If someone has lied to you and has broken the trust you had in them you should leave the relationship. You shouldn’t use it as a “burning of the reichstag” moment to start invading their privacy.
If you don’t trust someone you don’t trust them. Seeing their conversations or internet history isn’t going to rebuild the trust. It’s only going to either add more fuel to the fire if you find something bad or lead to more paranoia if you find nothing. You’ll be incentivized to dig deeper, not to turn around.
Don't read the emails. Delete them and block her email address. They won't help you. They were written for her benefit, not yours. I've written a bunch of letters addressed to my ex, but I'd never send them (I can't now, but that's not the point). They were entirely to get my pain out of my head, not for her to feel worse than she already does. It won't help my ex to see how she hurt me, and I don't want her to hurt anymore than when I dumped her. Nothing in those letters will make you feel better.
If it helps, in a weird fucked up way, if she really cared about you at all, she wouldn't want you to read them. Neither of you can heal if you keep the wounds open.
why so angry lmao? everything alright at home bud?
GIRL????
If someone has lied to you and has broken the trust you had in them you should leave the relationship. You shouldn’t use it as a “burning of the reichstag” moment to start invading their privacy.
If you don’t trust someone you don’t trust them. Seeing their conversations or internet history isn’t going to rebuild the trust. It’s only going to either add more fuel to the fire if you find something bad or lead to more paranoia if you find nothing. You’ll be incentivized to dig deeper, not to turn around.
I’m strongly leaning towards it. Now that the honeymoon stage has worn off, I’m starting to feel it in the pit of my stomach something is very off
Don't read the emails. Delete them and block her email address. They won't help you. They were written for her benefit, not yours. I've written a bunch of letters addressed to my ex, but I'd never send them (I can't now, but that's not the point). They were entirely to get my pain out of my head, not for her to feel worse than she already does. It won't help my ex to see how she hurt me, and I don't want her to hurt anymore than when I dumped her. Nothing in those letters will make you feel better.
If it helps, in a weird fucked up way, if she really cared about you at all, she wouldn't want you to read them. Neither of you can heal if you keep the wounds open.
I'm not sure that the country matters to the personal relationship advice request here, but yes it is Germany
Lol