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oil on the feet [Multi Goal]
Date: November 24, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
oil on the feet [Multi Goal]
Didn't see any red flags until I got to the answers to the most common questions. Something is definitely off here. I wouldn't agree to go and stay in a cabin in the wilderness with just this guy over Christmas …..
It’s time to leave him. He is abusing you.
First:
Yes! Often after these emotional incidents, she would worry that I would leave her and that I was emotionally checkout. Despite my attempts to reassure her that I was frustrated with her behaviour and did not know how to help her, she would lash out again and then fear me leaving. One so incident was when she was constantly having doubts in fights and verbally stating them, so I mentioned that it would be best if we split. She asked what that meant, and I told her the connection would be severed. It causes massive fear of me leaving and writing off the entire relationship and not caring about them. Manipulated me in to staying. This also included a small reaction to me going on a hike without them, not telling them about it until the end of the day and that I didn't share pictures they concluded in their mind that I wasn't a part of their life. This also included getting a remote job in lieu of shift rotation work and a whole reaction of how I did not consider them in this decision for a 'remote position'. Despite my attempts to clarify I wasn't leaving and that the flexibility in my work schedule will allow me to see them often, they were upset because I did not check in with their work schedule and that they would be upset if they took a job in Texas. Note the word remote.. not moving.
Second:
Yes, minor infractions such as using words like “it's okay” and “everything good,” a missed phone, and not sharing pictures from my IG in lieu of sending them directly to her. Constant splitting on friends from they're horrible, to their the best friends ever. Questionable friend circle
Third:
Yes I saw her angry tantrums especially over text directed at her siblings and me. To her co-workers and others, she was angel
Fourth:
Often this happen.. including over a text conversation that I camly exited because she was being aggressive and rude. Despite my attempts to calm and ask for clarity so we could talk, she continued so I left. She then pleaded with me not to leave and kept calling me. Often lashing out as if I am the most uncaring partner and I do not care to her telling me that she misses me to not wanting to see me to her crying that I did not come and see her when she was struggling. Lots of push/pull dynamics
She has said several other mean stuff to me today. She called me desperate as I was insisting her to tell me the reason behind her acting so distant. If she had just communicated me things properly, I would have easily understood the situation.
I know you’re probably right. While it’s heartbreaking, I don’t want to ever make someone do anything they don’t want to do. I would never want to change my partner and cause them to not live the life they want
Since you’ve only been on a few dates, and have only known her for a few weeks, I’d give it another month or so. There’s no rush but if you try to stake your claim so quickly you may actually highlight your inexperience at dating.
That’s cool then
You don't even start knowing what people are really like for at least six months. What your boyfriend did could get you fired, or at least in trouble with your boss. I'd break it off and roll out. That's completely unacceptable.
Tell him next time he gets horny to fuck the pancakes because his sausage isn’t get any of yours for a while.
Time to bin him. If you won’t feel confident and sexy with him then don’t stick around.