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Well, yes; the message could easily be the truth. The reason you've not noticed anything may be due to the fact that the dude bides his time until his presence is more firmly entrenched in your daily life.
It's unfortunate that the message was made incognito, as if it isn't a troll, the sender might have more detailed info that could be of use to you. But narcissistic personality traits don't necessarily mean that he's a psychopath, as psychopaths are devoid of empathy and have none of the inner “consciousness” most humans have.
My advice in your case is to be aware that a yellow flag is at half mast, and be prepared if your bf begins acting like the messenger had indicated. In other words, proceed with caution.
You don’t want your girls growing up & thinking this is how relationships should be. I know it’s naked but if he’s not willing to work on this together , you need to choose you.
Honestly communication and reciprocation are key in a relationship. Yes, you shouldn’t have told the friend he told you he was worried about. But can we go back to the fact that he doesn’t see a problem with using you to satisfy his sexual needs, doesn’t want to communicate about it, and then basically ignores your feelings. He’s acting like a victim while his reaction (or basically no reaction) to you communicating your needs/feelings) started this whole situation.
thnks for your reply so we would most probably be just going to a cafe n chillin' nothing much but i just don't think heels r practical on the contrary shoes don't go well with my outfit
I agree OP's bf is an asshole, but calling him a neo-nazi unsarcastically is fucking reaching lmao, he just sounds like a dumbass that doesn't understand genetics.
He's already shown he's a little asshole: “Durr to guys sex is meaningless but to girls it's not”. So he plans on trying to get what he wants and does not care if it hurts anyone in the process, with his thinking.
He's going to get jealous if he sees you with anyone else, and that's his problem. DO NOT LET HIM MAKE IT YOUR PROBLEM. He's going to make his bed, he can lie in it, alone and sad.
I mean- I cant really have a friend who would be down to sleep with my s/o if we break up. I cut her off too obviously because it just felt disrespectful to me.
That’s totally where I’m coming from instinctively, I think. It just feels a bit unnatural for me personally, to feel like I’m controlling any aspect of his life. But you’re right though, it was necessary to make a big deal out of.
It sounds like a lot work for very little return. Self conscious guys don't get better because of anything you do differently, they need to fix themselves. Meanwhile, you're in a different town eating alone and have no chance of making a real connection with a real person. This doesn't sound viable to me.
Guilt is a feeling that demands absolution. In my experience that absolution can be found through self reflection and introspection. If your husband did wrong to you then he is accountable for his wrong regardless of the wrong you did against him. You should hold him accountable for his failings, just as you are being held accountable for yours. If the goal is for everyone to be as happy as they can possibly be, yourself included, then martyring yourself in guilt serves no purpose. it's a continuation of the selfish behaviors that lead to the guilt the first place.
Check your phone for any weird apps. Check your car for a tracker. It's very concerning how he knows where you are. I think you should break up tbh. He's showing his true colors now that he thinks you'll take any kind if abuse from him.
Trauma can cause some weird stuff. If he had no control and couldnt stop himself peeing on her body, face, and all over her bed without her consent, I would be conserned what else he might do if triggered again, even if it is completely unintentional. I understand triggers, at the end of the day he violated her consent in a humiliating way, and wasnt able to stop himself doing so. Thats unsafe for her even if his actions are all from trauma.
It’s all about power. She thinks she’s in control because you make more effort than she does. Stop being so accommodating and be more honest with her. Tell her you’re sick of being the one who always tries to find resolutions for things in your relationship, and that she either needs to recognise that you are equals in the relationship, or she can find some other guy to treat like crap.
It sounds like your maturing and found out that personal opinions don’t matter unless they affect the relationship. Im pretty conservative on most topics but could care less when a women I date is liberal. Honestly the political topics only matter in very specific scenarios in a relationship. Good on you bud
Kranky, your GF's strong abandonment fear — as well as her abusive and controlling behaviors — may be due to her having very weak control over her own emotions (i.e., a lack of emotional skills she had no opportunity to acquire in childhood). My exW has this problem. If that is an issue for your GF, you likely have been seeing 3 other warning signs.
