Ugh, I hear about deaths all the time because of fentanyl. ☹️☹️
Honestly, you need to stick to the ultimatum. I’m not saying you should break up, but you should leave. Is there someone else you could stay with temporarily?
I have the same ultimatum with my husband. I forgave too many times. And too many times it caused unrecoverable damage to our relationship. Once more and I’m gone. Luckily we don’t on-line anywhere near his closest friends that do it or in the city he grew up in where it’s a rampant problem. However, I am terrified to go back and visit (his whole family lives there so it’s unavoidable).
Not sure what 'things online' actually means and that might not be cheating. But if he shares intimate details of his personal life with someone else, then that is a trust issue. If he's more intimate with a stranger live!, then he should be dating her and not wasting your time. Unless intimacy is not a requirement or value to you in a relationship.
I was with you right up till the end. Phone and porn addiction don't take away from the fact that the system is rigged and it is, in fact, billionaire's fault.
That's definitely the issue: communication. I don't think it's acceptable to just disappear without any explanation. She needs to know that doesn't work for you.
You need tontrust your own judgement here. Stop listening to these people. They are abusive and have turned you into a doormat who doesn't trust herself. Please get a good clinical psychologist (not someone from church! That is not real therapy) and make a new life. You can do it.
This is denial speaking. You already said it was a dealbreaker. You need to break the deal.
Ugh, I hear about deaths all the time because of fentanyl. ☹️☹️
Honestly, you need to stick to the ultimatum. I’m not saying you should break up, but you should leave. Is there someone else you could stay with temporarily?
I have the same ultimatum with my husband. I forgave too many times. And too many times it caused unrecoverable damage to our relationship. Once more and I’m gone. Luckily we don’t on-line anywhere near his closest friends that do it or in the city he grew up in where it’s a rampant problem. However, I am terrified to go back and visit (his whole family lives there so it’s unavoidable).
Not sure what 'things online' actually means and that might not be cheating. But if he shares intimate details of his personal life with someone else, then that is a trust issue. If he's more intimate with a stranger live!, then he should be dating her and not wasting your time. Unless intimacy is not a requirement or value to you in a relationship.
Actually, I did read it again. “Doesn't want to use condoms” = “Thinks he can force her to have sex without condoms if she's on birth control.”
Again, OP never claimed that he wanted to force her to do anything.
I was with you right up till the end. Phone and porn addiction don't take away from the fact that the system is rigged and it is, in fact, billionaire's fault.
That's definitely the issue: communication. I don't think it's acceptable to just disappear without any explanation. She needs to know that doesn't work for you.
You need tontrust your own judgement here. Stop listening to these people. They are abusive and have turned you into a doormat who doesn't trust herself. Please get a good clinical psychologist (not someone from church! That is not real therapy) and make a new life. You can do it.