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She’s just not that into you.
It will probably be ok just frustrating.
Sounds like the kind of thing an AI might say.
She was not seeking attention. He said that someone came up to her and asked for her number. So instead of giving her number she gave her instagram. That's not her seeking attention.
Also it's fine for a person to want attention. If it's harmless and it's just a friendship or it's just a random follower on their Instagram it's not really a big deal. No one was stringing anyone along that was not said anywhere in the statement. It wasn't even said that she talked to these people again you're just creating this in your head. That's just making up facts and information.
Find out where she is working in California- if it’s in a school tell the board of education to keep an eye out for her as her partner was a former student – that will fix her
You dump him is what you do.
Thank you.. ? this comment means a lot x
I originally thought this way, and read articles about having somewhere to go to give her space etc. immediately following the conversation, but my therapist suggested that the flip side of that is giving someone who is very depressed and has been suicidal in the past horrible news, then leaving her alone to sit in it unsupported – same for when she travels home, too. Feels like a very dangerous mix, potentially, if it were to go to the worst cast scenario.
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He’s a grown ass adult, and you ARE NOT responsible for whatever he decides to do.
Two things you can do, if you feel like it, would be to tell someone in his family or his best friend that he’s threatening self-harm.
You could also call your local adult social services, or maybe your police non-emergency line to report him threatening to harm himself.
Do not contact him directly anymore. Doing so only encourages him to keep trying to emotionally manipulate you.
Little late to the party but +1 to this.
My ex girlfriend was a loose fucking cannon while drinking. As her mental health deteriorated, episodes like this became the norm rather than the exception. She was a nightmare to be around – a switch would flip and she got mean.
So sorry you have to be the parent to your parents.
Fucking RUN.
Youre dating a narcissistic loser. Women his age don't put up with his bullshit. Leave him immediately before he ruins your life.
I sometimes feel that’s the case but I’m don’t want to assume negative things about her
And this is why he's 47 and dating a 27 year old.
Sounds like she’s checked out of your relationship and may have found another relationship. Sorry, dude.
She made some mistakes, but nobody's perfect. If you want to be involved in your kid's life, you need to find a way to put this behind you.
Coming home drunk to a new mother who has been busy caring for a child isn't going to score you points.
I have adhd… and yes.. tardiness is an issue.. but like 15-30 min tardy.. not 3+ hours.
“but sometimes it feels like he doesn't even want to spend any time with me”
I don’t think he actually does want to spend time with you…Could you move into separate places and see if the relationship survives? I can’t imagine living with someone who resents every minute I’m there…
My favourite quote is “you can cum in me or the jar”. A disgusting story but also well worth a read!
Just search for cum in jar.
INFO: Has food she’s made ever tasted ‘off’? Has she ever not told you what’s in something you’re eating? Has she ever not let you in the kitchen while cooking? I’m wondering how much of her urine you’ve ingested at this point.
If it’s at the point where she’s watching you unknowingly bathe in her urine saturated bath water, I can only imagine how long this has been going on without your knowledge.
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The cold sores don’t have anything to do with her cheating but I’m glad you got them because it seems like it convinced you to ask on here and everyone is giving pretty sound advice if you stay with her just assume she’s cheating you’ll never get over this and you won’t trust her again break it off brother and move on trust me I had so many signs with my first wife but stayed anyway cuz there wasn’t anything to “prove” it I found out later she was cheating the whole time and I stayed like an idiot
Tell her she has 30 days to make new living arrangements for herself and you'll both be working out a legally recognized custody arrangement in the meantime.
No, don't tell her shit until you've had a consultation with a lawyer. You may need to have her served by surprise so you can get an order preventing her from removing the children from the state.
wdym?
Going to need an update on said future date lol
OP, you absolutely need solo therapy. First and foremost to work through your unresolved trauma growing up without a loving father. It seems like you are making some questionable serious life decisions based solely on your past trauma. Second, choosing to leave him does not mean that history will repeat itself. You can write your own story now. And staying with someone not out of love, but out of a misplaced sense of obligation to your unborn child is absolutely something you should unpack with a professional.
