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Date: October 24, 2022
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I would dump him. He is 24 and literally acting like a middle school bully.
Every time I tried to reach for my stuff, he would physically stop me somehow. He elbowed me in the ribs a few times, kicked me in the stomach, lightly backhanded me (not enough to hurt me, just enough to further piss me off) etc.
Maybe someone with more experience can comment here, but I feel like this is all shit he could be arrested for. Handcuffed, taken to jail, and booked. He doesn't have to leave an injury behind for it to be unacceptable behavior.
Something like this happens at least once a week, if not more. I'm so sick of it. His only response was just “What are you gonna do about it? Not shit. Stop talking.”
Every time I try to tell him it's toxic behavior, he gets defensive and accuses me of lying, and says “I'm not abusive, you just dont know how to take a joke.”
What is the joke? Can someone explain it to me because I don't see anything funny about his “jokes”.
You can do wayyy better than this chump. Not sure why you have put up with this ass for 4 years because I didn't catch one redeeming quality about him in your post.
Can you rent out your grandmother's house and use that to pay the taxes?
why doesnt he trust you and the best friend?
I feel like you’re sliding into the idea of doing it you just don’t want to look like a bad guy. What you do or don’t do is your business. All I’m saying man is you can’t control a fire when you light a match in a gasoline soaked fireworks store. And there’s no going back.
Other question but what does your friend think of this? Do they know? Are they also having sex with her?
Either you're a troll or you don't understand the meaning of 'funny'. Not to mention, this story has nothing to do with asking for advice in a sub dedicated to asking for advice on a situation going on in one's relationship.
My advice is to look up the definitions of troll and funny in the dictionary and read the rules of the sub.
Jfc stay in therapy and leave all of these people alone
I don't want to make a thread so I please excuse me posting my question here. I will keep it short.
Recently, I was in a situation where this girl treated this guy differently (better) than me . I have zero problem with that but assumed she must have realized that I noticed it.
The issue is now she is trying to be friendly with me like she pities me or something. I want her attitude to remain the same. I don't appreciate someone being nice because of perhaps feeling guilty?
How should I respond?
You are living off of YOUR savings so how is he providing for you? If you hadn’t worked and saved so much money, what would you be doing now? And when your savings are gone in a few weeks, what happens then? It’s one thing for the wife to stay home with the kids while the husband works, but he isn’t working and there is no money coming in, so his 1950s fantasy isn’t even possible. Work while you can because you need the money. Don’t let him control you because it will just get worse. You have a child to think of now and that is your first priority.
And is upset and offended about the replies.
Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who you believe “doesn't deserve” a Christmas gift?
If you “know” that he is cheating then break up with him. Unless you want to get proof to get him to admit to adultery… but why would you? If you want to leave him for his cheating then it doesn't freaking matter.
Sounds like a trip to a family planning clinic is a in order for both of you, check out the depo injection, the implant, IUD etc and which one might work. Until then, either use condoms or say no. You have a say in this and don't let her think otherwise.
Thing is, is that money was never an big deal for her until about 6 months ago. Right at the beginning of summer. Idk what changed
many folks aggressively mentioned that it appears I have a parasocial relationship with them
They’re right. You should really listen to them and go see a therapist if you’re still having trouble grasping the difference between this person’s public image and their willingness to get deeply involved on any level with a stranger who’s already decided based on that image that “we have so much in common!” Or if you can’t sort out why it seems harder to work on finding friends in real life than fixating on this person as the solution to your loneliness.
Your boyfriend is acting weird and based off your comments he’s being manipulative. Leave that man. After not seeing your partner for three weeks there should be nothing wrong with simply spending time with them. Then he’s trying to make you feel like you’ve done something wrong after he avoided seeing you because you didn’t want to have sex, so he’s saying he won’t try to have sex with you anymore. Manipulative behavior. You’re young girly don’t bother waste any more time with him.
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Get forced into it? Get forced into a divorce? Not sure what you mean
Thanks for your advice! But the thing is how can I know if she’s saying this as a way to tell me she has feelings as you said, or if she’s just saying it for the heck of it?
You shouldn’t be engaged to someone for knowing them for 2 years imo. Also she does not love you period. Anyone who says “imma fuck someone else and come back with you once I’m done” is not in love. She’s treating you like a doormat and you seem to accept it and you shouldn’t. Have some self respect and leave
I don’t even need to read any of this. If you don’t love him, tell him. Immediately. Why lie to yourself and him? You are so young, don’t waste your time.
OP sounds like he has Stockholm Syndrome.
