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Date: October 9, 2022
I think there is a reason you aren't giving background on this, so I'm going to side with her. You don't own her body just because you're dating.
So you guys are long distance, have only been seeing each other for a few months and you’re still friendly/hang out with your ex… sounds like your girlfriend is just making sure she can trust you. Most people would feel a nagging sense of insecurity when it comes to their partner’s ex being around, so maybe your girlfriend just wants to be sure she’s getting the full picture of what your relationship with your ex is?
I mean, if something were to happen between you and your ex, who would tell your new girlfriend aside from yourself? I think her motivation is just that she’s looking out for herself.
That aside though, I can’t help but find it odd that your ex has made a random account viewing her instagram a point of conversation between you and tried to make it a thing through password resetting and saying it matches your new girlfriend’s country? Surely most people would just block and move on? Idk
He's a groomer rapist and even if he has “good moments” if you call them like that, he's harming you and you deserve someone better, who is not over twice your age and abusing you. “good moments” are not worth of staying in this relationship. Leave before he does any more harm
It's worth considering that while she has applied to be legally allowed to work, but (unless I'm reading things wrong) that approval hasn't come through yet, and until it does there's very little she can do (and she especially shouldn't follow the other commenter's advice and work illegally for cash in hand). These processes are torturously slow and there's no real way to speed them up – she could push for updates every day and get nowhere.
What do you think she can realistically do to 'resolve her issue'?
Honestly, the root of the issue is that you don't like your boyfriend helping her because she's a woman, and you're jealous of her living there all the time when you feel that you deserve to be 'taken care of' in the same way.
It's worth considering that while she has applied to be legally allowed to work, but (unless I'm reading things wrong) that approval hasn't come through yet, and until it does there's very little she can do (and she especially shouldn't follow the other commenter's advice and work illegally for cash in hand). These processes are torturously slow and there's no real way to speed them up – she could push for updates every day and get nowhere.
What do you think she can realistically do to 'resolve her issue'?
Honestly, the root of the issue is that you don't like your boyfriend helping her because she's a woman, and you're jealous of her living there all the time when you feel that you deserve to be 'taken care of' in the same way.
You're a side piece, dude. You deserve better. Drop her.
But you didn't help him. You blundered into a situation you clearly hadn't listened to him about, thought you knew better than he who had lived it, forced him to break boundaries, and have thoroughly made things worse for all concerned.
No advice to add to everyone else's. Just sorry you are going through this. Your anxiety levels must be through the roof. Thinking of you x
It's not your fault you have anxiety, but it is your responsbility, not theirs to deal with.
Just because they are aware of it, doesn't mean they have to change their lives and desires to fit around your needs.
“C'mon, you're smarter than this.”
Obviously not. ?
I am glad it has worked out for you so far. That is not the case with many others.
Sounds about the right maturity level for a 28 year old dating a teenager.
How is this your problem? Certainly you could just block / go no contact.
Extremely insightful info! I’m so glad you mentioned the thing about doggie. While I do enjoy doggie, if a man is too large it definitely hurts more than any other position for me. Having your cervix pounded is not a tickle. I would always just bite my lip and get through it in those cases when I was younger. Now if it starts to hurt I tell him that he needs to not go as deep or we need to switch it up.
OP, a one sided sexual relationship is not sustainable. I know you care about her but dissatisfaction in the bedroom breeds resentment that spills into other parts of your life. It’s only been three months. It’s probably best to move on.
You're upset that a person you're sleeping with, but not dating, is texting someone else?
Shit or get off the pot. If you want exclusivity then ask for a monogamous relationship. Isn't the point of this arrangement that things aren't serious?
That is fair to tell him!!!
But remember, the fact that those people are staring and laughing is a reflection of how small minded they are, and you probably wouldn’t want to associate with them anyway. 🙂
If she had real feelings for you she would absolutely not be kissing someone else right in front of you, whether you are in a relationship or not unless she was trying to deliberately start drama. I would text her back and say you were hurt by her actions and can't be with someone who would treat you like that. It's up to you if you want to offer to stay friends, just bear in mind if you are friends you will probably see her with other guys so decide if that's something you can handle once the relationship idea is off the table.
If this is something she was willing to do right in front of you when you were working on taking the next step I wouldn't trust that this would change once you were her official bf and it would hurt much more once you are actually in a relationship as opposed to working up to one like you were this time.
I'm sorry you're going though this man. Armed forces has a high rate of divorce due to just this. Being gone for months on end can really stress a relationship out. Hell, even when I was traveling a every once in a while as a Network engineer bugged my then gf a bit.