First, you would be seeing her rely heavily on black-white thinking, wherein she tends to categorize some people as “all good” (“with me”) or “all bad” (“against me”) and will recategorize them — in just a few seconds — from one polar extreme to the other based on a minor infraction.
Because she also uses B-W thinking in judging HERSELF, she would rarely acknowledge making a mistake or having a flaw. Doing so would imply, in her mind, she is “all bad.” She thus would blame nearly all misfortunes and mistakes on you and view herself as “The Victim.”
Further, to validate her “victim” status, she would keep a detailed mental list of every infraction/mistake you ever did (real or imagined) and would not hesitate to pull out the entire list to defend herself in the smallest, most insignificant disagreement with you. Moreover, this B-W thinking also would be evident in her frequent use of all-or-nothing expressions like “you ALWAYS…” and “you NEVER….”
Second, you would not see her expressing her anger to casual friends, classmates, or total strangers. She usually gets along fine with them. Rather, her temper tantrums almost exclusively would be expressed against a close loved one (e.g., against you or her parents).
Third, you are convinced she truly loves you. But you often see her flipping, on a dime, between loving you and icy withdrawals from you, frequently making you feel like you're “walking on eggshells.” Such flips would occur in a few seconds in response to some minor thing you say or do.
Kranky, have you been seeing strong occurrences of these 3 red flags?
I'm mostly bothered by the lying. I would be more understanding if she told me she was uncomfortable with it and not promise she would do it and not follow through.
I talked to her before and told her I want her to feel like it's the right thing to do and not because she feels pressured by me.
A 27 year old man who “can't online without his mom” is not a fully fledged adult. This woman is going to bleed you dry emotionally and later, financially. Have you talked about where she's going to live! when she retires aka five minutes after you and he buy your first house? Have you talked about how much money you are okay with spending on her / giving her per month? Because I guarantee you that she is going to expect financial support if not financial support and room and board.
You might love this man but you are not his primary relationship. Mommy is. He “can't on-line without” someone who stalks him everywhere he goes and gives him a 9 p.m. curfew. A NINE P.M. CURFEW? I had one of those when I was 14.
If you marry this man, you will fight about her demands on your time, personal space, housing, children, money, and any other major life choices until the day she dies.
Do not throw your life away. You are young. You can find a real adult partner, and you deserve one.
I think the breakup is probably wise regardless of what was going on.
If she was fooling around with her ex, then you can't trust her. A relationship where you constantly have to watch your partner like a hawk to make sure they don't cheat is miserable.
If she wasn't fooling around with her ex, then she can't trust you. If their conversation was innocent and just running long then you stalking her like a crazy person would absolutely be a dealbreaker, because a relationship where your partner is constantly watching you like a hawk to make sure you don't cheat is ALSO miserable.
Bottom line no matter what was going on here there is no trust in your relationship and this wasn't going to work out either way.
Okay, i really DONT wanna be those girls that defend their toxic boyfriends, BUT. dont you think i should take into account that hes been fit 2 years into our relationship and this attitude only popped up during the span of the month old break? I mean, we technically aren’t together at the moment anyway, haha.
Well, yes; the message could easily be the truth. The reason you've not noticed anything may be due to the fact that the dude bides his time until his presence is more firmly entrenched in your daily life.
It's unfortunate that the message was made incognito, as if it isn't a troll, the sender might have more detailed info that could be of use to you. But narcissistic personality traits don't necessarily mean that he's a psychopath, as psychopaths are devoid of empathy and have none of the inner “consciousness” most humans have.
My advice in your case is to be aware that a yellow flag is at half mast, and be prepared if your bf begins acting like the messenger had indicated. In other words, proceed with caution.
I wish you well.
What purpose does suddenly telling your partner you're bisexual serve if you don't plan to cheat?
You don’t want your girls growing up & thinking this is how relationships should be. I know it’s naked but if he’s not willing to work on this together , you need to choose you.
Did you ask your husband whether or not he would be okay with getting a pet?