You okay bro? This chick’s gonna ruin your life.
Another, “I tripped and fell in some pussy” story. Jesus Christ.
This is not AmITheAsshole
Relationships are about compromise. On some things you can compromise, on others you can’t.
Firstly, you need to ascertain whether marriage is important to your girlfriend. If it is, then you’ve got to decide whether it is something you’re willing to compromise on. Yes, there are parts of the ritual and ceremonies surrounding it which might seem outmoded, archaic and silly but because you love your girlfriend you might decide that it’s best to go through with it because her happiness is important to you. If your distaste for marriage is a strong, guiding principle then it is entirely reasonable for you not to compromise on this. However, I would recommend communicating this clearly to your girlfriend and discussing it. Of course, this could have consequences for your relationship but if this is the case, presently you are putting them off which is not fair on either of you.
The advice that can be given at this post is to read the rules?
Me, husband, my sister, and parents were all supposed to go out to celebrate my sister's graduation. My husband got the flu that morning. He insisted I go out without him. I got him a bunch of soup, Gatorade, medicine, tissues, etc. I'm glad he made me go tbh.
She seems immediately resentful you’re not working, which is either born out of insecurity or fear. Or both. Her opinion of you must be that she’s afraid you won’t ever be gainfully employed again and she’ll have to support you.
For whatever reason your daughter doesn't want you at her wedding. Your wedding gift to her can be respecting those wishes and wishing her all the best anyway, from afar.
It would be great if you could address your issues together if possible, but don't tie them to her wedding. Weddings are stressful enough. Let her have her day, as she wants it, without making it about you.
Meanwhile, look inward and ask yourself if there may be other reasons for her to distance herself from you. My mother was/is stunning while I am fairly average, and I've never had a reason to resent her for that.
Oh he’s being like this because he likes making you feel bad. He’s making it really clear too, with the laughing and whatnot. He knows this is hurting you, he likes it. You’re indulging him by staying.
Well then, pick one. There is no way around. Either her or the drug. And honestly, thats not unreasonable.
Thank you for sharing. Great to hear your perspective. I tell my wife all the time how beautiful she is and have said (and really meant it) that I wish she could see herself how I do. I don't want her to struggle with this. It must be very naked but I do think I've taken the flak for how she's hurting inside in the past.
I totally see what you're saying about someone filling the unknown with possibilities and I worry that my lies have now caused irreparable damage to the relationship for this reason. All I can do now is be honest, I suppose.
Replying to the bottom half of your comment, he hasn't sent me any of the photo's that are on the facebook account, I am worried that his unwillingness to take new photos of himself is because he's just lying in general for no reason? His mum and his coworkers call him by the name he has given me and other live friends of his have told me that he's not really a photo person and they haven't seen him either.
Your friend is dumb and got the answer she deserved. She is also adhering to quite sexist beliefs if she thinks it's ok for women to date guys five years older than themselves but not the other way around.
It doesn't sound like CP, fortunately for the victims. If I'm reading it right, they are pictures off IG. I think what she is saying is a valid concern. They probably wouldn't arrest him or take away his custody, and her children would be alone with him. She is likely scared and feels trapped, and everyone is calling her a POS. She's made some bad decisions, but she doesn't feel like she has a lot of options, so I emphasize. People should be trying to help her through this lens. I'm not sure I have a good suggestion on how she can leave and protect her kids.
You know what, you’re right, I’m a coomer and I have to seek help. Thank you so much.
A single guy would shoot a DM if a woman was wearing a nuns uniform…some guys are desperate. I don't think she did anything wrong. If she was wearing lingerie then I would agree with you but come on this is so innocent.
You lost me at 'being submissive to your man'.
Come on, dude… come on.
That first message… that very first message would have been enough for me. No best friend sends your g–damn wife a message like that. Then the gatekeeping of the phone and the gaslighting. You already have a mountain of evidence that, at the very least, something is going on between them that isn't normal. Seriously, f–k that.
I guess I'm a very different person than most people because I tend to look at things logically and analytically, very much to my partner's annoyance. That first message would have been a wrap, no questions asked.
No matter what you decide in this, let it be a lessen. The heat of the moment, when you're both fully vulnerable, is not the time to bring up your kinks for the first time. You should be discussing things like that in a non-sexual setting. You don't spring kinks onto your partner. Given time to process it, she misses you and doesn't seem as turned off by it. This could have been eased by having a discussion about it some random afternoon, not in the middle of sex. Whether you get back together or not, try to be more forthcoming about those things outside of the bedroom.
