You'll be fine. It's much easier than you think. The relationship with your daughter light become even stronger. You'll meet many single parents and most importantly will have a new start with much more control over your life.
You will do it.
The hardest part is separating. Dealing with your ex, etc. If you're both adults and mature with your daughter's best interest in mind, that should be painless.
Good luck and don't hesitate to contact me if you have questions.
I struggle sometimes with confidence and insecurities
Ok, yeah you're right, I don't see how jealousy, lack of confidence and insecurities could possibly be an issue when it comes to opening the relationship. Like you said, I'm sure it will go really well!
Thanks appreciate the comment. To give some context we live two hours apart…. But she is gone from work out of town 7 hours away from her house 7 out of every 12 days.:. So she only sleeps at her house on average 12/13 nights a month. I would always see her on her days off Atleast 2-3 of her 5 days off… so even if I lived at her house it would still be semi long distance since she’s gone 55% of the year for work… See why it was maybe hard for me to commit to moving so fast? But now that’s she gone I wish I did. I know I’m not thinking rationally so when strangers like you say hey you are normal for slowing it down.:. It makes me feel better for sure
Thanks for the reply. I am not too concerned since the messages are on social media only and there are some alumni networks so it's not too surprising. But it is true – we were genuinely never friends because I just didn't know him. I think I will block him but I am also very sad for him and hope his situation gets better. That being said, I don't have anything to do with it.
Reading ops replies to this aswell it feels like there was just an expectation that he'd just come over, no invite is needed but OP is looking gorgeous specific invites…
It almost comes off that the family think the BF doesn't want to see them, they shouldn't need to invite him op should just say he's coming
because there's been no written invitation it's like OP has alienated her BF from the family…
This is all fully on OP, should have just fking took him along
When you have a bunch of 20 somethings in a friend group, there’s going to be some hooking up as well as some relationships. It just happens at this age. Friend groups at this age can get really toxic because if this, or they learn to navigate this phase of life with maturity. If you want to be friends when you are in your 30s, you all need to mind your own business. Alan and Steph are on good terms as exes; it is really not any of Alan’s business who Steph is sleeping with. When and if Steph and Mark want to make their relationship known, they will do it. No one should be speculating on their relationship or telling their business to anyone else. That’s not what friends do.
This isn’t about dividing your loyalty because you are closer to Alan. This is about recognizing and respecting that Alan, Steph, and Mark are all grown adults, and no one is doing anything wrong. There is literally nothing for you or any third party to say about it.
Honey, how long were you with this boy before he proposed?
Do you understand how young you are to be having these problems?
If you think this dynamic is problematic now, what makes you think things will get better?
You’re too young to be married and having these issues on top of being in a relationship where the income dynamic is reliant on your partner who is criticizing (micromanaging) your cleanliness.
You choosing to not work will open ZERO doors to getting out of this relationship if things go south and you’re in need of help.
Don’t think because you’re married and working on your degree that you’re stuck with this person or that real consequences won’t come knocking on the door as in, he decides he doesn’t want to live with you and kicks you out.
How will you handle leaving with almost no money?
Tread carefully in your decision to be with this person. The more he finds issues with you, the higher the possibility of you not being good enough for him rises.
You've been spamming this post since yesterday. It's okay. You're very much overthinking it. Log off, drink some water, and watch some Netflix or something to take your mind off it.
Do him a favor, break up, move out and get a job like a big girl.
Divorced dad with a young daughter here.
You'll be fine. It's much easier than you think. The relationship with your daughter light become even stronger. You'll meet many single parents and most importantly will have a new start with much more control over your life.
You will do it.
The hardest part is separating. Dealing with your ex, etc. If you're both adults and mature with your daughter's best interest in mind, that should be painless.
Good luck and don't hesitate to contact me if you have questions.
He's cheating, dump and walk away, sorry He's worthless as a partner.
As of right now, I think it will go really well
Hmm…
I'm just worried about the jealousy I may feel
I struggle sometimes with confidence and insecurities
Ok, yeah you're right, I don't see how jealousy, lack of confidence and insecurities could possibly be an issue when it comes to opening the relationship. Like you said, I'm sure it will go really well!
Thanks appreciate the comment. To give some context we live two hours apart…. But she is gone from work out of town 7 hours away from her house 7 out of every 12 days.:. So she only sleeps at her house on average 12/13 nights a month. I would always see her on her days off Atleast 2-3 of her 5 days off… so even if I lived at her house it would still be semi long distance since she’s gone 55% of the year for work… See why it was maybe hard for me to commit to moving so fast? But now that’s she gone I wish I did. I know I’m not thinking rationally so when strangers like you say hey you are normal for slowing it down.:. It makes me feel better for sure
yeah im confused everyone defending her but she gave no reason why shes against IVF?
Thanks for the reply. I am not too concerned since the messages are on social media only and there are some alumni networks so it's not too surprising. But it is true – we were genuinely never friends because I just didn't know him. I think I will block him but I am also very sad for him and hope his situation gets better. That being said, I don't have anything to do with it.
They are to busy reading feminist literature…
Reading ops replies to this aswell it feels like there was just an expectation that he'd just come over, no invite is needed but OP is looking gorgeous specific invites…
It almost comes off that the family think the BF doesn't want to see them, they shouldn't need to invite him op should just say he's coming
because there's been no written invitation it's like OP has alienated her BF from the family…
This is all fully on OP, should have just fking took him along
Don’t marry him
I had a friend saying that sex is like “a handshake” lol
Wow, you complain about me making a strawman, the bot that says someone is on drugs?
When you have a bunch of 20 somethings in a friend group, there’s going to be some hooking up as well as some relationships. It just happens at this age. Friend groups at this age can get really toxic because if this, or they learn to navigate this phase of life with maturity. If you want to be friends when you are in your 30s, you all need to mind your own business. Alan and Steph are on good terms as exes; it is really not any of Alan’s business who Steph is sleeping with. When and if Steph and Mark want to make their relationship known, they will do it. No one should be speculating on their relationship or telling their business to anyone else. That’s not what friends do.
This isn’t about dividing your loyalty because you are closer to Alan. This is about recognizing and respecting that Alan, Steph, and Mark are all grown adults, and no one is doing anything wrong. There is literally nothing for you or any third party to say about it.
Honey, how long were you with this boy before he proposed?
Do you understand how young you are to be having these problems?
If you think this dynamic is problematic now, what makes you think things will get better?
You’re too young to be married and having these issues on top of being in a relationship where the income dynamic is reliant on your partner who is criticizing (micromanaging) your cleanliness.
You choosing to not work will open ZERO doors to getting out of this relationship if things go south and you’re in need of help.
Don’t think because you’re married and working on your degree that you’re stuck with this person or that real consequences won’t come knocking on the door as in, he decides he doesn’t want to live with you and kicks you out.
How will you handle leaving with almost no money?
Tread carefully in your decision to be with this person. The more he finds issues with you, the higher the possibility of you not being good enough for him rises.
How do you know that she’s not just being friendly?
You've been spamming this post since yesterday. It's okay. You're very much overthinking it. Log off, drink some water, and watch some Netflix or something to take your mind off it.