Honestly communication and reciprocation are key in a relationship. Yes, you shouldn’t have told the friend he told you he was worried about. But can we go back to the fact that he doesn’t see a problem with using you to satisfy his sexual needs, doesn’t want to communicate about it, and then basically ignores your feelings. He’s acting like a victim while his reaction (or basically no reaction) to you communicating your needs/feelings) started this whole situation.
Do what makes you feel happy and attractive imo. If you want heels but its chilly you could wear boots with heel
thnks for your reply so we would most probably be just going to a cafe n chillin' nothing much but i just don't think heels r practical on the contrary shoes don't go well with my outfit
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I know… I online in Japan with her, I'm afraid to change my life and be left with nothing… And go back to my country…
That’s definitely the case. We are in a good place relationship wise. Both super happy. Haven’t changed how I treat her in any way
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I agree OP's bf is an asshole, but calling him a neo-nazi unsarcastically is fucking reaching lmao, he just sounds like a dumbass that doesn't understand genetics.
A couple friends mentioned it was a smaller wedding and they feel like I'm just punishing them.
Just mention back that it's a smaller Christmas party this year.
Let him go try to get what he wants.
He's already shown he's a little asshole: “Durr to guys sex is meaningless but to girls it's not”. So he plans on trying to get what he wants and does not care if it hurts anyone in the process, with his thinking.
He's going to get jealous if he sees you with anyone else, and that's his problem. DO NOT LET HIM MAKE IT YOUR PROBLEM. He's going to make his bed, he can lie in it, alone and sad.
Who would even respond to that?
Do all of them even remember?
I’m not sure how she passed the mental health exam if she was truly delusional.
Why tf would you want to save a relationship with a man who pulls that crap???
…..why do you want to salvage your relationship with this liar who puts your health at risk? You don’t think you can find a better boyfriend?
I mean- I cant really have a friend who would be down to sleep with my s/o if we break up. I cut her off too obviously because it just felt disrespectful to me.
That’s totally where I’m coming from instinctively, I think. It just feels a bit unnatural for me personally, to feel like I’m controlling any aspect of his life. But you’re right though, it was necessary to make a big deal out of.
It sounds like a lot work for very little return. Self conscious guys don't get better because of anything you do differently, they need to fix themselves. Meanwhile, you're in a different town eating alone and have no chance of making a real connection with a real person. This doesn't sound viable to me.
Oh? That wasn't very clear from your post.
Guilt is a feeling that demands absolution. In my experience that absolution can be found through self reflection and introspection. If your husband did wrong to you then he is accountable for his wrong regardless of the wrong you did against him. You should hold him accountable for his failings, just as you are being held accountable for yours. If the goal is for everyone to be as happy as they can possibly be, yourself included, then martyring yourself in guilt serves no purpose. it's a continuation of the selfish behaviors that lead to the guilt the first place.
What festival is this?
In what world do you think it is ok to go to her boss and request a day off on her behalf!
Lmaooo you're the boss ?
If you get upset a minor correction like that you're probably too sensitive to be on the internet ngl
Check your phone for any weird apps. Check your car for a tracker. It's very concerning how he knows where you are. I think you should break up tbh. He's showing his true colors now that he thinks you'll take any kind if abuse from him.
Trauma can cause some weird stuff. If he had no control and couldnt stop himself peeing on her body, face, and all over her bed without her consent, I would be conserned what else he might do if triggered again, even if it is completely unintentional. I understand triggers, at the end of the day he violated her consent in a humiliating way, and wasnt able to stop himself doing so. Thats unsafe for her even if his actions are all from trauma.
In every sub I’d say. Or even in general. Hats off to ebbie
When did this become groomers advice?
It’s all about power. She thinks she’s in control because you make more effort than she does. Stop being so accommodating and be more honest with her. Tell her you’re sick of being the one who always tries to find resolutions for things in your relationship, and that she either needs to recognise that you are equals in the relationship, or she can find some other guy to treat like crap.
Bruh, he loves trains. I get it. I would use an excuse like that to get on a train. It's about the journey, not the hand cream.