He disrespected you by not believing you while you were pregnant with his child and throwing you out on the streets. Then he turned around and fucked with other people. The audacity to demand that you heal faster because he feels miserable because of his own decisions is maddening. You are living in a toxic household right now. You will never heal if he is fawning over you, because he reminds you of this situation, maybe for the rest of his live. You will treat each other different, your child will witness how you treat each other and copy it in their relationships. You want mistrust and underlying resentment as a treat for your child? I am not telling you to break up immediately even if it is not off the table eventually. You need to set some ground rules if you really want to heal. And he needs to respect your boundaries. First of all he fucked up, never forget that. You need to sleep seperatley. No intimacy with him until you feel safe and loved, if he sulkes and tries to find aex somewhere else like before, send him to the streets. You need to set a parenting plan, that everybody takes equal time with your child and you need to split chores. If you feel ready you can establish date nights where you only spend time together with your husband to do something fun together and get talking outside of therapy. If you want to heal you need to set hard boundaries on your behalf, it is okay and necessary that you are “selfish” here because you must heal. Tell firmly what you want and need and never forget that separation is always an option if nothings works for you two. You deserve to be treated with trust and love.
Oh gosh I've done this before. This is where your actions are going to mean alot more than your promises. You said you won't drink, so don't touch a drop of alcohol. It may take a few months of consistent behavior for him to let his guard down again.
Sure thing.
See ya at the party, Tough Stuff!
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I’m so sorry but if he loved you even a little he would have never fell in love with the other woman. He’s taking his frustrations on you and it seems he has no respect for you at all. It sucks when he’s also your best friend I’ve been in this exact same experience and it didn’t turn out well. We hate each other now. Definitely end the relationship and maybe one day the friendship could be salvaged but it will never be the same.
I mean, rape can still feel good physically, and if you feel like you can't stop what's already been started then might as well go for the ride, until the end when it all comes down on you what just happened.
Agreed.
You are right, thanks
Marrying someone comes with all kinds of risks. You have some imaginary vision of the future you’re going to have together, but those visions never include the shitty stuff. Illness (physical and mental), financial problems, difficulty balancing careers, pandemics, you name it.
Lots of people get married and don’t think about the risk they are taking on. The risk in this particular case is limited and quantifiable, and was fully disclosed, which is why it wouldn’t be a big deal for me. By comparison, the risk that your partner has a mental health issue that is bigger and deeper than either of you are aware of is a more problematic risk – you can’t disclose or quantify what you don’t know.
Now I’m with the other people. Y’all are assuming life together will be all rainbows and sunshine. It won’t be. Pause the wedding and soberly reflect for a while on whether you two are ready to take the unfair, unexpected shit life throws at you without falling apart.
So you have to change and she can just keep acting insecure? That's healthy
Fucking report her to the police and cut her out of your life.
For real. I’m someone who has worked with children who were going through CYS and the court system. PROTECT THE CHILDREN.
I do think it’s one thing for the Black person in a D/s partnership to ask to introduce race play, as there may be some degree of taking some power back in that dynamic (being that the sub actually has a lot of power in the D/s dynamic), but for it to be unasked for? Totally inexcusable.
Ew dude
You should get fit. This whole relationship condition is bs. This is a great red flag. At least he’s kinda honest
That’s a normal fear. (Some fear is helpful. It warns you of dangers. Some fear keeps you in the status quo like a frog in boiling water. And some fear is just brainweasels talking.)
The problem is that you are not in a good place, you’re walking on eggshells some of the time and you’re looking for the intermittent reward of the sweet man he CAN be some of the time. And it’s going to get worse, so now is a good time to leave.
You’ll be fine. Maybe not immediately, maybe you’ll sob your heart out for a while and eat all the ice cream, but you’ll be fine eventually. And then you’ll be ready to meet someone else, someone who loves you exactly as you are.