So lemme get this straight. Everyone says to communicate. I say to communicate. Now there’s an issue? How is it fine for that to be the common advice but when I say it you want to come at me for giving common sense advice? Weird
For me, when you start being attracted to someone else equals emotional cheating. When you develop feelings and fantasize about another person, you’re not exactly a faithful partner anymore
There can be, but it's difficult, depends on the school and what you consider accelerated.
Guy in the lab I worked at was an international MD-PhD student. He came to the US for his PhD, which he got in 3 years, and went back to his country to finish residency for school. He turned 28 this year.
However, I still doubt the sister got all three degrees by 25 based on OPs info. If she actually did? Then damn, give me the name of that program…I've got a master's, I'll happily take an extra year or two for a PhD lmao.
Recently, my boyfriend told me that he danced on a girl over text.
Deal breaker. Don't even need to read rest of post.
Grinding on someone is a no go. And to admit it through a text message is just as much as an issue as the incident itself.
Ca'mon now:
A woman was dancing in front of him for a while and he was enticed but he tried not to make eye contact
The point of a relationship is to have the will-power to combat something like this.
This is a bare minimum interaction/temptation. You need to have a higher standard for yourself in a committed relationship.
No amount of this:
He then got very touchy and would hug me and rub my arm
Is going to make up for it. Sorry I did that, let me rub you a little bit to make up for it. Pathetic.
Bro….Ca'mon:
It's not like he felt anything for the woman at all but it was just something that happened in the moment when certain music was playing and when the type of music changes, so does the mood
That is the argument he is making… You know how it is… I didn't feel anything for the girl, it was the music and lights. It was the moment. There was nothing I could do.
Fuck off.
This works for me:
Later on I told him I didn't want him to do it again and he proceeded to ask for a break.
If you're going to ask for a break because I want a basic respect for a relationship. Let's make it permanent.
Really…
Basically I'm his first and he plans on marring me in the near future. He wants to have a bit of fun before then and he said after marriage he wouldn't get involved in those acts. He stated that he doesn't want to have sex with any other woman. He'd just be dancing up on women.
You think you're entitled to fuck around like you're single because we're signing up for marriage? Should have got that out of your system when you're single. Don't put me through pain to satisfy your urges.
Come correct or don't come at all.
You're boyfriend is a dog…. do not let him make you his bitch.
You're an extremely selfish and rude person.
Never, and I can’t say this enough, fuck the payroll.
Do not continue dating her. There is no way you can exit this totally honestly without her feeling like she doesn't measure up. Just tell her you are going to take a step back and reflect on yourself and things you want to work on yourself and that you wish her well.
Sorry, I cannot stand parents that don’t understand their place in time. The parent that still see themselves as the spotlight in the house, the parent that doesn’t allow their kids to be the grown ups… Honey, this isn’t about you or you boyfriend, you both very young. This is your mother not understanding HER PLACE AS the second woman in the house. Your mom has to understand, he is there for YOU, she is the in law to serve cookies or hear you out. It is nonsense that she is requiring attention from a guy so young.
Your family and friends are correct. Listen to them.
You say you wouldn’t date an older man knowing what you know now. You’re only 27!!!!
He was 35 (and married!!!) when you were 20. Highly inappropriate from a couple standpoints given the fact he was married at the time.
Leave this relationship. You don’t think so now but 15 years will feel like a lifetime the older you get. You will be only 45 when he is 60, 50 when he is 65, 60 when he is 75.
The fact that he won’t discuss how you met and the details around that are concerning. Will he leave you for an even younger woman?
You’re only 27!!!! So much life ahead of you. Time to consider all the possibilities that life has to offer.
Were the roses red?
Yep.
Thank you for your response. I'll try to have this talk with her as soon as I can. I honestly do believe it's not going to go anywhere because last time I mentioned a situation between them where I thought she was getting treated unfairly she was like, “Babe why do you keep asking about him?” So that honestly has me put off from even mentioning this, but I will. Again, thank you.
It's not typical for platonic friends to invite you to meet their family, or to agree to go away on couples-style holidays, unless they have known you so long that you think of each other as almost-siblings. So it sounds to me like she may have changed her mind. Maybe she waited until she felt ready for a relationship before she started texting you again. The only way you'll find out for sure is to ask her. Good luck!
keeping it a secret is just a bad idea. It makes you loook bad if it comes out and even makes it look like more then it was. Just tell your husband what happened at the minimum. He's going through a rough spot so i get where you are coming from but it's n0ot worth hurting your relationship over it either.
