a 4 month break and he couldn't avoid sticking his dick in crazy? is she making up lies about you or is she repeating stuff he told her about you? and how long were they seeing each other? maybe she's acting this way because it was a lot longer than you were led to believe and may have overlapped your relationship. this kind of reaction to a hookup is insane. you need to be careful, things like this can escalate and could put you in a dangerous situation. stay safe, I hope things settle down.
Thank you I needed that because I hadn’t really considered if I would resent it or not because I’m usually not someone who wants to hold resentment if I can help it but I may, especially if I keep having to foot the majority of the bill.
Personally, I'd feel more worried and concerned about making up being raped than about the cheating. She has let you think for many many years that she suffered a violent life-changing crime to avoid taking responsibility for a betrayal. Keeping cheating a secret is one bad thing, but this is next level.
It's totally understandable that you feel disconnected from her and upset. I hope you have a way to get some reflection and healing for yourself – I would very much recommend speaking to a professional, maybe some talking therapy, to help you process all this. Good luck!
You seem wildly insecure, unable to handle adult relationships, and please do stay broken up so this girl can be free of your toxicity.
Your reasons for suspicion are that she was friendly to someone, that she has pictures of herself, that she has a job, and she posed for a picture with a coworker at his birthday party.
Jesus, who lets these children start relationships smdh
If you guys were older, I would have probably have a different stance. I get from your writing that there’s a history and a relationship of substance somewhere there. I would of probably said something different if I sensed you were clearly being played or were extremely naive, out of concern. But you seem to know your worth, and are trying to be level-headed about the situation. At least if you do have to end things, you won’t walk away with regrets thinking you didn’t do what you could?
If it’s one thing that’s certain though. This girl is definitely trying to interfere with your relationship.
You’re trying to be reasonable and level-headed, but I don’t think anyone reading this post would blame you if you flipped your shit if that girl tried to pull the same thing again. Crawl into bed with the two of you while she’s drunk? Nah sis.
Many just want the perks that come with being a cop's wife, same goes for military.
Or potentially almost half of them are battered women who are too afraid to leave their violent husbands according to a self report survey taken from active duty police officers. What the fuck is this misogynistic take?
Starting to get now that I shouldn't have chosen to live with Polly, but I didn't know my girlfriend was uncomfortable with it until after we'd signed the contract.
I do know it. I’m a doctor. This is not a real risk worth worrying about. Could extreme levels of stress potentially damage a pregnancy? Yes. But women have been raped while pregnant, pregnant through natural disasters and genocides, and barring actual physical damage to the pregnancy things generally just keep right on trucking. She is not going to miscarry from a breakup.
My husband and I have three kids. We try to go away for at minimum a weekend without the kids every year. It gives us freedom to try things we can't with kids around. This seems to be the norm among couples we know.
And I know what you might be thinking, that perhaps it’s on me and I haven’t took care of myself after pregnancy and neglected my appearance, but that’s not the case at all. I got back to the weight I was at before giving birth very fast, I take care of myself and my how I look daily; hair done, nails done, dress nice.
The fact that this is where you went is glvery sad and telling. You do not need to marry this man.
And I’m honestly thinking that an open relationship where we’d both see other people for a while might drastically help us
She’s only going off from what she’s heard about it off social media (TikTok being the big one) she’s not actually tried it herself and yes I understand some of the rules of the diet are a little strange for example fruit beings syns if you mash it up but free if you don’t, but I never do that anyway. I’m just going off the fact that I’ve been really successful in the past with it and nothing else has helped the same way since. The going to the group part is extremely helpful to me and the support. If it works for me that’s all I care about really but yeah that’s a good idea cheers I just hope she doesn’t continue to put a downer on it even when I’m showing her that I’m succeeding.
Go ahead and end it. The reality is… if he wanted to do anything, whatever it is, he would do it without having to be told. It wont get any better. Itll only be harder to leave once youre married. End it now.
Well you’re in for an eventful Christmas.
a 4 month break and he couldn't avoid sticking his dick in crazy? is she making up lies about you or is she repeating stuff he told her about you? and how long were they seeing each other? maybe she's acting this way because it was a lot longer than you were led to believe and may have overlapped your relationship. this kind of reaction to a hookup is insane. you need to be careful, things like this can escalate and could put you in a dangerous situation. stay safe, I hope things settle down.
I love her and want things to work out
Thank you I needed that because I hadn’t really considered if I would resent it or not because I’m usually not someone who wants to hold resentment if I can help it but I may, especially if I keep having to foot the majority of the bill.
