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This screams “I did something awful and going to hide it through anger” to me.
You’ve got a point but yet he insists that all of I what I do means nothing without this added dimension and I just can’t understand what it is I am meant to be doing. I wondered what anyone else would make of this because I am at a bit of a loss.
Huh I always thought so but some sources live! say it’s fine
She planned it out and concealed it from you, the thing about cheating is if you don’t come clean then your deceiving, how do you have a healthy relationship with such a person?
I imagine she would regret it at this point, if you are her first and only there is a good chance she was wondering what else it out there
Then you can't be friends anymore. You're not going to be able to stop having feelings for her as long as you stay in contact with her. It's understandable why she feels uncomfortable and scared.
Is there any way to read these after they get deleted? I keep running into these sorts of posts…
Think of it positively! Your dad cares more about you and your well-being than he does about his wife AS HE SHOULD!
you not telling/showing ur dad the nasty messages his wife sent u is just hiding his wives true colours from him that only you can see, he needed his eyes open to how his wife was treating his son behind close doors!
you may think u ruined him happiness now but I guarantee that he would rather his son be happy and comfortable with his SO instead of his son being abused bc he’s afraid to ruin his dads happiness.
Don’t blame yourself or your girlfriend, the wife was trash and needed to go to the dump anyways.
Wow. FUCK this guy. He told you that he considers SA = consenting sex. Huge red flag. Run.
Yes I agree with you completely. I think what I was worried about was how to word it without upsetting him, but I guess as long as I put it nicely I can’t control his reaction/emotions.
Bro it's okay to be the weak one in the relationship I suggest therapy I think you might need some help in some department before
Nope.
Is there something inherently threatening or sexual about the way she dances? To be frank it sort of just sounds like annoying drunk folks being annoying and drunk, OP.
Is there something inherently threatening or sexual about the way she dances? To be frank it sort of just sounds like annoying drunk folks being annoying and drunk, OP.
I understand your current position where you lost one [ sorry about this ] and one doesn't want to communicate blaming it on you.
Have you thought about just leaving things the way they are and let time heal it? Some wounds are just better left alone, let time do the healing.
He wants to cheat on you with permission.
A lot of states have shared liability with debts and assets after marriage. It’s not necessarily that you need to combine finances, but if someone is talking marriage then they absolutely need to be an open book about their financial status. Even if you don’t plan to combine finances, it’s important to understand what debts/liabilities the other has.
This doesn’t mean that one can’t have a reasonable rainy day fund kept secret (whether man or woman), but if someone has credit card debt/student loan debt/3 mortgages that is critical information to make life altering decisions like marriage. Or, if they’re in a community property state – it’s especially critical to understand how a potential spouse handles money.
I can understand someone worth millions might want to keep that secret to assure they are loved for them not their money, but more often than not secrecy is because they’re either bad with money, have gambling issues, or have risks that they don’t want their future spouse to know about.
I would not marry someone nor combine households without an accurate financial picture, even with a prenup. Marriage is a financial partnership in a lot of regards just as it is an emotional one.
I do feel like they should have checked with me. They were worried about me and how I would react, so should have come to me. My husband and I will be restarting therapy in the new year.
Fourthed
Don't do it. If she stated that years later I would wonder. Maybe. But not so soon after. It seems more like that saying about cake. Wanting both to have you and others when she wants to. She's being selfish.
Just mind your business.
Right, it's not about trust.
It's about being respectful and consider. Relationships are literally built on communication. If you fail to communicate well than bad shit happens. Like here. Ops gf failed to communicate and now's there's a issue ??♀️
I spend 3 days (+/-1) a week at his place, and I've only really seen him mad once and he yelled at his daughter then, which we also had a conversation about not happening again. Other than that instance and this situation now, things have been pretty non-stressful.
Thank you for reminding me of the honeymoon period ?
Get a paternity test
thank you dan the things we do for love i’ll take this into consideration
Steve tubbed me yesterday only a guy like steve can do that
I would just be honest with them, that while you enjoy meeting the person they care about (their boyfriends), you'd like some time with just them to catch up on stuff that would bore their boyfriends to death.
If you walk away from this man you will feel better. He told you that on purpose to hurt you and make you feel jealous and insecure.
Do you have hobbies of your own? Have you ever tried joining him in gaming?