Most women share their sex lives with their friends. And, oftentimes they'll share that with their partner. For example, I'm not supposed to know how big my ex's friend's boyfriend's dick is. But, I do. So, my only reasonable inference is her friend knows how big mine is, too.
You kinda did when she asked about std tests and your answer kinda implied that you weren't a virgin.
Yet the mother accused you of luring her daughter.
He may want to have sex with you but it does not seem that this is the only thing he is looking here with you as he kisses you and does not press sex much. You can yet talk to him about your aim to make this serious as you are not looking for a casual sex and if he is on the same page with you then go on a few dates before having sex. You have all right to ask him about his intention and expectations from you so you can take a better decision. You make things clear to him that you do not want hook up thing as you are looking for a relationship and if he is not sure then he can take his time to decide what he wants and you like to wait but sex will not happen unless he shows intention to be in committed relationship with you.
How long have you been dating this person?
Tell her you know she's cheated on you and now she needs to find a new living arrangement..You'll do 50/50 custody.
Yeah for real, it's just rude. I live with my boyfriend and I am more messy but I make an effort to pick up after myself because I want to be conscientious of his comfort in his home.
We've talked about the breakup a bit, and he's not very close with my ex as of now. He said that my ex didn't treat me well enough, and he's been distancing himself from him.
Yeah, you're definitely too attached. You want him to be your asexual boyfriend. And he doesn't want that.
Try and estimate how often you reach out to him a week, and cut it in half.
Yeah, you're definitely too attached. You want him to be your asexual boyfriend. And he doesn't want that.
Try and estimate how often you reach out to him a week, and cut it in half.
ITT: not understanding the difference between honesty and tact
Dude sounds like an asshole. 3 months? I’d dip.
Sorry but i would.. we never have this kind of chances and it is already paid for. His dad car can take weeks tk get fixed and we don't have privacy since i left my mom's place. That was literally a year ago
It sounds like you're incompatible. You like a lot of alone time and she likes a lot of attention. She wasn't getting what she needs off you and now she's being love bombed. That'll go pear shaped fast. Just go learn who you are so next time you'll pick someone more compatible with your personality.
Hey hun so my husband and I were in a somewhat similar situation. He wanted to try it, I was indifferent but wanted to try for him. We have tried for years, different things, to see if it will work. He got it in one time and it hurt me so bad, and he said it honestly hurt his dick a little because it was so tight. He felt so awful afterwards he wouldn't even hardly play with my ass for a week (it took me reassuring him and telling him it was totally okay for him to feel comfortable enough again) and he told me he never wants to try again and not just because it hurt me. But he realized he has more fun playing with it and us both enjoying it. So sweetie, if it isn't for you then it isn't for you! And y'all can still have all kinds of fun with your ass without anal! Just have an open conversation with him about it and make a compromise! No anal but plenty of ass play! And if it's about the tightness of the asshole then hit him with some kegels while you're doing it or if you're okay with giving blow jobs grip him real tight with one hand while you give him a blow job. Both of those are nice for guys. But don't do anal if you don't want to. It will only be painful and you'll hate it.
She didn't say it until he commented.
His reaction was absolutely over the top. She is not blameless.
The way to have the discussion is to go “hey honey, can we talk? I know we fantasized about having kids in the future but I'm not sure I want them anymore”. Not to fantasize about not having kids before admitting it.
No, the world hasn’t changed to that degree and if you think it has go and lock yourself in a basement and get food posted through a slot in the door.
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Going to try and keep this short. I feel that I am kinda the jerk here but it's naked to see the other side when it comes to emotions.
Basically, my husband (28m)and I (26f) are separating for awhile but I (and I thought him) have been working on repairing our relationship and working on ourselves to be better partners.
A month ago we were invited to a concert through his work friend and since then I had heard nothing about the event and just thought plans fell through since they weren't certain to begin with. Turns out plans had been made certain and he bought his own ticket and kept all plans and such hidden until last night when he informed me that he would be staying over at said friends house after the concert
I felt blindsided, hurt, and betrayed, especially after both of us having a talk a day prior about how we're both to blame for our relationship issues but want to be open and work on things together. He has a history of hiding things from me until last minute that he thinks I wouldn't approve of or that he doesn't want me involved in.
I told him that he's free to go since he is a man capable of making his own decisions, but if he does he's not welcome back into my home. I told him I felt betrayed and lied to for over a month and I don't want to be around someone who would go behind my back like this when I thought we were working on things together.
So, I'm not sure if I was too harsh and now he's calling me abusive. So, would like an outsiders opinion.
