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hard [Multi Goal]
Date: November 15, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
hard [Multi Goal]
Honestly, you come across as though she owes you sex which isn't the case (because nobody owes sex to anyone as general statement). She told you she was asexual (which is a valid sexuality) at the start of the relationship and she obviously feels like she has to keep doing stuff with you to keep you, because she loves you. Asexuality doesn't need to be fixed. It might be important to have a conversation about what is important in your relationship, you are both so young and breaking up while not the greatest feeling in the world at first might be better in the long run and help you both to grow into healthier relationships.
I get it…I love taking care of the people in my life. But you have to find a way to be ok with respecting her autonomy. You can’t put your wants (to protect and care for her) above her need to handle things on her own right now.
You can become a person she feels safe leaning on by managing your emotions regarding her independence on your own. Don’t burden her with that. Let her learn to navigate difficulties and you learn to manage the emotions that arise from from watching her doing that.
Also, you seem pretty hung up on gender rules. I’m really sorry the people in your life taught you that it’s not ok for men to feel or express emotions. This is not true. If someone looks down on you for showing normal human emotions you should understand that that’s not your problem that’s just a reflection of their hangups.
These couple of sentences represent work that’s taken me a long time to do and I’m still breathing so I know there’s more work to do. This stuff is hot. But it’s worthwhile and I’m proud of you for being willing to try.
That’s rape. Get tested asap and again in a few weeks.
You were assaulted. There’s lots of good reasons to report it. There’s no one answer for people dealing with this situation. It’s important that you don’t take on responsibility or guilt for what happened to you. It wasn’t your fault. You should have been safe in this situation. I lean towards telling your girlfriend. You did nothing wrong. Hiding it causes you to feel shame which is a useless, painful emotion. If your girlfriend isn’t loving and supportive in this situation, is she really the one for you? If you try to bury it, there’s always a chance that she finds out and the fact that you hid it makes it seem like you did something wrong. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! Also, if this happened to your girlfriend, wouldn’t you want to know and be supportive of her?
She's playing games, probably trying to make you the bad guy because she is either looking to get out of the relationship or because she's already checked out of it. Might be time to start taking stock of the whole situation and planning an exit, sounds like she already has.
it sounds like you may have to reevaluate your relationship with your family. That takes time and a lot of consideration. Do what makes you happiest in the short term.