remember your wife can’t control this the same way you can’t, but you two can control how you respond. Be honest with your feelings during your conversation, but don’t accuse her of being the problem.
It’ll be a tough road ahead, but as long as you have each other, you’ll navigate through this challenge.
Yea for telling ABC to be quiet, seems like a lovely person.
a) why would you do this?
b) what are you hoping to achieve?
c) play out what happens if you find whatever you’re looking for
Nothing she’s exonerated,
Some talking, could be interpreted as flirty by him but you can tell it wasn’t,
She was outright flirting, but she absolutely didn’t ask for that photo,
Outright cheating and phone sex,
Messages confirming they fucked in 2008, they fucked in 2020, that it wasn’t bad, she’s always loved him, etc etc.
What does any of this lead to? Does any of that appeal to you?
d) does she know this is still a sore point? Have you spoken to her? Have you considered that if you said to her “I have this insecurity that isn’t your fault and I have this thought in my mind that you maybe did request it, and I know you wouldn’t but the invasive thought it hurting me, would you mind recovering the messages so I can prove to myself it was not requested and that will help me to combat my invasive thoughts”.
e) have you considered therapy.
Call the police, NOW.