I can't imagine desperately wanting to go on a vacation but refusing to pay for a vacation. Ha. ” I'll go at the expense of others “
This is a difficult situation.
Your father in law is a racist, and a very coarse man. Your husband has been raised in a family where the only acceptable response is to roll over and accept it. Making waves when people are hostile and rude is not an acceptable thing to do for him. That is no uncommon, particularly among poorer American families.
You need to be very clear with your husband. He will not change until he recognizes that he is not going to be able to pressure you into pretending that his father's racist remarks are OK.
Tell him that the next time your father says anything remotely like these things you will be leaving. Let him know that if he does not leave with you, he will need a divorce attorney. Do not back down. He is counting on your being the more reasonable person because the prospect of acting differently within his family of origin is very frightening to him. Be compassionate but hold your ground.
So its ok to keep secrets from my husband? I got advice from some former cheaters who told me this is how cheating starts, you start justifying to yourself keeping secrets from your spouse because its better for him.
so ive done this, several times, and they reachout in a few days to a week at most and ask how im doing.. then txt me for a day or two then ghost again.. at this point im torn cause she was never like this so i know its over but dont want it to be… fuck why does life suck like this sometimes?
Are y’all together or co parenting?
Yeah, start helping your kids in the morning and deal with them at least once on your own during the weekend and stop running off to meditate in another room
I thought troll comments weren’t allowed in this sub
There was a post on AITA a few days ago (it has been deleted) from a 19F who liked to communicate by meowing and one of her classmates was not a fan. She felt very misunderstood.
You might want to have your gf talk to her doctor about this. Start with a GP and go from there. you might want to attend the doctor's appointment to make sure she mentions it.
Don’t act like you’re not a huge POS in this story as well.
He didn't, he just asked for advice.
Rachem?
If you still have to try naked in a relationship, your partner is probably just exploiting you or you played a role to win someone over. And during the relationship, you have to maintain this role, which is oit you, to keep the illusion.
My ex was like this with her friends oh but it’s ok we are friends so the fact they call me names or make me cry whenever we see each other is ok… Me they aren’t friends they are your bullies and they have conditioned you to accept their behaviour, if you had only just met them you wouldn’t accept that behaviour.
Yes, he even asked me out. He moved home temporarily because his dad is sick and doesn’t know what he’s going to do or how long he’s going to be with his parents . So he stopped getting to know me and only answers certain things I say
I didn't state that. Where's the quote where you think I said the thing that I never said?
“Wtf are you talking about. Hsv-1 isn't an std”
Where is my quote?
Every time? Of course you say something. That’s disgusting and really troubling.
Hun do you not see the “his leading me on sign on this man”? What the hell is exclusive but not gf/bf? He doesn't wanna commit to anything even casually.
That doesn’t make sense. You fainting doesn’t have anything to do with trust
Lol wtf how is this a question at all, he’s an adult, have him pay half of the rent.
If I was being nit picky, if I were in your position I wouldn’t have payed the full amount last month and kept things split 50/50 (hell or even my partner understand if there’s a financial hardship then it might go like 60/40 or 70/30 or whatever). However, regardless of that, if you payed all last month, he should pay all of this month. It’s that simple
There is no understanding this behavior beyond insecurity and toxic possessiveness. Sounds like you understand it just fine. It's controlling behavior. Unfortunately your compliance won't alleviate his mistrust, it will exacerbate it. But so will non-compliance. No matter what you do, it won't placate him for long. Decide right now if this is what you want your life to be. It WILL expand beyond old school friends on Facebook. It will consume current friends and then family and may move up to controlling where you work and when.
She is his nanny. If the nanny leaves he isn't going to pick up the slack he will just make her the bad guy instead.
I do respond when she talks to me while I play.
