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Date: November 1, 2022
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Trust me- you don't want him back! The trash took itself out. You'll realize this with a little time.
Don't do it. Alcohol and then sharing a room, screams the expectation for sex and possible sexual assault if you don't consent.
We didn't talk it out in detail, but it seems for her the idea of buying a house (if affordable) seems to be a life goal.
Okay so she wants to buy a house, but how about you? She just moved in a year ago, are you even ready for that next big step together?
And “just slacking off” if instead I could use that time to acquire more income – at least “within reason” – is something that needs a “serious” reason for her.
Just because her idea of “worthiness” is tied to how many hours you worked does not mean you have to abide by it.
I have worked like a dog most of my adult life and the big lesson it taught me is that time is the most valuable thing you have in the entire world. You never get it back. No old person on their deathbed says “I wish I worked harder”. They wish they had spent more quality time with loved ones/pursuing things they enjoy.
I recently cut back on my hours so I could have 3-day weekends. It has worked wonders for my mental health and makes me feel like I actually get the chance to live a life.
Have you ever had a serious discussion with her about why she views not being a slave to your job as a bad thing? Because if you want to have a chance at making this work, you both need to fully grasp how you both really feel about important topics like this before making big decisions like buying a house together.
Whatever you do, do not give up this pretty much ideal work-life balance situation just to please her. You'll end up resenting her for it and that alone might kill the relationship anyway.
The real problem is overspending as a couple but only one person being responsible for the fallout of the overspending.
Her non-paying is just the tip of the iceberg.
Example: “I like being taken care of, and it's apparent to me by how much you spend on me” = someone is in a relationship with the image of a person, not with a real person.
Your girl has problems that deserve sympathy – and you have handled that with actions.
If you feel unappreciated, that's because it's a problem that she has created. You ARE unappreciated.
That’s not what he said it all
So you have no income yet still drink and smoke weed?
FML. You know exactly what you need to do, yet need someone to sit and hold your hand to do it.
Your wife is fed up because what she's effectively married to is a manchild who, let's be honest, needs to actually grow the fuck up.
I know weed is cool and all now, but it's still as bad as alcohol when it's abused in the same way. You sound like you are simply abusing substances in order to escape the mundanity of your reality. Do you not realise that until you actually do something about your substance abuse, your life simply will not improve?
And you have children. Fucks sake.
Instead of targetting anything against her, make the discussion about things he does.
Talk about how much you like/love him and ask him about moving in together as a couple, even if it just a rough timeline to feel him out, my lease is up in x months, and I would like to live with you.
If he is not willing to discuss it, or move without her… well who wants to be the 3rd wheel in their own relationship.
If you want to bring up how he doesn't prioritise you, talk about how you feel let down if he cancels or interupts time with you to help out his friends, and ask why is it only one of his friends that he will drop everything for.
You could also talk about how in all of his past relationships, the common demoninator for conflict is his friend, and alot of that is based on her behaviour and what she is telling him. Why is she trying to drive them all away?
GO TO HR and tell them he's harassing you. Then get evidence of the blackmail threat and go to the cops. Blackmail is still illegal.