I’ve talked through things with my pastor and he says to keep the baby and ask my parents to take us in. I think they would since I’d be leaving my life but I don’t know if denying myself would be right. My hometown is a bit racist and so are my parents church. I just don’t know
Thank you ?
i mean…… its way better than the reverse………
It might be different for you, but have her be the babysitter if your daughter in law is going back to work. I am a tich younger than your wife and I watch my daughter's baby and let me tell you, having an infant at 18/21 and even a toddler and a baby at 21 is a whole different ballgame. I have my routine and this baby is destroying all of that and it frustrates me. If I could/wanted to have another baby, I would nope out of that so fast, I'd be a blur.
My mom's best friend had a child at 49. Kids a fuckin demon tho so I second no baby.
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They fucked.
Now what are you going to do with this information?
I hope you don’t stay with him.
You know what's funny, a week or so ago was a post in here with a man who was early 20's dating a woman in her 50's. Not ONE person said she was a predator. I believe the age difference was roughly 30 years but since it was a younger guy nobody batted an eye.
Double standard, much?
I think so
I do love them for who they are they are my kids and I love them so much you can’t call my love for them hollow and empty I love them with every bit of love I have
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This is so weird.
It’s an event to celebrate sobriety, she’s not being asked to hide all her booze. It’s not “altering your life” to attend events that are significant to your partners family when you’ve been dating for 5 years.
If you can’t give up one afternoon a year after that long just because you’d be bored you’re a shitty partner.
She didn't kiss, they definitely had sex. Keep the text messages as proof and talk to a divorce attorney. Bad marriages are not an excuse for cheating. What's your living arrangement? If the house in your name or her or both? Just don't leave the house so she can move in the new man in her life and then unexpectedly meet your children. Your marriage is over but you need to make the first move and divorce her.
This sounds like a good idea but hard to execute in reality
Thank you man I hope she understands and it goes over I really like her.
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I agree. I would be happy to get married with a prenup. I don’t think it necessarily makes things less complicated than not getting married and setting out your legal preferences via wills and deeds though.
In either case, I would advocate thinking about and agreeing the legal matters that you would associate with marriage in advance.
I guarantee he’s cheating ?
People like this drive me nuts. Oh then baby doesn’t look like me…..ok, there’s more than one parent the kid can look like and sometimes it’s someone else in the family. Small minded asshole
Did she ask for the hard or did you send it out of nowhere?
If you want oral, ask for it before PIV. Hopefully, he's good at it and you get off before he does.
It's best if women cum first in my experience. There's even a book called “Women come first”.
You could also try PIV with a clitoral vibe and have him go slow with 1/2 strokes at an up angle. I find this very pleasurable for women, but hard to finish for me in that scenario.
Point is, if he's willing to communicate and make it better, great, if not, you may need to bow out early.
Of course she wants you to stay and figure things out. Have you never heard of having your cake and fucking it too?
Your boyfriend is an insecure baby back bitch
You know, I would consider getting into therapy and maybe even having a session where you can bring your husband to talk about this in the therapeutic setting. This might help buffer any angry feelings your husband might have about you bringing up how you feel when there is a therapist there to mediate the conversation and help the both of you understand what points and perspectives you both are coming from
A great hypothetical question that I think is worth entertaining with him (not in anger): if it took several minutes for both of you to manage the dog during this attack, how long would it have taken him alone to remove the dog should it decide to attack you? This is a genuine concern for you now, and I think it highlights the heart of your concern and the necessity of the dogs death. It really fucking sucks for both of you. But just to echo once again what everyone else has said here: I personally would never feel comfortable unless that dog was in its crate any time I'm around, which isn't fair for anyone, including the dog.
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I knew from the beginning but my needs weren’t being met in my relationship. Yes, I should’ve just broken up with my current relationship but it was harder than that. Him and I ended up working it out tho, and we are better than we have ever been. I knew the flirting was occuring the moment it happened, but was curious and liked the attention.
This sting part is what scares me but I hope this makes sense in the end.
Let Allan go NC. He and his girlfriend are absolutely out of pocket. I can’t imagine being at someone funeral and asking for their belongings from the fucking altar. Jesus God in heaven…
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You are totally right. I thought I was just showing him how committed I was. It was fucking stupid and I didn't know any better. I do now. I'm not opposed, I'm just so sensitive to feeling used or taken advantage of again and I feel like he needs to do this because he promised and made a commitment to me to do it without me provoking it.