Asking “is this abuse?” in this case is akin to asking “will I get wet standing next to a puddle on the highway?” The answer is yes, yes and yes. I gather that you've had minimal experience with relationships, because none of this is considered normal in a relationship. You don't “owe” him sex. Nobody has the right to demand that. Even if a sex worker changes his or her mind, they still have a right to refuse and give the client's money back if it's an issue.
He doesn't even remotely care about the pain he's putting you through, that's physical abuse. Sex by coercion is called coercive control. He thinks he can do whatever he wants with you because he's convinced you that you're trapped.
Do you really want this baby? I'm not judging you either way, but the decision isn't up to him, it's up to you, and only you. If you chose not to have the baby, just lie and say you miscarried. Again, not judging you, but the less you have to do with the sperm donor, the better.
Something I would advise; get a restraining order. If anyone wants “proof of abuse,” tell them about your experiences with sex lately. You need to break free of him and make sure he can't follow. Wherever you go, don't tell anyone you can't trust to keep their mouth shut. When you move, work on the notion that you will never return, not for anything. Write down a checklist if you have to, but make sure you don't leave anything behind that's important.
Statistically, the moment someone leaves an abusive relationship is the most risky. I'd probably get a police escort to stand guard while you pack up your stuff. If he has a problem with that, the cops will deal with him. If he's dumb enough to breach the restraining order, it's all the cause in the world needed for the cops to haul him away
They never got married. Only dated for 3-4mnths. This also a fresh breakup
Being in a happy, healthy relationship means NOT giving up parts of yourself. It means being secure enough in that partnership where you don't have to do every single thing together, and realizing it's actually healthy to do things separately. When it comes to choosing between love and your love of travel, you don't have to choose one or the other, and a good partner wouldn't make you. Don't stop traveling, you'd never forgive yourself.
Yes, because you’re deliberately not telling your wife, coward.
Nah, just the wrappers from the other protein bars that were in the box
Oh good lord just dump her. You had to ask if you could go to a game? That the actual hell? She’s not your mother! And now she’s acting completely unhinged. Are you her Siamese twin? Are you never allowed to do thing without her? She’s clearly not mature enough to be in a relationship; this is some serious middle school behavior.
The instances in which I have slammed a door has generally been me trying to leave or remove myself from a situation not intimidate someone.
Sure you can slam a door to intimidate someone, but it looks to me like he was mad and because he was angry, he left for work and slammed the door on his way out, thus removing himself from the situation.
Idk that this is a “massive” red flag or “abusive”. He communicated poorly in the situation an left, which is a problem but to call it massive and abusive seems overblown to me.
That’s what I was really worried about. Part of me doesn’t want to find out really, but I know I need to and I honestly think she might pull this shit again later down the line. Maybe losing the natural butterflies is a part of it took
What conservative country are you from?
You can talk through dating apps. That way, if the other person turns out to be a creep, you can just unmatch. And it's not like it's more difficult to talk via a dating app instead of text message.
Also, he is not upset that she has his number. He would've given it to her had she ASKED. But she didn't. She creeped into his phone and did who knows what. Maybe she just got his number, but she could've also gone through his text messages or dating app messages or pictures or reddit.
…. You read my comment right? Specifically the part where I said “assuming no health conditions or malnutrition”?
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You need to learn how to use gentle start ups when you have an issue you want to discuss, not to make weird unrelated passive aggressive comments to your child that are meant for your wife. You’re really reaching to make the connection between these topics, there were 1 million other things that you could have used to make your comparison that were more appropriate.
Your wife interpreted your comment correctly. You just stated your dissatisfaction in a mean way. Now you’re also trying to make her being upset at a mean thing you said her fault and her problem. You need to take some accountability for your actions.
You're the one who married someone a decade older with a lower libido. That's on you.
I mean if you're 100% certain you want to try and live with this I'd recommend you get some professional help. Get yourself a couples therapist and preferably a personal therapist for the both of you too.