What are you even talking about? It seems you didn't read the post at all. Everything you wrote is irrelevant to OP's problem.
Personally, I'd feel more worried and concerned about making up being raped than about the cheating. She has let you think for many many years that she suffered a violent life-changing crime to avoid taking responsibility for a betrayal. Keeping cheating a secret is one bad thing, but this is next level.
It's totally understandable that you feel disconnected from her and upset. I hope you have a way to get some reflection and healing for yourself – I would very much recommend speaking to a professional, maybe some talking therapy, to help you process all this. Good luck!
Okey i understand thank you
Don’t give your time to someone who’s only going to put the effort in when you’re gone.
You get back together it’ll be nice for a little while and then he’ll slip back into his normal behavior.
Lol no? love how thats the focus & I can see why you say that. He's Dominican/American and not religious, I am muslim henche the differences.
You seem wildly insecure, unable to handle adult relationships, and please do stay broken up so this girl can be free of your toxicity.
Your reasons for suspicion are that she was friendly to someone, that she has pictures of herself, that she has a job, and she posed for a picture with a coworker at his birthday party.
Jesus, who lets these children start relationships smdh
He listened…
If you guys were older, I would have probably have a different stance. I get from your writing that there’s a history and a relationship of substance somewhere there. I would of probably said something different if I sensed you were clearly being played or were extremely naive, out of concern. But you seem to know your worth, and are trying to be level-headed about the situation. At least if you do have to end things, you won’t walk away with regrets thinking you didn’t do what you could?
If it’s one thing that’s certain though. This girl is definitely trying to interfere with your relationship.
You’re trying to be reasonable and level-headed, but I don’t think anyone reading this post would blame you if you flipped your shit if that girl tried to pull the same thing again. Crawl into bed with the two of you while she’s drunk? Nah sis.
You two are clearly not compatible. He cannot be around pets. You do not want to give up your pets. There isn’t a compromise.
Even if the salaries are higher in private practice, I'm sure those folks are paying sky-high amounts for malpractice insurance.
Many just want the perks that come with being a cop's wife, same goes for military.
Or potentially almost half of them are battered women who are too afraid to leave their violent husbands according to a self report survey taken from active duty police officers. What the fuck is this misogynistic take?
Starting to get now that I shouldn't have chosen to live with Polly, but I didn't know my girlfriend was uncomfortable with it until after we'd signed the contract.
Tell her no and leave her
I do know it. I’m a doctor. This is not a real risk worth worrying about. Could extreme levels of stress potentially damage a pregnancy? Yes. But women have been raped while pregnant, pregnant through natural disasters and genocides, and barring actual physical damage to the pregnancy things generally just keep right on trucking. She is not going to miscarry from a breakup.
My husband and I have three kids. We try to go away for at minimum a weekend without the kids every year. It gives us freedom to try things we can't with kids around. This seems to be the norm among couples we know.
You aren't even in a relationship why do you allow this level of toxicity ?
And I know what you might be thinking, that perhaps it’s on me and I haven’t took care of myself after pregnancy and neglected my appearance, but that’s not the case at all. I got back to the weight I was at before giving birth very fast, I take care of myself and my how I look daily; hair done, nails done, dress nice.
The fact that this is where you went is glvery sad and telling. You do not need to marry this man.
And I’m honestly thinking that an open relationship where we’d both see other people for a while might drastically help us
That will not help in any way.
You focus on your happy marriage.
You can’t change the past but you can change the future.
Time to also work on migrating to different friends not connected to her.
Thank you, I’ll try!
She’s only going off from what she’s heard about it off social media (TikTok being the big one) she’s not actually tried it herself and yes I understand some of the rules of the diet are a little strange for example fruit beings syns if you mash it up but free if you don’t, but I never do that anyway. I’m just going off the fact that I’ve been really successful in the past with it and nothing else has helped the same way since. The going to the group part is extremely helpful to me and the support. If it works for me that’s all I care about really but yeah that’s a good idea cheers I just hope she doesn’t continue to put a downer on it even when I’m showing her that I’m succeeding.
Well, if anything's possible, maybe he can get good at taking a dildo down his throat, and then give you any pointers he picks up while practicing…
What? He doesn't want to do that? But he doesn't care that you don't want to do that either? Hmm.
Go ahead and end it. The reality is… if he wanted to do anything, whatever it is, he would do it without having to be told. It wont get any better. Itll only be harder to leave once youre married. End it now.