What the fuck are you thinking? Stop this shit and go home. Close it up with this new girl or you’re going to burn your gf really bad. Cheating is abuse and it does cause trauma and fucks up peoples trust and self esteem to the point of needing therapy. You need to set clear boundaries if you want to have a friendship with this other girl in the future but it’s incredibly unfair to do this to your long term partner whom you have a whole life with. She didn’t do anything to deserve having to have her life uprooted. Use your fucking brain not your dick.
Be honest with her about it. Also you have a child to think about now too. If she gets pregnant again, how if she going to treat your child? Is she going to scream at you in front of them?
No, you are not. But he definitely is. It's unreasonable to demand living with them when you can live right next to them. I have a feeling there's something more to this and everything he says is an excuse. It's not any different when you would be in a bigger house. I don't know why but that's how I see it. For me personally it would be a hill to die on, I also need my place I can feel comfortable in and do whatever I want.
Your ex handled this perfectly. There's nothing wrong with having a high or low sex drive. Just be honest at the beginning of the relationship so incompatible people don't waste time thinking the other person is going to come around.
If asexual people would just date each other it would solve a lot of problems for both high and low libido people.
Lasty OP. If you are comfortable with who you are don't change for your partner or some potential future partner. Find another asexual and be happy not having sex with each other.
I'd honestly be prepared to let this go. I had a partner when I was 18/19, he went to college the weekend before I did and he dumped me 48 hours after he got there. And we had no real issues. He just went all in and wanted to start that life.
College does this weird thing where you create your existence there, and have your second life from where you were from pre college. It's like two worlds colliding.
She's going to be around this dude a lot, college is tempting because you practically all live together and it sounds to me she's creating that bond. Try to talk to her, let her know it's making you uncomfortable, but I really don't see this going any different unless something happens between her and that guy that makes them break up,she'll then probably come back to you and say she messed up and was just really excited to be away at college and an adult
Girl I didn’t even read the post, just the title. Get out of there
OP on r/relationship_advice tomorrow:
Help, I failed my girlfriends test!
What the fuck are you thinking? Stop this shit and go home. Close it up with this new girl or you’re going to burn your gf really bad. Cheating is abuse and it does cause trauma and fucks up peoples trust and self esteem to the point of needing therapy. You need to set clear boundaries if you want to have a friendship with this other girl in the future but it’s incredibly unfair to do this to your long term partner whom you have a whole life with. She didn’t do anything to deserve having to have her life uprooted. Use your fucking brain not your dick.
wow, well, I hope it works out for both of you. apparently you just didn't feel like it was right for you, which is the time to move on.
i have no respect for myself anymore sadly
Well, you can change that now by staying away from him. It will be painful, but good things come to those who are willing to sacrifice
Be honest with her about it. Also you have a child to think about now too. If she gets pregnant again, how if she going to treat your child? Is she going to scream at you in front of them?
No, you are not. But he definitely is. It's unreasonable to demand living with them when you can live right next to them. I have a feeling there's something more to this and everything he says is an excuse. It's not any different when you would be in a bigger house. I don't know why but that's how I see it. For me personally it would be a hill to die on, I also need my place I can feel comfortable in and do whatever I want.
Your ex handled this perfectly. There's nothing wrong with having a high or low sex drive. Just be honest at the beginning of the relationship so incompatible people don't waste time thinking the other person is going to come around.
If asexual people would just date each other it would solve a lot of problems for both high and low libido people.
Lasty OP. If you are comfortable with who you are don't change for your partner or some potential future partner. Find another asexual and be happy not having sex with each other.
I'd honestly be prepared to let this go. I had a partner when I was 18/19, he went to college the weekend before I did and he dumped me 48 hours after he got there. And we had no real issues. He just went all in and wanted to start that life.
College does this weird thing where you create your existence there, and have your second life from where you were from pre college. It's like two worlds colliding.
She's going to be around this dude a lot, college is tempting because you practically all live together and it sounds to me she's creating that bond. Try to talk to her, let her know it's making you uncomfortable, but I really don't see this going any different unless something happens between her and that guy that makes them break up,she'll then probably come back to you and say she messed up and was just really excited to be away at college and an adult