Well that’s the thing, we’re girlfriends. We made things official in November, so we’ve only been dating a short while. I’ve been clear about my intentions with her, and whenever I ask, she seems excited about the future. However, I’m worried she’s confusing friendship with relationship. She talks to me about her past as if I were her best gal pal, not her partner.
So?
It's 2023. People use telehealth(virtual visits) now.
This is sad
Your boyfriend is a full blown shit show, stop buying the tickets for it.
He's almost 30 too, he's not going to change any time soon. He's an addict, and with addiction comes a lot of lying (at least while it's an active addiction).
He is caring for you. And your friend doesn't sound like a friend at all.
Anyone defending the husband for “caring about her well being” have their head up their ass. How annoying to mask misogyny with self care.
I have an 18 month old and neither my SO or I every dress up because babies are messy and they runsnd play and throw up etc. However our sex life has never been more intense because we made this amazing human together and we got through it by the hair on our chin. When you go through life experiences life a woman risking her life to bear a child, stupid shit like make-up and whatever social constructs are in place became so superficial.
And no, putting on make-up and nice clothes don't work when your body doesn't feel like your own yet. It doesn't work because now you feel you're not good enough just by yourself. And the fact that he compared it to him combing his hair in the morning vs her being alone with a toddler AND newborn? Absolute bullshit. I'm sorry this is the response you got from the majority of the commenters, OP, but don't believe what they are saying.
I've asked my wife to do this but she said no
Fake AND …gay…?
Break up. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship and it will only get worse
You just described exactly what’s wrong with mostly his brother but apparently him too. I’ve literally thought his brother was so unempathetic that he was a sociopath. But I guess birds from a feather right
Yes he wants company – his penis in any available aspect of your body.
we broke up
we broke up rn.
Has he improved? Or has he just not been put into a situation where he needs to control himself?
The OP says that everyone in his family is upset because he wants to break up. So he told his family about the threesome?
OP: Mom, dad, we had a threesome and I didn't like it and I want to break up.
Mom: You apologize to her – and him – and grow up.
Dad: No son of mine backs down from a threesome!
Mom: And you can't come home because we converted your room to a prayer room.
Apartment is in our mom’s name, she gets rental assistance from welfare to help her pay
he’s been pretty clear with you. take the brick wall out of your mind and maybe you’ll get it
So.. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who would say:
I'm a little fuzzy on what you mean by “attacked”. If you haven't already, could you please elaborate, the more details the better.
Thanks.
Communication. What a concept.
He has. He’s said he really needs to figure out what to do because he wasn’t expecting to end up feeling this way about us. I think I need to tell him to really consider his relationship, whether he’s happy. Because as much as I like him, I don’t want him to throw away a good relationship for something new that may not even work out in the long run
Cleaning Schedule with particular chores and times for each of you. Set alarms. Make him stick to it. Tell him this is a last ditch effort to teach him to keep things clean and if he refuses to stick to the schedule it proves he is unwilling to change even with guidance and organization provided.
I got this one. You just stand there with a slight smirk on your face while she berates herself.
When she finally stops you say “are you done?”
She'll be kind of shocked and say “yes”. Then you say, “good now give me the bat I want to beat you up some more”
Of course only do this if you're wife has a sense of humour. It will become an inside joke, but also a lighthearted way to let her know she's beating herself up again.
Yeah, you are right. It’s really dumb and he obviously has a lot of insecurities. Thank you for your validation
She cheated on you. She may act emotional but in reality she showed you exactly how she felt. Most likely she wants you to leave so she doesn't have to be the “bad guy” who broke up with you.
I've been in this situation and my ex did not commit suicide. Even if she did it would not be your fault
you should want better for yourself. don’t stay with him, my god
If he is actually skipping foreplay deliberately because he doesn't want to touch you, then you don't want to be with him, because then you are just convenient. Anything else – communication should fix.
Option 1 – Try telling him what feels good if and when he does it. Don't be passive. Use it like dirty talk – oh I love when you…. Option 2 – Tell him – as others said, if he doesn't use foreplay, then talk to him afterwards about how you'd love it if he did more. Or option 3 – introduce a battery operated boyfriend into you sex life.
How come I meet the bad ones and other guys get these type of women ?. I be most appreciative a lady helped like this and he has kids that gets me. What is going on. I have none and unbelievable. Well I guess different strokes for different folks.Its one thing to leech and appreciate and try to do other stuff in the relationship it's another to just not care. Love all that good stuff. Wild literally.