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Going to try and keep this short. I feel that I am kinda the jerk here but it's hot to see the other side when it comes to emotions.
Basically, my husband (28m)and I (26f) are separating for awhile but I (and I thought him) have been working on repairing our relationship and working on ourselves to be better partners.
A month ago we were invited to a concert through his work friend and since then I had heard nothing about the event and just thought plans fell through since they weren't certain to begin with. Turns out plans had been made certain and he bought his own ticket and kept all plans and such hidden until last night when he informed me that he would be staying over at said friends house after the concert
I felt blindsided, hurt, and betrayed, especially after both of us having a talk a day prior about how we're both to blame for our relationship issues but want to be open and work on things together. He has a history of hiding things from me until last minute that he thinks I wouldn't approve of or that he doesn't want me involved in.
I told him that he's free to go since he is a man capable of making his own decisions, but if he does he's not welcome back into my home. I told him I felt betrayed and lied to for over a month and I don't want to be around someone who would go behind my back like this when I thought we were working on things together.
So, I'm not sure if I was too harsh and now he's calling me abusive. So, would like an outsiders opinion.
You got played.
He was sweet until he got you hooked, then began showing his true colors.
You're not his gf. You are his punching bag.
Get rid of him. Why stay with someone who told you you're a waste of time and he has better things to do? He's telling you right there he doesn't want to be with you. Do both of you a favor and end it.
And afraid of hurting him? Why? He's def not afraid to hurt you.
Thank you so much
We’ll no it’s a little different … i have been invited to fuck a guys wife with him … but that is much more different than being the person “hey i multiple ducks inside of me”
I think you think I’m in awe but I wrote that about my coworker to explain why he does not get along with my boyfriends personality. They are just opposites.
Not trying to offend but why would you bring a child into this mess?
You are 25, you have plenty of time to find a man who is committed to you and will stay with you to raise a child together. Choosing to have a child that will inevitably be resented by his father (this will most likely break up his current relationship) is unfair to him, but especially the child.
You say you didn't want the white picket fence life but choose to have a child? I don't understand that at all.
I think you need to tell him in whatever way possible, since it is his child, but you also need to have a serious thought about the consequences of this. This WILL affect your child whether you like it or not.
when you date and marry a mother, you're committing to raising her children without expecting anything in return
Giving her the benefit of the doubt, I feel maybe it was poorly phrased. As a former step-parent, it's a thankless position of working the role of a significant adult and semi-parent but getting none of the parental rewards. Often we are deprived of the right to enforce boundaries and household rules. Often our lives are complicated by the exes and co-parenting drama.
Idk, maybe that's what she had in mind. But boy she doesn't make any effort to sell the role or offer anything at all in return. Like I'm not saying women with children should grovel before men who are courageous enough to take that responsibility but I don't see here any acknowledgment of the effort and sacrifice involved. Really, no appreciation at all?
You both desperately need therapy, individual first, couples after that.
You're black and white thinking is not doing either of you any favors right now.
You turn around and leave after 20 minutes and stop letting him do this to you. It’s not acceptable.
I have a mother who is intolerant of my fiance for the wrong reasons. She is often bringing up her ethnicity and had always been pointing out the smallest things about her. These issues get so blown out of proportion it has all but ruined my relationship with her. We are planning a wedding soon and will not be inviting her.
I think it’s perfectly valid that I don’t want to be with someone who still talks to their exes.
Like if I was the one with the penis I wouldn’t just assume. That can also disrupt a woman’s pH level
Right? “She can’t just be friends” [literally says that she just wanted to be friends, communicated that, and admits he was selfish and kept flirting with her] like yeah okay guy it’s definitely her fault
If she wants to it's over really
Honestly step 2 alone would be enough ?
He seems to be manipulating and gaslighting you. Why have kids with him?
Umm you should have broken up with her a long time ago.
He's not serious about you , in fact he probably has a gf who has met his family. Move on.
I wouldn’t have batted an eye at the naked on but the jumping up and whacking off in the bathroom there is over the line. OMG – go home with blue balls !! And even if you can’t control yourself and rub one out do not tell the wife. I mean come on. I think you got a head injury while you were there ! ?
You know what’s even more of a special kind of stupid? Thinking that your boyfriend who makes the same as you and has more assets than you actually would be with you for your money. It’s pretty obviously a joke, and the fact that she can’t realize SHE is the one with less money in the relationship so obviously he isn’t with her for money, just goes to show that she isn’t ready for a serious relationship yet.
Just tell them straight up “Im going to cheat on her, are you sure about this?” if they want it still after that then they made their choice. ??♀️