This is a relationship ender. You deserve someone who chooses you….not someone who is settling and pining and trying to cheat even before you get married.
It might’ve been random but I think it is more likely that this male massage therapist who is probably very well educated on the body knew what pressure points to work in order to induce an orgasm. It is a thing. Now, I’m not saying for sure this is the case but I think it is likely.
This is what I have learned about open marriages, based exclusively off information I've gathered on this subreddit. Every open marriage is suggested by one partner who is already sleeping with a specific individual for things they have an opportunity to. The other partner grudgingly agrees. After a period of time one or the other partner, usually the instigator, stops getting laid and wants to close the relationship while, again, more often than not, the other part is fine with things the way they are.
My response would be “you wanted this relationship open, go find someone to fuck.”
Unfortunately she has clearly been exploited. He is just another generic creep using a camera to creep on women. Many models go deer in the headlights and with the flow, and while I think her goal was earnestly to try and excite you he likely exploited that as well.
And that's it, she probably meant well. She saw it perhaps as a two birds one stone sort of thing where she could help the friend and turn you on. But in that I think she was naive, both on the read on whether you'd be into it, who it was with, and the risk she was taking in general.
And you are allowed to be upset and disappointed. It was a boundary that seemed obvious. But also appreciate she will likely realise what happened as you discuss it and she may react in ways you don't expect.
If her mode of dress was good enough for you to start dating her, it should be good enough now.
Choosing to date her represents tacit acceptance of her style.
Maybe next time don’t date someone who dresses like this. Keep your thoughts to yourself.
Please for the love of God do not take this woman on this trip with you.
This is a relationship ender. You deserve someone who chooses you….not someone who is settling and pining and trying to cheat even before you get married.
It might’ve been random but I think it is more likely that this male massage therapist who is probably very well educated on the body knew what pressure points to work in order to induce an orgasm. It is a thing. Now, I’m not saying for sure this is the case but I think it is likely.
Pick better friends dude.
This is what I have learned about open marriages, based exclusively off information I've gathered on this subreddit. Every open marriage is suggested by one partner who is already sleeping with a specific individual for things they have an opportunity to. The other partner grudgingly agrees. After a period of time one or the other partner, usually the instigator, stops getting laid and wants to close the relationship while, again, more often than not, the other part is fine with things the way they are.
My response would be “you wanted this relationship open, go find someone to fuck.”
Unfortunately she has clearly been exploited. He is just another generic creep using a camera to creep on women. Many models go deer in the headlights and with the flow, and while I think her goal was earnestly to try and excite you he likely exploited that as well.
And that's it, she probably meant well. She saw it perhaps as a two birds one stone sort of thing where she could help the friend and turn you on. But in that I think she was naive, both on the read on whether you'd be into it, who it was with, and the risk she was taking in general.
And you are allowed to be upset and disappointed. It was a boundary that seemed obvious. But also appreciate she will likely realise what happened as you discuss it and she may react in ways you don't expect.
This is a great answer.
I’d absolutely fight my former friend, though.
You communicate you're disappointed in all of that behavior by breaking up with him.