Lol good luck. You started dating your best friends sister, that’s like a universally acknowledged bad move without a prior conversation.
I’d be pissy if one of my friends started dating my sister, it’s a line you don’t cross. The whole dynamic of your friendship is bound to change once you started dating their sibling, it’s just weird. I’m betting he feels like you went behind his back to hook up with his sister and feels used and disrespected.
Could you and his sister last and be together long term? Possibly. Could you break up and torch whatever relationship you have with both of them along the way? Also a possibility.
Dating your friends sibling is risky, and a lot of people aren’t cool with it. You took a risk, and made a choice that your budding romantic relationship with her was more important than your 10 year long best friend relationship with him. He might come around, he might not. You have to accept that you can’t control his reaction to this.
How insulting. “Hey honey, after 3 years of marriage, I'd like to date and have sex with someone else because I wanna date and fuck around and being married, I can't really do that”
How I read it at least.
Get a lawyer, give her those divorce papers. It doesn't seem like this is a healthy situation for the marriage and you deserve someone who is going to listen and respect your views on the topic and not date other men
Talk to him about the future and what you both want. Include marriage in that discussion – and kids, etc, as well, because it doesn't sound like you've had a lot of these conversations. You're about to get a house together, which is arguably more binding than a marriage contract anyway, so it's pretty essential to get this laid out before that happens.
Think twice before kicking out a loyal best friend you can tolerate living with for a girl who won't even be exclusive with you and could be crazy train as a roommate.
Thanks for the advice, this is totally in line with what my rational side is thinking, but somehow i can't put my emotions on hold (who can? :D). And in my communication I of course try to convey the message that i will do my best to help her or be there for her if she wants it. And yes i am overthinking all of this far more than necessary, but that is simply a part of me. Guess i just have to accept that and “suck it up”, i am just not good at that. But I'll try to take your last comment to heart and act like it.
Lol good luck. You started dating your best friends sister, that’s like a universally acknowledged bad move without a prior conversation.
I’d be pissy if one of my friends started dating my sister, it’s a line you don’t cross. The whole dynamic of your friendship is bound to change once you started dating their sibling, it’s just weird. I’m betting he feels like you went behind his back to hook up with his sister and feels used and disrespected.
Could you and his sister last and be together long term? Possibly. Could you break up and torch whatever relationship you have with both of them along the way? Also a possibility.
Dating your friends sibling is risky, and a lot of people aren’t cool with it. You took a risk, and made a choice that your budding romantic relationship with her was more important than your 10 year long best friend relationship with him. He might come around, he might not. You have to accept that you can’t control his reaction to this.
Assuming you aren't willing to go the 'open relationship' route, walk away and don't look back. Trying to stay is a recipe for prolonged heartbreak.
How insulting. “Hey honey, after 3 years of marriage, I'd like to date and have sex with someone else because I wanna date and fuck around and being married, I can't really do that”
How I read it at least.
Get a lawyer, give her those divorce papers. It doesn't seem like this is a healthy situation for the marriage and you deserve someone who is going to listen and respect your views on the topic and not date other men
Talk to him about the future and what you both want. Include marriage in that discussion – and kids, etc, as well, because it doesn't sound like you've had a lot of these conversations. You're about to get a house together, which is arguably more binding than a marriage contract anyway, so it's pretty essential to get this laid out before that happens.
Honey, you have your explanation. He’s a cheater. That’s all that you need to know. It’s not about you. Move on and find someone who is all in on you.
Think twice before kicking out a loyal best friend you can tolerate living with for a girl who won't even be exclusive with you and could be crazy train as a roommate.
Thanks for the advice, this is totally in line with what my rational side is thinking, but somehow i can't put my emotions on hold (who can? :D). And in my communication I of course try to convey the message that i will do my best to help her or be there for her if she wants it. And yes i am overthinking all of this far more than necessary, but that is simply a part of me. Guess i just have to accept that and “suck it up”, i am just not good at that. But I'll try to take your last comment to heart and act like it.
Abusive people don’t pick you, and you don’t pick them.
But abusive people will stay in your life for as long as you let them.
Move your finances to new accounts. Tell the bank your account numbers have been compromised.