There's clearly something not right in the relationship dynamic especially not after what happened. Your husband needs to learn how to deal with his feelings without drinking and needs to figure out where this urge to cheat came from. You need to heal from this, if you don't deal with it personally you'll have a dent in your self esteem for the rest of your life.
Yet you don’t know where he lives, what he’s doing or where he’s taking your child. Your tough guy family isn’t doing shit for you or your daughter. You need a resolution. Don’t you think? Since your “terrified”.
Seems very obvious to me that you should leave. You will hurt him, but it's better than sentencing him to a life with someone who's not happy with him.
I don’t want him to think I’m mean, im always very conscious about how others perceive my kindness/firmness
This falls under people pleasing and conflict avoidance, both easy to google if your curious. And this one concern of yours makes you a very easy target for manipulators and abusers because people who are selfish and don’t like boundaries will accuse you of being mean no matter how fair and how kind you are. So it might be useful to look into your past as to why you feel this way, was anger or frustration punished, judged, ignored? When you stood up for yourself we’re you accused of being selfish? Did you only get attention when you behaved nicely and did what other people wanted?
Anyway for those that struggle with this issue, two things might help. First google “how to turn complaints into requests” and google “flexible boundaries.” Explore both topics. Both concepts can help it feel easier to speak up for yourself with out feeling as mean. Two, try to bring up problems as soon as possible when they’re small or it’s the first offense, and thus easier to address and give them the benefit of the doubt. Just still be firm about your boundaries or needs. So in this case you’d say, “you expecting me to service you sexually right after I expressed emotional pain, feels dismissive of that pain. Maybe you didn’t realize that, so I’ll let it slide this once, but moving forward I expect you to not switch to your needs and especially your sexual needs so quickly after I express pain, you cool with that?” General formula: “what happened” “how it felt to you” “benefit of the doubt no harm was meant so will let it slide once” “moving forward what you need instead and if they agree.” Then there’s ways to also address for if they don’t agree or if they agree but still do it, but this is getting long, you probably get the point, and I don’t know if you’re interested in all that, so I’ll leave that for now. And for some just googling those concepts is all the help they need. But if you want more info on this part let me know and I’ll share more.
No worries.. when a lot of buffoons follow her advice and get sued, they'll learn the hot way…
What boundary do you want to set with him?
Don't blame her for his dad being a violent racist.
I have no desire to spend my night explaining to you that biological sexes exist. So erm… you have a lovely day now. Bye!
I get that you were coming from a place of live and good intentions. Unfortunately that isn’t always the right approach. When someone cuts off contact with their parents. It’s usually because they have tried everything to make it work. It’s an incredibly difficult thing to do. I have been NC with my parents and my brother for over 15 years. I am never going to have a relationship with them again. But I still think about them every day and wish it was different.
Talk to him when he wakes up. Apologize to him and explain that you didn’t understand how serious it was. Promise him you will never push for him and you to see them again. And keep your promise.
What he is going through now is incredibly difficult emotionally. For me it was just as hard as it was when my ex-wife told me we were getting divorced. It’s a lot to process. Just be there for him in the way that he needs you to be there. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for both of you!
You missed a golden opportunity for a Crocodile Dundee joke “you call that a knife?” unzips
He's not her NEW boyfriend. She's been with him a while just making sure he's what she wants. Sorry mate. You don't go from zero to living together in a couple of weeks
And the Emotional manipulation has entered the chat…
Short and sweet, love it. Thank you again for being understanding! I also appreciate the advice you shared. Gonna do a solo date night and take myself to the restaurant. Hope you have a great rest of your week! 🙂
That's bullshit sexual harassment in your own home, this guy isn't YOUR boyfriend, he's hers and NO ONE but you can consent to your body being touched.
So, wait, this guy won't get a job, and your wife is pregnant, so she's going on maternity leave, and you're supposed to pay for 3 adults AND a baby you didn't get a choice about having and DON'T want to raise?!? At 23yo, these people want you to give up everything for THEIR choices? No, I don't think so. They need to support that child AND their share of the household themselves, you didn't agree to commit the next 18 years to this.
