I’ll ask you this, when was the last time you came away feeling happy, heard, and loved after having a fight with someone?
It’s gone both ways enough here that he just wore down first.
Whether you get back together or not, recognize the patterns you mutually participated in to get here.
So when you lose it, or they give you the invitation to fight by raising their voice what exactly stops you from walking away and coming back to talk about it when no one is worked up?
You set the tone for your relationship dynamics. The energy you give is usually what you get back unless someone’s a total pos.
I’m not not telling you are wrong to be stressed, or grieving, or falling out of love. I’m not saying it’s wrong to call out things you don’t like.
I just hope you make different decisions moving forward so you being happy in a relationship is a possibility because you gotta learn how to say the things you need to in a way someone wants to work with you and feels supported and part of a 2 people team.
I dated someone long term who had genital herpes she got from her first boyfriend in high school her first time having sex ever. She was devastated about it. She was really careful and took medication and knew when we shouldn't have sex and if there was an outbreak. She was super responsible.
The sex was phenomenal and we had a really lovely relationship before breaking up because I moved for a dream job. I never contracted herpes!
Why? Did you cut your boyfriend's legs off while you were cuddling your hard 'friend' while you had no pants on?
Honey just scroll through your post history. Why do you even want to stay with this person?
Maybe. Not up to me or you at this point.
I’ll ask you this, when was the last time you came away feeling happy, heard, and loved after having a fight with someone?
It’s gone both ways enough here that he just wore down first.
Whether you get back together or not, recognize the patterns you mutually participated in to get here.
So when you lose it, or they give you the invitation to fight by raising their voice what exactly stops you from walking away and coming back to talk about it when no one is worked up?
You set the tone for your relationship dynamics. The energy you give is usually what you get back unless someone’s a total pos.
I’m not not telling you are wrong to be stressed, or grieving, or falling out of love. I’m not saying it’s wrong to call out things you don’t like.
I just hope you make different decisions moving forward so you being happy in a relationship is a possibility because you gotta learn how to say the things you need to in a way someone wants to work with you and feels supported and part of a 2 people team.
I dated someone long term who had genital herpes she got from her first boyfriend in high school her first time having sex ever. She was devastated about it. She was really careful and took medication and knew when we shouldn't have sex and if there was an outbreak. She was super responsible.
The sex was phenomenal and we had a really lovely relationship before breaking up because I moved for a dream job. I never contracted herpes!
It doesn't have to be a dealbreaker 🙂
I’m leaving her 100%
He doesn’t want her at his place because of his neighbors so she’d never go there
Thank you.
What did I just read?
After 2 months that bloke honestly declares he would imprison you and rape you until you are pregnant?
Because this is the essence of his “joking”. If that's a fantasy of his…. don't wait until the day he puts it into action.
RUN now! Don't even discuss.
That man is a sexist rapist manipulative gaslighting ah. God knows, what he would want to do that for.
Any woman in her right mind would try to put him out of order something good to get out of that hell.
That's so creepy. He has below zero respect for you, neither respects YOU nor your life nor your will.
Please… be out of there without even a prior discussion.