Impressive to be able to suck cock with a mask over your mouth
Yep. Mine head-butted me while pregnant. Next time, held a knife to my throat. It only escalates.
How do I make it right?
You leave this absolute trashbag of a person. She was wrong to repeatedly try to browbeat you into telling her your story before you were ready. She was wrong for her reaction to it, and she's incredibly fucking wrong for having the gall to punish you because she didn't like the thing you kept telling her you didn't want to talk about that she eventually forced you to reveal.
This person is not worth your time. Find someone that actually cares about you. And for the record, I agree with every decision you've made. People “change” when they're dying, but often only in ways that will make them feel better about themselves. Your father didn't want to make amends, he wanted to reopen old wounds so you'd tell him you forgave him so HE would die with a clear conscience he didn't deserve.
Depends – do you think he would be able to share the emotional and (potential) financial burden of the termination? This is both of your responsibility and at least when I went through this, I appreciated having the support of the guy I was dating and we split the cost too.
If you don’t think he’d support you and would likely make things more difficult for you, then I wouldn’t tell him.
She'll have nothing to look forward to in February? Does this mean she expects to go away for a weekend every month? that sounds like entitlement to me.
“We” can't work on this. He needs to work on this on his own. Can he change? Sure, but he has to want to change. How much time are you going to give him to do so? A year? Five years? Ten years? Only you know that answer. I know what I would do.
I know someone who was fired and kicked out of school for having sexual relations with patients even though shes not actually the patient. I'd suggest you take severe caution.
Girl bye. ?♀️?♀️
She never goes down, regardless of a shower or not. She says a bj is “disrespectful”. I have had to use condoms many times and still do. It just takes away from the moment for me because I literally can not feel a damn thing. Thanks
You can talk about it, but it’s also tedious to have people try to force you into therapy.
Honestly the best thing to do is break up. He obviously hates you and wants to be free but is scared of leaving you.
You obviously need time to fix your mental health issues. This is solely your responsibility and dragging him with you is just cruel
Ours didn’t work. There is no guarantee, OP, and success stories are more rare than mine is.
Women honestly should be a lot angrier.
Man am I glad I am not dating these days. I can't even express how unappealing it is to be 'dating' someone else while they are sleeping with other people. Not saying it's wrong but it utterly would not work for me.
I agree they way too to be acting like teenagers
Ask yourself am I content or satisfied in this relationship. If you are, can you do anything to change the situation? If not you have a choice to make a logical reason why.
Not happy with you, but happy to live! off you? Get something legal in writing. You're responsible for your child, but not her.
OP going to regret not acting on this sooner. I predict his girl breaks up with him first.
Yeah, he’s crossed all the lines. He lied to you about the trip, he hid the sleeping arrangements, he omitted that it’s just him and his boss.
Not good. Wait til he gets home and dump his lying ass
What's wrong with YOU??
If curiosity has the better of you and you really need to know, it would be better to talk with him in a nonjudgmental way, perhaps during the afterglow of sex.
Given the amount of sex you two are having, it would seem he is indeed at least sexually attracted to you. How he treats you outside the bedroom will show how much he loves you.
maybe consider why he's afraid to tell you? some introspection maybe?
Oh. I know how can fix this real quick. Go and find a nice real man and say why he won’t share you. When he flips dump him and keep the new guy.
Hell, I would skip asking to share you and just find his replacement and monkey branch his ass.
He deserves it like no other. Good luck. ?
Honestly, he's either got his eye on someone else or he's already fucking her.
I'd show him my almost Christ-like devotion to sharing and dump his ass so theres more of him to go around for the other women.
Do you boyfriend a favor and please break up with him. Then go get some therapy on your insecurities and jealousy.
Agreed. That’s why I wrote what I wrote
Dudes are told that any emotion other than anger and aggression are weak. He's likely had a wall up since his step dad's death so he doesn't burden anyone. The alcohol just broke the wall down a bit. I wouldn't worry about it too much unless it becomes a habit.
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To be fair here you are literally choosing what your new husband wants over want your daughter wants. It’s great her dad is awesome but what matters as well is what she wants, your husband basically is saying don’t engage with your daughter just in a roundabout way.