It's generally illegal to assault someone who isn't putting you in any danger/is attempting to flee. It's like this in most of the US too
It sounds like your maturing and found out that personal opinions don’t matter unless they affect the relationship. Im pretty conservative on most topics but could care less when a women I date is liberal. Honestly the political topics only matter in very specific scenarios in a relationship. Good on you bud
What are the good things that make this worth it? He pays for everything? You have kids? He's tall and naked?
Just, why??
Kranky, your GF's strong abandonment fear — as well as her abusive and controlling behaviors — may be due to her having very weak control over her own emotions (i.e., a lack of emotional skills she had no opportunity to acquire in childhood). My exW has this problem. If that is an issue for your GF, you likely have been seeing 3 other warning signs.
First, you would be seeing her rely heavily on black-white thinking, wherein she tends to categorize some people as “all good” (“with me”) or “all bad” (“against me”) and will recategorize them — in just a few seconds — from one polar extreme to the other based on a minor infraction.
Because she also uses B-W thinking in judging HERSELF, she would rarely acknowledge making a mistake or having a flaw. Doing so would imply, in her mind, she is “all bad.” She thus would blame nearly all misfortunes and mistakes on you and view herself as “The Victim.”
Further, to validate her “victim” status, she would keep a detailed mental list of every infraction/mistake you ever did (real or imagined) and would not hesitate to pull out the entire list to defend herself in the smallest, most insignificant disagreement with you. Moreover, this B-W thinking also would be evident in her frequent use of all-or-nothing expressions like “you ALWAYS…” and “you NEVER….”
Second, you would not see her expressing her anger to casual friends, classmates, or total strangers. She usually gets along fine with them. Rather, her temper tantrums almost exclusively would be expressed against a close loved one (e.g., against you or her parents).
Third, you are convinced she truly loves you. But you often see her flipping, on a dime, between loving you and icy withdrawals from you, frequently making you feel like you're “walking on eggshells.” Such flips would occur in a few seconds in response to some minor thing you say or do.
Kranky, have you been seeing strong occurrences of these 3 red flags?
I'm mostly bothered by the lying. I would be more understanding if she told me she was uncomfortable with it and not promise she would do it and not follow through.
I talked to her before and told her I want her to feel like it's the right thing to do and not because she feels pressured by me.
Honestly you two seem to argue too much from the sound of things. It now looks like he is almost looking for excuses to not be with you.
A 27 year old man who “can't online without his mom” is not a fully fledged adult. This woman is going to bleed you dry emotionally and later, financially. Have you talked about where she's going to live! when she retires aka five minutes after you and he buy your first house? Have you talked about how much money you are okay with spending on her / giving her per month? Because I guarantee you that she is going to expect financial support if not financial support and room and board.
You might love this man but you are not his primary relationship. Mommy is. He “can't on-line without” someone who stalks him everywhere he goes and gives him a 9 p.m. curfew. A NINE P.M. CURFEW? I had one of those when I was 14.
If you marry this man, you will fight about her demands on your time, personal space, housing, children, money, and any other major life choices until the day she dies.
Do not throw your life away. You are young. You can find a real adult partner, and you deserve one.
I think the breakup is probably wise regardless of what was going on.
If she was fooling around with her ex, then you can't trust her. A relationship where you constantly have to watch your partner like a hawk to make sure they don't cheat is miserable.
If she wasn't fooling around with her ex, then she can't trust you. If their conversation was innocent and just running long then you stalking her like a crazy person would absolutely be a dealbreaker, because a relationship where your partner is constantly watching you like a hawk to make sure you don't cheat is ALSO miserable.
Bottom line no matter what was going on here there is no trust in your relationship and this wasn't going to work out either way.
This would make a lot more sense if you were both 10 years younger. This kind of drama isn't good for anyone.
You should prob dna test those kids.
Good luck.
Okay, i really DONT wanna be those girls that defend their toxic boyfriends, BUT. dont you think i should take into account that hes been fit 2 years into our relationship and this attitude only popped up during the span of the month old break? I mean, we technically aren’t together at the moment anyway, haha.
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Iam glad i was able to help then
It would have to be pretty significant to be not a bother but a concern.