It sounds like there's a serious pattern of disrespect here. I know it's sometimes hot to see negative patterns when you have someone you loved enough to marry and you have already made some significant sacrifices for them, but what does your wife DO to make your life better? Words and promises are SO easy, but is there any actual follow through? She doesn't even protect you from being assaulted in your own home!! She's enabling your abuse, that's absolutely horrible.
Stop doing whatever you do to wake him. That's propably what has happened his whole life and he never was forced to be self-reliant. There was always someone who made him.
What he needs is the cold shower of getting in serious trouble. It's a him problem, not a you problem. You say that he needs to want to get up. That's exactly the point. With his problem it would be best to get up right away. No more just 5 minutes, no nothing. When the alarm sounds: get up.
Just tell him: “I'm done with getting you out of bed. I don't care because you are the problem and you are the one who needs to solve it. Set your alarm and get up when the alarm sounds. I will not wake you anymore and I will not wait on you anymore. If that makes you getting late to work or appointments, it's your fault. You know your problem and the only way to solve it is by you instantly getting up when your alarm sounds. If you can't do that you'll have to learn through pain.”
seems to me like OP’s wife should just go marry bf instead ? OP, I wouldn’t say this is abuse in the physical/sexual/emotional sense. I’d say it’s an abuse of trust. The fact that she and boyfriend went and decided to have a baby without you or make such huge sexual/reproductive decisions behind your back, in my opinion, constitutes cheating. It was just a repackaged, weirdo type of cheating.
also this is just an assumption so take this with a grain of salt, but… you said your wife has high sex drive but you’re asexual. Why did the asexual person just get casually left out of a “lets have a baby” discussion? Is it because you don’t do the sex? Your wife never accepted your sexuality, sis. and boyfriend went along with whatever would let him get it in and freeload.
You should get out. I don’t think these people love you.
If you love her forgive her. Is she’s your person forgive her. The first few weeks of a relationship aren’t the same as the last six years of a solid relationship. No one knows I’m the first couple of weeks it will be forever so they sometimes make certain decisions. Over 80% of married couples who get therapy for infidelity in a marriage stay together, so why can’t you two work this out?
You need to get ahead of this though with your COC. At least go talk to the chaplain if you’re not comfortable going to a therapist or your CO.
Not sure what branch you’re in or even if you’re US but if you’re in the Army especially, I could help find you resources if you message me. You could also potentially find some resources at the embassy or consulate.
You absolutely can divorce while overseas if you’re in the US DoD or DoS and she can get a separate PCS to home. I did this when I divorced and was on orders.
Getting everything out and find some sort of suport, wanted to know if I was over thinking, cuz some sources say different things when coming to how safe a vasectomy is.
Have you considered that maybe he's not entirely to blame? That maybe the reason he's struggling to articulate something is precisely because (he feels) that it doesn't matter what he says, you're going to overreact, react negatively, etc.?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying he doesn't lack emotional intelligence. He very well may. But it also sounds like you may be overbearing and overly sensitive.
He's wired different than you. That doesn't make him defective. You can either spin your wheels trying to change him, or you can change yourself. Or you can meet in the middle. Or you can find someone more compatible.
If you can't afford therapy use the internet to learn about narcissistic abuse and trauma bond. I'd recommend watching the YouTube channels “Surviving Narcissism” and “Doctor Ramani”, and if your vulnerability to Narcissism stems from childhood abuse/trauma “Patrick Teahan LICSW ” my three favorite FREE therapists.
Thank you so much, I’ll be making these boundaries clear cut one more time, and will be telling him he needs to establish boundaries with her.
Of course he would be. But don't expect him to think of you the same way or want to get back together with you when he finds out some comment made by a coworker was enough to get you to want to go sleep with other men for a little bit while keeping him in the “maybe” pile.
If he says you’re not together then you are his FWB. You are entitled to speak to and sleep with whoever else you want, and so is he.