Do you give a shit about your kid? Or just asking what if her dad did it? Having no other talking points makes you look like a damn idiot. Which you are, so I shouldn’t be surprised. If you had considered this when her dad wanted more time with her you would maybe have a chance at an argument. You only considered because of a man. Without that man being in your life shed live! with you. Therefore, you’re picking a man over your daughter. It’s not even a debatable point. That’s a fact. Man said he didn’t want to online with you with her there. Now daughter isn’t going to be there because of man. See how that works? Not so naked to understand. Read it a couple times if you need.
I know a woman who had post partum psychosis. She jumped out of a window with the baby, trying to kill it and herself at the same time. She survived but the baby died.
She wasn't held responsible for it because of the psychosis. She got better, had another baby and was a great mother to it and raised him to a be a successful and kind man. Surely if the psychosis absolves you of responsibility of killing your new born baby, it could also for saying horrible things to your partner?
If this is even real, it's not a fantasy if it becomes reality. Your reality has probably upset your husband. Would you allow for the same 4 women and then you?
Honestly she doesn’t even deserve a good explanation. I agree with some other comments I saw, you should pack all her things and put them outside before she gets home with a note. The less energy you exert into her, the better the chance of you healing sooner. Giving her an opportunity to make an excuse or try to re place blame is pointless. The time for talking is over, you saw what you saw, now take action. I hope you make a speedy recovery! Infidelity hurts and can make you question yourself, this woman is a horrible human being you deserve better
Yes I agree with you! The direct approach always seems harsh and critical so its a bit difficult to find a tactful way to do it. Imo it's worth it but it can get very draining.
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OMG You're not making excuses to get out of it! This isn't a task you're obligated to do nor is it something you need to do like a dental visit that you keep avoiding.
He isn't owed anal sex. Anal sex isn't something necessary.
Your girlfriend has an issue with boundaries. She has a need to be liked, or at least she is non confrontational and doesn’t want to anger this guy.
She isn’t still on Tinder now, right?
I think people who plan these elaborate events are kinda assholes. Even if I had an extra $5k, who is to say I want to spend it on someone else's bachelorette party? You really want to spend four days with these people and go to some destination for a wedding that you probably would never go to again? It just is pretentious and presumptuous.
That being said, I think the direct and honest approach is the way to go. “I really want to share your events with you, but I cannot afford to do both. I would absolutely like to join you for your wedding, but the trip is out of my budget…”
If she gets upset- that is on her. She is demanding too much from people. She isn't royalty ffs.
Or I know some STIs can remain dormant it may be a past sexual partner who recently tested positive it doesn't exactly mean she cheated
I would bet since she came back clean and nothing's changed that it's someone fucking with Op
He says he doesn’t have a porn problem :s
OP he’s not trying to be with you. Pack it in and don’t waste your youth.
Wow, his new woman sounds like a cracker ?? if you don’t want to go, don’t go OP. He has zero right putting that much pressure on you. Why is he so desperate for you to attend? My guess is, he wants to see you jealous. Stick to your guns and tell him no. Why would you want to go when his wife to be sounds like a right cow.
Dropping kid and doing stuff together seems like a good idea. She refuses outside help but I will push for it.
I get the impression the OP is in the UK. There is NHS funding for 3 cycles of IVF with pre implantation genetic testing for sufficiently serious disorders (which it sounds like this would qualify for), although other criteria to do with the woman's fertility level also have to be met. It also only covers couples with no children so if they wanted more than one child they would have to pay for further IVF cycles.
However the rest of your post is extremely valid. It's hard to understand without having experienced it just how difficult physically and mentally it is to provide care for someone you love while watching their condition deteriorate. It's a very hard position and naked choice for her to have to make.
Addicts are often coached to stop hanging around people who continue to use their substance(s) of choice. There’s a good reason for that.
Oh I don’t think he’s without blame, but if OP doesn’t want herself or him around Mary Anne (which I don’t think is wholly unreasonable) but also wants him to just vaguely make up reasons why he can’t go to something (I find this unreasonable) then I’d have a different response vs her just wanting him to take responsibility for the stupid shit he said/did that put tension in their relationship.
I think it’s unfair to silence your partner to the extent that they’d have to continually make up reasons why they couldn’t go. Eventually the friends will just stop asking him to do things if he’s saying no a lot of the time. It unintentionally or intentionally will end up isolating him from his friends.
It I also don’t think he should throw OP under the bus because he’s the one that fucked him. The boundary in their relationship is because of HIM not OP.
Depending on how integrated Mary Anne is in the friend group additional advice might be to get a more nuanced boundary. Like he can’t go solo if she’s there, but most group things with OP are included.