You need an exit plan and leave. DO NOT LEAVE WHILE HE'S IN THE HOUSE. He has a gun. He hasn't shown you the gun because he will “kill himself”. No. He will not. He let you see the gun to intimidate YOU. He has a gun to make you do what he wants and to emotionally abuse YOU, not for his hypothetical suicide. You are already in an emotionally abusive relationship, everything you describe that he's doing, is abuse. LEAVE. I don't know what resources do you have, but if you don't have family or friends that can house you temporally while you seek a more stable situation, find out what resources there are in your town for people in a situation of domestic violence. BE CLEAR that he has a gun and that you are in immediate danger because you are, I'm so sorry but you absolutely need to make whatever steps you need to exit this relationship. Do not let him find out that you're making plans to leave, just make the plans in secret, delete your browser history, and leave when he's not around. Do not contact him after you left, block him, tell your friends not to tell him where you are, and why.
That’s a possibility but some people still feel like there is a stigma to therapy and others are too scared to address their issues head on and do the work (avoidance). She does need to do the work though and she can’t keep putting her stress on him if she’s not prepared to try and work on herself.
Sometimes it can also feel overwhelming, when I was really stressed the thought of adding one more thing to my list (therapy) was too much. I decided to get therapy at that time but waited a few months until I felt I had the mental capacity for it.
And that's awesome. And healthy. And a good start. But this won't ever be resolved if she won't do the same thing.
thanks bro
Yes, you are TA. Chill out.
If it's yellow let it mellow, if it's brown flush it down.
You need an exit plan and leave. DO NOT LEAVE WHILE HE'S IN THE HOUSE. He has a gun. He hasn't shown you the gun because he will “kill himself”. No. He will not. He let you see the gun to intimidate YOU. He has a gun to make you do what he wants and to emotionally abuse YOU, not for his hypothetical suicide. You are already in an emotionally abusive relationship, everything you describe that he's doing, is abuse. LEAVE. I don't know what resources do you have, but if you don't have family or friends that can house you temporally while you seek a more stable situation, find out what resources there are in your town for people in a situation of domestic violence. BE CLEAR that he has a gun and that you are in immediate danger because you are, I'm so sorry but you absolutely need to make whatever steps you need to exit this relationship. Do not let him find out that you're making plans to leave, just make the plans in secret, delete your browser history, and leave when he's not around. Do not contact him after you left, block him, tell your friends not to tell him where you are, and why.
Just say you’re not gay and that you’re not attracted to men. #solidadvice
That’s a possibility but some people still feel like there is a stigma to therapy and others are too scared to address their issues head on and do the work (avoidance). She does need to do the work though and she can’t keep putting her stress on him if she’s not prepared to try and work on herself.
Sometimes it can also feel overwhelming, when I was really stressed the thought of adding one more thing to my list (therapy) was too much. I decided to get therapy at that time but waited a few months until I felt I had the mental capacity for it.