There's a TON of comments, so I may have missed this if already mentioned. Perhaps the fellow is simply insecure/embarrassed not because of her high sex drive, but maybe his testosterone levels are lower than normal and early onset of ED is kicking in ??♂️. Her “comment” may be triggering that insecurity……. cue the flee or fight response………
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I'm still very new to relationships I've only been in 1 if you can even count it because it only lasted about a month and a half. It ended up fading cause apparently I wasn't getting physical with her when she showed no signs that she wanted anything physical on dates. The advice I was given was to make my intentions known more quickly so that's just what I was trying to do there.
I do like her, I'm more concerned now that I've made a complete eejit of myself and I just want to make sure that I didn't make her uncomfortable.
No, I've been to his house a lot since we met in September our second date was me coming to his house. But yes, I'll just wait and see what happens I'm trying to not worry and overthink things. Which is something that I have a hot time with (I really overthink a lot).
Open women with “no filter” who are open to talking about sex, brushing their arms against taken mens crotches and who blatantly say things like “hey if a guy on tinder did what you’re doing for me I’d smash them” to men who are taken are not just bubbly outgoing women with bigger personalities.
My best friend was friends with a married woman who was trying to get in the DM’s with / flirt with / sleep with several of her husbands friends because she craved the attention and would openly talk about kinks and sex with any group. Don’t ignore your instincts just because something sounds too far fetched.
Also forgot to add my mother was a grown ass woman who chose my father. He didn’t manipulate her into anything just like I didn’t manipulate him. She just liked him for who he was. How did he prey on her? How did he harm my mother? And How am I harming my love interest? Why be so concerned?
Just because society frowns on it doesn’t make it predatory. But if I decide to sex traffic him, then you can call me a predator. Not all older people are bad people trying to harm younger people.
Either you trust your bf or you don’t. You only don’t like this girl because she’s a female you see as a threat. She isn’t to blend for her bf cheating on her and your bf’s friendship ending due to that fact.
CNC is scary but super common. I don't think this is necessarily a deal breaker or as bad as it sounds. As you can imagine, it would be a hot thing to bring up to you, especially if he has no intention of every playing it out. Sometimes fantasies are just fantasies. CNC is more about primal intense sex and the power exchange, not actually fetishising rape (although obviously that can be polarising and totally fair if someone is disgusted by it)
Have a chat to him, keep an eye out for any weird answers, but if he's not given you any reason to be suspicious so far then it's probably fine
Double cheeked up on a Sunday you gotta love it
There's a TON of comments, so I may have missed this if already mentioned. Perhaps the fellow is simply insecure/embarrassed not because of her high sex drive, but maybe his testosterone levels are lower than normal and early onset of ED is kicking in ??♂️. Her “comment” may be triggering that insecurity……. cue the flee or fight response………
My boy, have you considered that she haven't “healed”? Has she tried therapy?
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I'm still very new to relationships I've only been in 1 if you can even count it because it only lasted about a month and a half. It ended up fading cause apparently I wasn't getting physical with her when she showed no signs that she wanted anything physical on dates. The advice I was given was to make my intentions known more quickly so that's just what I was trying to do there.
I do like her, I'm more concerned now that I've made a complete eejit of myself and I just want to make sure that I didn't make her uncomfortable.
No, I've been to his house a lot since we met in September our second date was me coming to his house. But yes, I'll just wait and see what happens I'm trying to not worry and overthink things. Which is something that I have a hot time with (I really overthink a lot).
Open women with “no filter” who are open to talking about sex, brushing their arms against taken mens crotches and who blatantly say things like “hey if a guy on tinder did what you’re doing for me I’d smash them” to men who are taken are not just bubbly outgoing women with bigger personalities.
My best friend was friends with a married woman who was trying to get in the DM’s with / flirt with / sleep with several of her husbands friends because she craved the attention and would openly talk about kinks and sex with any group. Don’t ignore your instincts just because something sounds too far fetched.
That they are trans
Also forgot to add my mother was a grown ass woman who chose my father. He didn’t manipulate her into anything just like I didn’t manipulate him. She just liked him for who he was. How did he prey on her? How did he harm my mother? And How am I harming my love interest? Why be so concerned?
Just because society frowns on it doesn’t make it predatory. But if I decide to sex traffic him, then you can call me a predator. Not all older people are bad people trying to harm younger people.
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Either you trust your bf or you don’t. You only don’t like this girl because she’s a female you see as a threat. She isn’t to blend for her bf cheating on her and your bf’s friendship ending due to that fact.
Big red flag here. This is not the relationship for you. He needs to learn to pull his weight and live on his own before living with a partner.
Move out at the very least, you deserve a room mate that helps with all the chores. He's treating you like his mum.
CNC is scary but super common. I don't think this is necessarily a deal breaker or as bad as it sounds. As you can imagine, it would be a hot thing to bring up to you, especially if he has no intention of every playing it out. Sometimes fantasies are just fantasies. CNC is more about primal intense sex and the power exchange, not actually fetishising rape (although obviously that can be polarising and totally fair if someone is disgusted by it)
Have a chat to him, keep an eye out for any weird answers, but if he's not given you any reason to be suspicious so far then it's probably fine