If he’s jealous then he either wants more, ie a relationship, or he’s being selfish because he just wants you as a fuck buddy but you’re supposed to be exclusive with him which is not how FWB works.
You need to ask him to clearly explain how he sees you two, what he wants, and where he sees your situationship going.
He’s being too vague. You need to know so you can decide if you want to carry on or move on to someone else if you want an actual relationship because it doesn’t sound like he wants that.
How long have you been with your new bf? What is the timeline for having kids together in the future, assuming you want them?
If you felt telling him about your past could be healing for you then I would tell him. But if it is just going to be traumatic then you are under no obligation to tell him just now. Work through your feelings with a counsellor/ therapist first (it sounds like you might need this) and then when you are established in your relationship and you feel comfortable/ ready to share you can.
If/ when you are actively trying to create a family then it feels important to share this information as the process of trying to get or being pregnant may stir up emotions for you and he needs to be prepared to support you through that.
Oh I think she is 100% lying about being pregnant but I’m not quick to call someone a rapist without some more facts. For all we know he wasn’t as drunk as he claims, she was drunk too, or hell she could have climbed hot in the bed after he passed out to claim she is pregnant later just to magically have a miscarriage. I don’t like throwing SA and r@pe around without more details. He didn’t immediately go talk to his gf afterwards. He hid what happened and lied about it and then dumped her to save his own ass. So no I’m not on his side with this one and will question his “truths”. He immediately went it to cover up mode not tell my gf what happened mode.
The comment your dad made makes it sound like he’s incredibly dumb and knows it and is afraid of everyone else finding out. Deeply insecure thing to say.
I saw an analogy that really stuck with me. A project manager's job is to organize, delegate and supervise. Employees under the project manager take instructions from the project manager and complete tasks. The project manager does not complete the employee's tasks unless employee needs help or guidance. An employee is paid less than the project manager. The project manager does not do half or all of the employee's work. Just the job of organizing, delegating, and supervising is considered more valuable (in terms of salary) that completing the task.
Apply this analogy to the home. You are both the project manager and the employee. But you are
Not making more than employee because you are both paid the same
Doing a large percentage of the employee's work.
What value does this employee even bring to this workplace? This employee actually DETRACTS from the project because they are contributing nothing, doubling the work of the project manager, and being paid for it.
He's not going to change. Not until it's a choice between growing up with you or growing up alone. Even then it's a project you shouldn't have to work on.
You break up with him. He's told you he's going to cheat on you without you there or force you to watch him cheat on you with someone else. Break up with him, block him on everything, have a good cry, then sit with the fact that a good man would never bully you into a situation like this.
He’s is telling you that he’s going to cheat and thinks there is nothing you can do about it.
Well, he can cheer but you should leave.
He doesn’t respect you. Don’t let yourself be treated like this.
Girl what?? If I knew that on top I‘d advise to go FULL NO CONTACT. He doesn‘t deserve you.
No one escalates to this level of stalking unless they have done very similar things in past. Stalking in public places is more common. But if someone is daring enough to break into someone house who is living in the same neighborhood. He has found out about her ex, avoided the cameras and didn’t flinch a bit when the cops were called by Ava. he is an hardcore criminal. Try to s get away as safely as possible from him. Please tell all this to few friends and family and get them call you often for safety check. If you have a daughter get her to safety without arousing much suspicion. Be aware of all his moves.
Obviously he has issues if he broke up with you over a name. If he is not willing to compromise over this, he may have done you a favor, leaving your life. You can now find a relationship with someone more mature and less stubborn. If he won't compromise on this, you'd be in for a rough road in the future with this relationship. It sounds like you didn't know him well enough when you got pregnant. But, your child will need you, and you will have to be strong. He can co-parent and pay child support and have court-ordered visitation. It will be fine. You will be fine. Be the best mother you can be and focus on that. Your boyfriend is not okay, and until he is, you are better off without him, unfortunately.