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Hello guys! im new here abd looking around! support me pls [199 tokens remaining]
Date: October 25, 2022
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Hello guys! im new here abd looking around! support me pls [199 tokens remaining]
Somebody vehemently denying any foul play when they are implied by others to partake in such isn't a red flag, it's a natural behavior for someone who isn't guilty. There's actual science behind it. I don't get how people keep misunderstanding this.
Omg… what do you not understand? Little talks about marriage were fine and I thought we were on the same page of waiting a few years. He went behind my back to get a ring, and then got down on one knee in a huge proposal. I said no, and I will continue to say no. I never lead him on, I always said I wanted to wait.
So there are a lot of explanations.
He might have given you the wrong number accidentally. He might have given you the wrong number on purose (unlikely). You might have made a mistake typing the number. He might have turned of his phone already at that time. He might have put the phone aside, was busy at that time. He saw the text and wanted to reply but was busy at the time and forgot. He saw the text but did not feel the need to reply at that moment.
There might be a lot more explanations. However there is one person on this eart and one person only that can tell you why he did not reply and its not a random stranger on reddit.
That is not something you can control anyway. You'll have to take eggs for your money and hope for the best. But continueing this relationship definitely isn't going to help you either.
Work on your pull out game.
I honestly considered it. I don’t think he understands how much I care about that dog now ??
He got so many red flags. 1 not listening to your feelings 2 not actually spending time with you 3 breaking promises. Tbh throw this guy out cuz you deserve better.
You could tell him hey I feel x when y is done. I want to not be on our phones when we're together. Something like that but tbh this guy don't sound mature or seems to care enough
I honestly doubt they will end if she's upset that I like her friend, I wouldn't betray her like that and date her friend without her involved
If you have both said that you see this relationship lasting long term, then have a sit down with him to discuss your feelings.
Tell him you have concerns with how their dynamic is going impact your future together. What is he going to do when the two of you are living together and she has a crisis that only he can fix? What is he going to do when the two of you are married and she has a crisis that only he can fix? What is he going to do when the two of you have kids (?) and she has a crisis that only he can fix? Is he going to go running to her each and every time?
Acknowledge, that you find it a good quality that he is there for his friends, but let him know it is concerning that, this friend in particular, can’t seem to navigate a crisis without him. That you have a hot time seeing how this type of dynamic won’t harm your relationship in the long run.
I would also make it very clear you aren’t jealous of her or their friendship, but are worried that there is some codependency issues between them that has you questioning your future together. If you both see each other as possibly being “the one”, then your needs and wants can’t be put on the back burner every time this friend has a problem.
If he starts getting defensive, then maybe point out that there is one consistent theme in his relationships not working out…and it isn’t him…it’s her.
Good luck!
Let it go and move on. This person is at best unbalanced and at worst manipulative and evil. You don’t need that drama in your life. You’re missing the person you thought she was, not who she really is.
Well, yeah, her kids have to come first and if they don't that's how you know you're dealing with a bad person. She never should have agreed to this because of course when you're coparenting your coparent gets to dictate where the kids live! and whom they're exposed to. It's unclear whether this guy knows you well and is just vindictive or whether the proper groundwork hasn't been laid for her to have a serious relationship. Unfortunately when you date a single parent you have to be involved with their ex. All the amenities you offer will mean nothing if the means the kids get dragged through (yet another) ugly custody battle. Ideally you wouldn't be living with these kids until you're married to their mother. So if she's worth the drama (that is absolutely always present in these kinds of situations) bide your time. Get to know this coparent and convince him you're safe to be around his kids. Moving in together is a huge step even if there aren't children and an ex involved. It doesn't sound like you've gotten the gravity of this through your head yet. Someone who shares kids with an ex simply doesn't have the freedom to just move in with somebody after only a year of dating.