that then makes the pregnancy way more expensive and has way lower success rates from what I have heard. I am not saying I wouldn’t consider it but there are various reasons I think it’s a bad idea considering we both might want kids later on and would enjoy not paying exorbitant fees just to conceive them.
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I can't move out (lease stuff). Plus for some reason your first comment showed up different the first time. I can try to sit her down again, but lay down more firm boundaries this time with the we're not a thing talk.
Im all for teaching children how to lose, but you also have to help them succeed, and build their confidence. 9/10 I will win against my kids, but I make sure that they win every now and then, and at least say things like 'oh no! I messed up that move. Now if you do xyz you will win! Argh! I'm so silly!'
And then they get to the point where they legitimately beat you, you have a little cry because they grow up way too quick, and then focus on the pride you feel because they have grown up and become even more amazing than they already were.
So I'd say your wife is throwing the games because you crush his self esteem and play to win instead of to teach or for fun.
your idea that your kid not having your name will mean a judge will assume you're not involved is absolute horseshit.
I'm not even trying to be rude, but are you a lawyer? My lawyer, who naturally deals with this stuff on a day to day basis gave me advice on this. I came here because I really don't want to have to go through court for this as there will most likely be future court cases that will need a lot more attention.
It's your wedding day, hopefully the only one you get.
You need to speak up ASAP, contract is signed so I'm not sure how it will go, but speak to your partner please. Upfront and honesty goes a long way in a marriage, start now.
So your girlfriend just assumed, without question that you were ok with financing her and her friends drinks? Like it's one thing if there was an “understanding” between you two- if you had a history of “it's on me” but it doesn't sound like the case here.
Did she have your contact saved as “free food,” too?
Regardless of whatever tf possessed her to outright steal from you, she blatantly violated your boundaries here without so much as a discussion or an apology. If it's so easy for You to pay for her friends drinks, why is it naked for her? Is she advertising you as some kind of sugar daddy? Either way she's painting you a shmuck.
If it were me, I'd dump her and take her to small claims. The audacity and disrespect is a nude no.
I know it sucks now, but I honestly think you'll be fine once you get some distance from this. Feel better soon
that then makes the pregnancy way more expensive and has way lower success rates from what I have heard. I am not saying I wouldn’t consider it but there are various reasons I think it’s a bad idea considering we both might want kids later on and would enjoy not paying exorbitant fees just to conceive them.
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I can't move out (lease stuff). Plus for some reason your first comment showed up different the first time. I can try to sit her down again, but lay down more firm boundaries this time with the we're not a thing talk.
So you’ve told him to stop. He ignores you.
What do you think that says about what he thinks of you?
He doesn’t give a shit what you think. He finds himself immensely funny so he’s just going to carry on. He’s an 11 year old in a man’s body.
You’ve only been dating a nanosecond. Why don’t you just walk away instead of getting wound up over this idiot.
Im all for teaching children how to lose, but you also have to help them succeed, and build their confidence. 9/10 I will win against my kids, but I make sure that they win every now and then, and at least say things like 'oh no! I messed up that move. Now if you do xyz you will win! Argh! I'm so silly!'
And then they get to the point where they legitimately beat you, you have a little cry because they grow up way too quick, and then focus on the pride you feel because they have grown up and become even more amazing than they already were.
So I'd say your wife is throwing the games because you crush his self esteem and play to win instead of to teach or for fun.
Dang, already deleted. The hallmark of the OP who just wanted selfish validation, not reality.
Now that you mention UBER he has UBERed home a few times. Idk why he didn’t the other times.
No offense taken, I need to hear the reality so thanks for that!
your idea that your kid not having your name will mean a judge will assume you're not involved is absolute horseshit.
I'm not even trying to be rude, but are you a lawyer? My lawyer, who naturally deals with this stuff on a day to day basis gave me advice on this. I came here because I really don't want to have to go through court for this as there will most likely be future court cases that will need a lot more attention.
It's your wedding day, hopefully the only one you get.
You need to speak up ASAP, contract is signed so I'm not sure how it will go, but speak to your partner please. Upfront and honesty goes a long way in a marriage, start now.
So your girlfriend just assumed, without question that you were ok with financing her and her friends drinks? Like it's one thing if there was an “understanding” between you two- if you had a history of “it's on me” but it doesn't sound like the case here.
Did she have your contact saved as “free food,” too?
Regardless of whatever tf possessed her to outright steal from you, she blatantly violated your boundaries here without so much as a discussion or an apology. If it's so easy for You to pay for her friends drinks, why is it naked for her? Is she advertising you as some kind of sugar daddy? Either way she's painting you a shmuck.
If it were me, I'd dump her and take her to small claims. The audacity and disrespect is a nude no.