As far as reasoning, just consider yourself being at home alone for months at a time. Your brain either starts longing or gets used to being alone. It's why people have kids in these situations – while not the best reason, kids do provide companionship or at least distraction.
It's very well possible she got lonely as well and found someone. Sure you don't want to hear this, but I'm sure you considered it.
It sounds like she's convinced herself that it's over and has mentally prepared herself for it. You stop pretending or attempting to be hospitable at that point. Emotionally, coming to terms with leaving someone requires a certain amount of emotional separation. You no longer say 'I love you' kiss, hold hands.. all these things brings you back, and you've decided to move forward.
Again, sorry man. Couple counseling and/or reminder when your term is finished is a good start. If her mind is set though, you're fighting an uphill battle.
Her not helping with chores. She started losing the weight a little before we started dating. I'd say that over the first 3 years, she lost about 40-50 lbs. Now, the weight she had lost is back. We do have our own health problems.
Insecure af man. Grow up. You should be done bc you clearly can’t handle being the only man your gf is around. Also talking for 5 years and dating for one? So much weirdness here.
If he wasn’t comfortable with it from the beginning he should have never dated her. This isn’t a new behavior, if anything she’s calmed down a lot since dating him
in his head, he makes compromise to accomodate your feelings. obviously he is wrong.
he is into you, and not as friend. So either, you give it a try or you explicitly tell him you are not into him and will never date him (but still accept him as a friend if he behave like one).
he would have regrets to not have try to date you. but if the point is set, he can probably stay as friend and look for another love interest after a period of grievance. or he can feel rejected and go away to not stay in your vicinity.
whatever the case, you want your common relation to change. giving him the talk will change it, for good or bad.
He was 36 and dated a 24 yr old.
Are you surprised that it goes deeper than that?
That they're skinny means nothing. You can be attracted to different kinds of girls. But their age, and considering your own, is a huge red flag.
Hahaha… yeah, most ultimate gorrrgeouuussss, rich as fuck with a twin sister…sounds great!?
I’ve certainly encountered more than a fair share of scammers. I’m pretty certain this prospect is not a scam; we have two mutual friends on Facebook, and while I haven’t seen them in quite some time, I actually do know them in real life.
So your husband feels entitled to a BJ whenever he wants, without reciprocity, whether you want to or not. And he doesn't give a shit how you feel about it. Go ahead, hurt his feelings. He clearly doesn't care about yours to act like you are a service work at his beck and call. Its not sexual to him? Bullshit, presumably he orgasms.
yeah it rules its own 3 inch kingdom
Fucking gross. I am 43 and the idea of being with someone 21 is vomit inducing. You are a garbage father, too, and I hope your daughter's new family treats her the way she deserves.
Okie, first, absolutely no shame in you having an emotional reaction to a deep n emotional situation …. That’s normal, and I’m an personally impressed you are emotionally intelligent enough to give yourself that.
Second, checking with yourself, is it possible that after showing vulnerability that you are feeling shame / guilt and projecting that on your partner?
It’s also really normal for men, who through no fault of their own, been trained by society, to feel shame for their feelings.
Third, and write this down first if needed, talk to your partner about this perceived rejection.
Two years and not wanna support ya loved one is rare …so I’m gonna assume she is just unsure how to best support you. Talk, use your words
She maybe trying her best to support you, but doesn’t know how.
What happens if you stay and down the track you have some form of illness/injury that prevents you from being able to keep up his “hotness” standards?
Did you read your own title? Or post?
Do that as if a friend of yours wrote it asking for advice
Do you think that it’s too soon to tell him I no longer think we should be friends? I just asked for NC yesterday.
So do you think I should text her tomorrow telling her to have a good day at her new job or just wait until/if she reaches back out? I left the ball in her court today so to speak
This is a tough one with no good completely great outcomes for everyone. No matter what, someone loses out.
I give your wife props because I’d have probably bailed on the relationship. You (inadvertently) lied about not having a kid. Now our kid isn’t your first born anymore and you’re going to France to spend time with your other family. Great. I’d totally be down for that /s
I think you should move and start fresh in a less toxic environment where it’s not going to be a big deal that her husband had a secret love child who lives with her. And so that the kid doesn’t have to pretend to be some stranger living with you, that’s absurd. But I get why she said it. She wanted her life to remain as it was and not be looked down on or pitied.
Oh so he love bombed you and ghosted but now you're craving his attention and affection? Well, either he's not interested or he'll reach back out in 2 weeks asking to meet up so he can feed you a morself of affection to keep the cycle going.
I've been through this on both ends. Just move on. It's not worth it.